If you seriously can't stand somebody (and they can't stand you) and you are being forced to meet up and told to get along for the sake of others. How do you deal with it. I go out with her stepson, who she also hates.
I usually try humour, trying to find common ground or talking about inane subjects (like the weather) but so far these have all crashed and burned and my current plan is to avoid her like the plague.. but everybody else keeps arragging things and inviting us both. Any idea how I can stop myself from making a big scene.
Bear in mind the person concerned is insulting, always right, knows everything and everything about her and her family is better. Example I am a size six, her daughter is a size eight because her daughter eats nothing but salads she is thinner... (not true, I don't eat salads as size six is way too small and I would like to put on some weight)
Any idea or if you had a simerlar issues please answer!!
2006-08-02 23:18:16 · 17 answers · asked by Char Black 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
its her so far more tricky!!
2006-08-02 23:24:05 · update #1
Have a similar thing with one of my family members.
I don't go to all the events planned by my family, I make a point in rejecting about 1/3 unless I know specifically that he's not going to be there, when I will always go no matter what a pain in the butt it is to get there.
When we do meet, I'm distant and formal (I have tried over several years to breach the gap, but some people you just can't get on with). I don't initiate conversation and try to distance myself from him at any party or occasion, by physically staying away from where he is and away from areas he is likely to have to go past (no good having a table by the entrance to the toilets or on the path to the toilets if you are trying avoid people).
I have never said a bad word against this person in the several years that this has been going on and as such I am still in good standing with my friends and family as he has done a lot of bad mouthing about me. Now I get invited to a lot more family events than he does as people know we don't get on and I'm not unpleasant about it.
Hope his helps
2006-08-02 23:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by break 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try as best you can to avoid getting into any conversation with her. Small talk if necessary but nothing deeper.
If however, she does start to insult you, or correct you, go with her. Let her be right. It sounds childish, but when she realises you won't fight her, she will stop. She will be going out of her way to make you uphappy, but you; you will just be casually moving past. You're not interested in what she has to say and she is the one being slightly pathetic as she must make you feel like this.
Good luck
2006-08-04 09:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by Joshurawr™ is SAFE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to be in the same place at the same time avoid her go to the other side of the yard don't say any thing to her if she starts in with you make sure you walk away i takes a better person to turn the other chick you don't have to put your self through that as you know if you pray to God for your problem he will help God bless you
2006-08-03 06:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ignore her, always be polite and NEVER take the bait when remarks are made, by turning the other cheek you will be raising yourself above her and she will be spitting nails if you dont bite on her barbs, a lot of fun to see someone deliberately trying to wind you up and failing miserably
2006-08-03 06:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Terry M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally ignore or refuse to be in the same room as the family member/work colleague you can NOT stand.
I have NOT spoken to my cousin in 14 years, and have NOT been in the same room as her for 8 years. My immediate family know why I don't like her/have fallen out with her.
2006-08-03 06:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by k 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, oh i have this problem all the time with my boyfriends mum, she gets on my nerves to, She is so loud and she does anything to spite me or to get on my nerves. The only thing is she doesnt care about my feelings and trys to hurt me the best way she can. She one of these people that they can say what they like to others but hate when people stand up to them. She always used to tell me i was fat, then if she saw me she deliberatly say i look better now coz i have lost some weight, when i hadnt. Also she even admitted that she hated me when she first met me and she thought i was a stuck up, selfish contolling cow. When i hardly even speak to her, How am i controlling and selfish when she threw her boyfriend out for having a pint afterwork coz they spilt up that mornig and he never invited her out for one, and then she can go out with her mates and he cant even have one pint on his own. Also if my boyfriend never did what she told him to do, she use to say he was ruining her life and he was being selfish. Cant they just leave us alone and go to a different plant. The thing is to just ignore her and get on with your own buisness, it will only make you ill if you worry about it, it made me ill coz of the things she was saying and stuff. but now i just get on with it. Me and my boyfried aare getting married nxt year so, Im going to have to get on with her. Wish me luck.
2006-08-03 06:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her. Don't get involved in conversations with her, and dont comment on things she is saying.
Completely ignore her and talk to someone else.
2006-08-03 06:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience creates confidence,decisiveness and a rational outlook,which eventually leads to success.
2006-08-03 06:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tune them out and don't pay any attention to what they say. It goes in one ear and out the other and I count down the minutes until they leave.
2006-08-03 06:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally ignore them, i have to do it to the most annoying person i've ever met and i work with him, he eventually gets the point!!!!
2006-08-03 06:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by little.lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋