I've been dating this guy for about 4 months now, and I really like him a lot. We seem to be in-line ideologically in about every respect, alike/complimentary in so many ways, and the chemistry/sex is unbelievable. We talk about everything and he is a great listener and wants to know all about my life... It's to the point where I would really like to be in a serious relationship with him (though I usually don't like to be exclusive) just because I think he is incredible and that we are incredible together. So--here's the problem: he doesn't want to be exclusive, and I can't figure out why. Whenever we go out or spend time together (~3-4 days/week) he gives me a lot of attention but is by no means overbearing and both of us go off and talk to other friends, yet spend many moments just together, too. He speaks very highly of me to others, yet refers to me as his "friend." I'm so frustrated. What's up with him? I'm pretty positive he's not seeing anyone else. What should I do?
2006-08-02 22:25:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Basically its human nature to look at a perfect thing & try to find fault. I dont know much about ur relation but its seems to be going in a good direction. And you are just having some second thoughts. One thing i can tell u about relations is that, no person is perfect. He/she will have some flaws. Accepting these flaws & appricating the good things, is the way every relation has to go about. Its normal to have troubles. But you have to weight the good over bad and decide if this relation is worth ur effort or not.
Make ur own decisions. Thats what life is all about.
2006-08-02 22:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by SreeNadh 3 · 7⤊ 3⤋
Sometimes it takes guys a little longer to get the feeling that we women do. Give him a little more time and I am sure that things should go your way. I would talk to him. You said that he is a good listener and you all talk about everything, so why not this? There has to be a good reason why he is a bit reserved about going exclusive with you. Good luck to ya!
2006-08-02 22:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep working it or split.as long as he thinks he can get away with having you and still being able to tag other girls he will.tell him straight out that your not into sharing.if he really likes you he will s-it or get off the pot.tell him you dont want to catch nothing and if hes gonna sleep around fuggedaboudit...or tell him your gonna get funky with some other guy and see how he likes being on that end of it.guys dont want anyone to touch thier women so if he really likes you he will throw a fit.he just thinks he got you so that you wont mess around but he can..common,hes a guy! if we could pull that one off we would all do it.good luck.
2006-08-02 22:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't put him in a box. Sorry. Why rush it? maybe he refers to you as a "friend" because it's nobodys business if ya'll are together or not. I personally would call him your boyfriend in front of him and see how he responds. If he freaks out, then he's commitment phobia and you should just walk away now or deal with it.
2006-08-02 22:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by thatgroovychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just ask him? He may have felt smothered in a previous relationship, or been burned in one, and is gun shy about putting himself in that situation again. Or he may be seeing someone else and is unsure which one of you two he really wants. And lastly, could you be a "beard" for him?
2006-08-02 22:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may feel like hes got alot on his plate right now and isnt ready to have an official gf or whatever just give it time and see where things go or sit him down and let him know exactly how you feel
2006-08-02 22:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by andy f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did you agree not to be exclusive from the start? Its not his fault if you now wish you had not done that, tell him how you feel now and see what he says. Good luck!
-NmD!
2006-08-02 22:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he needs some time. just go tell him that that u r truly in love with him and wanna continue ur relationship for ever. good luck.
2006-08-02 22:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by tatineni s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be tied down...plus we all want variety. I'll bet he is seeing someone else, and if not that then he's at least nailing someone else.
2006-08-02 22:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by John Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trying asking him exactly what his deal is and whats going on with him. try also asking him what kind of relationship is he looking for or type of involvement he wants with you.
2006-08-02 22:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by mysterious_yet_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋