i have been in relation with a girl for the last 2 years. when i saw her first time i thought what a figure,i just want to make sexually relation with her,i proposed her,she said ya. but after that i saw her strong feling towards me i started to luv her. my problem is:now i am so much emotionally attched with her,i can't live without even her phonecall per day.i can't live without her,she is so attched to me that she can't emagine her life without me. but problemm is:she is not my dream girl,i can't enjoy SEX WITH HER she is not so beautiful i am very good looking, i take normally her attendance but if i can not see her for a week i become so nervouse.but i think can i live with her for a lifetime?i can't see her in a sorrow.she is so much commited to me.in short i can't leave her,she is closet to my heart,and i think i can not live with her in future.i have told her that it may be possible that our relation may not end with marriage even though she does not leave me.am i stupid?
2006-08-02 22:43:42 · 4 answers · asked by mrugank_sap 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes. You're very stupid. You wanted her for sex, now are incredibly attracted to her emotionally, but want to get rid of her because she's not your dream girl? Yep, a moron.
2006-08-02 22:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So because she isnt your "dream girl" your not sexually attracted to her but yet you love her and cant live without her? Who here has ever married thier Dream person? I personally think your condridicting yourself there dude. You said and I quote "when i saw her first time i thought what a figure,i just want to make sexually relation with her" am I to assume your no longer attracted to her becuase her figure is now not what you desire? This is what I get when I read that. How is that right? And you dont think you can spend the rest of your life with her because your better looking then her? Dude 1 word for ya CONSEATED!! Newsflash: Julia Roberts MARRIED Lyle Lovette!! The love that you have for her should be WAY more important to you then her outter looks!! If you do not desire to be with her then you should be the one to leave (tho I think she should leave you) it isnt fair to her. It isnt fair for her to love you and all you care about is her outter looks. Looks are not as important as love, commitment, honesty, kindness, sense of humor. I think that you need to get your prioritys straight. Looks cant be there for you when your feeling down. Looks cant be there for you to make you laugh. Looks cant do any of the things that someone who loves you more then life can do. Can they? Yes I think your ARE stupid! If someone loves you that much and you love her that much then looks shouldnt even be such important factor. But if they are then dont hurt her anymore then you should. She deserves much better then that. Dont keep her around if u cant live without but you also cant marry her cause your better looking then she is. Good luck and I hope you get your propritys straight for her own good and yours!
2006-08-03 06:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by dmestle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You confessed that you can't live without this lady yet you sound as if she has hypnotized you. The truth is that you love her but your psychology is being disturbed because you feel she is not up to your 'standard'. Avoid a costly mistake please. What is your standard if not happiness? You relegated everything to sex level and therefore believes she can't be that useful except she can perform. What gives you the impression that you are not the one who is inadequate?
Don't mortgage your happiness and future. See something good in this lady and leave standard or what your friends will say. A word is enough ......
2006-08-03 06:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you're not mature enough to be going into a relationship with her.
You said it: "she is not my dream girl."
Why would you settle for anything less? Lust is NOT love. It's not about how beautiful or ugly either one of you are. Get off your high horse and realize that love doesn't consist of scales or make-up. If you both are adults about to be married FOREVER, then you are both mature enough to understand what your feelings really are.
The best advice I can give is to communicate with her. How does she feel? She may be commited to you, but how? As a friend? As a lover? As a spouse?
Be honest to yourself. If you don't want to marry this woman, don't. Don't ruin both your lives but of lust.
2006-08-03 05:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋