My bf and I have been dating for 6 yrs, I want to get married and it seems like he doesn't, although he says her knows we are gonna end up together. There are days when he talks about how great it would be to be married, spend the nights together, and be a couple without worrying what people think. And then there are days where he avoids all topics regarding marriage, he won't look at commericials of jewelry, he will change the channel if shows regarding weddings comes on or shows that have married couples in it, and he will act like we barely started dating....by this I mean he will say things like "oh we are so young," "we are barely at the tip of the iceberg," "we still need to get to know each other better" and my all time favorite one "we need to be sure we are ready" ...does he want to marry me or not?
2006-08-02 23:16:10 · 13 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 25 and he is 27.
2006-08-02 23:20:54 · update #1
leave that confused dude alone...life is too short to wait
2006-08-02 23:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by sssoulchild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is clearly showing you that he is very far from being ready to marry. If you love him, you need to accept it. He probably feels pressured by it all that's why he avoids it. How old are you guys?
I think you both are still very young don't you think? Gusy nowadays marry at the age of 30 and above. He probably sees his friends being still single. 27 for a man is still very very young to think about marriage. I mean what is the rush? Do you really think that a ring is going to change anything? If he is commited to you and he loves you and he isn't thinking about going anywhere, then I would just enjoy him and his company and your life next to him without worrying too much if he will sign wedding papers or not because nowadays that does not mean anymore much. I would just leave it for now. Start live your life again, contact your friends, go shopping, go travelling and you will see. I think you are smothering him and he feels it. I had an ex-boyfriend who wanted to marry me but I was not ready at all. but instead of just leaving me to do my thing until I was ready, he pushed it too hard, I felt too smothered by it all.
2006-08-03 06:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have being with my partner for 4 years. I went through this frustration about 6 months ago and I got fed up with his unusual behaviour. I sat him down, no distractions, and talked! We came to the agreement that he just wasn't ready, that's why he was inconsistant with his answers (as your partner is) and it's ok, it's normal. Sometimes a guy does feel 'we'll get married' or 'I'm too young'. When a partner changes their feelings about these things (like yours and mine is/was) it's best to wait for him to be ready. If you pressure him, you may just make it seem like a bad topic. In the meantime, just show him what he has to look forward to! I made my partner breaky in bed this morning. He loved it. Make sure he's treating you well etc. Cos you want to be happy too. I hope this works out! :D
2006-08-03 06:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by montanasamra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see. He talks about it but ignores it later on. Perhaps he is tired of the continually talking about marriage, surely he fears something may happened,You gotta make him feel at ease, he maybe fears getting married and end up divorced. Maybe someone is pressuring him, could it be you? friends?family? even himself. I don't want to think he may have someone, but its a possibility.Now the wedding commercials, don't think its appealing to men,but you probably tell him too much about it, let him get his peace for a while, and see if Therese any results. tell him you love him and only want whats best for them. acknowledge defeat but don't loose it. This is only if you two truly love each another.Play it cool girl, see his moves.
2006-08-03 06:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Wisdom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After knowing you for 6 years he's still dragging his feet. With those comments and excuses he makes, he has no intention of getting married. If you want to get married, don't look for him to be the one marching down the aisle with.
2006-08-03 06:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might want to marry you but I also thing that he might be decieving you. I will advice you to really take your time and ask him whether he realy wish to marry you or he is just joking. If he says something important good but if you does'nt say anything important then forget about it. Don't put your trust in it any more.
2006-08-03 06:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he does but i think he is scared a little about it, but also you need to check if his friends are winding him up about it, because that can cause problems. What i suggest is that you ask him to marry you it is very romantic when i women ask's
2006-08-03 06:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by scarlet pimpernell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not ready because his eyes are elsewhere...........6 years you should done have a ring and be doing the marriage thing......technically by law you are already married in states
2006-08-03 06:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Brandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's abevious from your speech that ur bf won't marry u.
that's why he promised and go back on .let him. you will know after that he want u or not?
2006-08-03 06:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by jomana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think be dont want to get marreid to u . check if their is any other girl in his life. and tell me did u sleep with him. if yes then forget it. he wil never marry
2006-08-03 06:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by jaishankar4202002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋