I let my son go hang out up the street w/friends, finally, but I cannot break my fear of what could happen to them "out there". Especially with my daughter, she rarely goes to a friends house, & never walks anywhere. I know I need to let go a little--soon. They ask to go to the movies w/friends- to get dropped off & picked up. ..
Someone help! Are my kids still little & better off when I know their safe? Or do I need to "cut the umbilical cord"?
2006-08-02 22:54:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You have every right to be afraid of the world "out there". You can't hang on too tight, becaues they'll just rebell in the end, but by no means let them run free. I would tell them that they can start going to the movies bythemselves when they enter highschool (around 14 years old ) Anything before that is too risky. Who knows what kind of pervs could be hanging out in a dark movie theatre.
2006-08-02 23:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite normal to feel this way. Yet you can not let it get in the way of letting them learn a little independence. Every child is different and mature at different level. Let your mother instinct guide you as to how far to let that umbilical cord stretch. Because it will never cut. For as long as life guarantees it. Even as adults that cord is still there, but by this time, it's more stretched out, so to speak.
2006-08-03 06:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At their tender young ages, they need that cord. Just let it be long enough for them to burn their toes on the hot water, but not their butts. You are right to be afraid/nervous, but you are right that you have to start letting go. They will do a lot of growing over the next years, that doesn't mean you have to let them go crazy now just because they will eventually be on their own. Being protective is good, don't let anyone tell you it's not. Just don't keep them from learning about life safely. Take care and good luck.
2006-08-03 08:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 and 13, an adult needs to be present at all transport. Other than that, they can watch the movie alone....
At 12, your daughter is perfect for exactly what you are afraid of. She is too vulnerable. Ditto the boy, he is cub scout cute... You are not paranoid, as long as they are in a group big enough to be a gaggle, they are OK to go. Otherwise, an adult is still needed to fend off the wolves.
Way to go Mama, you are doing an excellent job. Blessings.
2006-08-03 06:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Need To Cut The Umbilical Cord! lol!!! Give them a cell phone so when they're places with their friends you can call and make sure they are ok!!! Good luck!
2006-08-07 03:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by brookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go a bit. Trust them and only ask that they be trustworthy in return. Tell them that you need to know where they are and who they are with. Be honest with them and don't judge them and they will do the same to you. Remember that the biggest reason kids lie is because they think their parents won't understand. You don't have to say yes all the time but be reasonable. Remember what you were like at their age, it's important for them to go through those things.
2006-08-03 06:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to cut the cord. But only let them do things appropriate for their age. Dropping them off at the movies lets you have some control still, be forewarned it gets worse. But you have to let them make their own mistakes, as hard as it is. That's how they learn,..you can't teach them everything.
2006-08-03 08:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the streets a dangerous place for a 13 year old kid they might get in to smokeing or drugs so what i would do is i will only let the kids go to his freinds house or they can come over ask them if they done drugs are someting like that
2006-08-03 17:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by hockey pro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them go and get their thrust if they are fine let go a little but u have to have some control and dont be to soft but u have to let go a little bit but nt to much cuz your kids are still young im 15 years old and if my dad didnt have some control over my life i wouldnt be nice decent virgin girl that i am today but dont keep your kids so loked up cuz they will eventually want to break out from u
2006-08-03 11:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
growing up with several friends, i can say that "sheltered" kids often come out the most messed up. i wasnt sheltered really and me and my sister came out just fine. we both ended up going to very good schools and have made very wise choices in friends and who we associate ourselves with. the children that were "sheltered" though had so much temptation to do things they were curious about (such as drugs, sex, etc.) that they ended up trying it. if your not sheltered, you see other people who do that sort of stuff and with guidance make the decision to not follow the same path. let your kids see real life and help them make decisions. dont just hold them back from everything. it is important for their development
2006-08-03 06:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by BEEFSHIELD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋