My partner of 6 yrs has a brother who is getting married . He is going on the stag night but i wasnt invited on the hen night. The arrangments for the hen night were to expensive anyway so i would have said no. But i am upsrt that i wasnt even asked. I dont even want to go to the wedding now. Am i being childish?
2006-08-02 22:09:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
His brother has known his bride to be for 3 years but we havent really had anything to do with eachother.My partner is an usher at the wedding so i will be alone for most of it anyway. I dont want to be left in that position pushed a side
2006-08-02 22:11:46 · update #1
To make matters worse i have just found out that my partners ex who indroduced the bride and groom has been invited to the wedding and hen night,
2006-08-03 03:42:31 · update #2
They are trying to leave you out. Do not go to the wedding. If you and your partner have been together six years, you are a couple and you should have been included in everything.
2006-08-03 05:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hen night: is that when the wives or GFs of some of the stag party boys all get together and party together and/or "drop in" unexpectedly on the stag party---just to make sure the boys behave?
I am so out of it....lol. OK: here's the deal.
Chill. Your partner will be a good lad: let him go to this gig. He's an usher at the wedding too, doubt he'll be off doing anything wrong. Keep the faith--call it a hunch, but I think you'll get through this.
2006-08-02 22:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are taking something personal when there is no reason to.
Usually bachlorette parties are just for close, personal friends on the bride-to-be. As you indicate you are not close with her, don't be offended that you didn't get invited.
As the groom is your long-term partner's brother, it would seem childish if you don't go to the wedding as it joining the bride and groom and it is only appropriate that you go to the wedding to support you partner.
If you make a big deal out of it, you will be seen as childish it petty, trying to ruin the brother's special day and if you do anything to wreck it or its memory, it could signal the beginning of the end for your long term relationship with your partner. Just show up, be at minimum, cordial to everyone if not friendly and try to make the best of it.
2006-08-02 22:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not in the actual wedding then I would not be offended. Hey at least you saved yourself some money! I didn't invite anyone but my bridesmaids, and two other close friends to my night out. Its better if it is kept to a small size anyways. That way the bride still gets all the attention.
2006-08-03 00:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be too offended, they probably considered asking u but didnt want u to be uncomfortable not knowing anyone.... theres probably other females who are kinda related to the family who havnt been asked as well. Traditionally the bride asks her good friends, mother, sisters, mother in law etc, people who have been close to her growing up and people who she can let her hair down and have a crazy night with..its her last night of being un-married, she doesnt want to make sure people are fitting in, getting along and having fun.. i can fully understand why she didnt invite u..dont be offended.
Be the mature, confident friendly woman who goes along to the wedding, has a great time... support your partner by being that great girlfriend!!!
2006-08-02 22:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by princesslucy_83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense meant but if you are not friendly with her why would she even think you would like to go to her hen.
as for the wedding. surely you'll know someone there. sit with them and as soon as the meal is over your partner will be free to join you anyway.
dont sweat the small stuff. who cares about the hen just enjoy the wedding and time with your partner
2006-08-04 01:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hen night is for the bride and her close friends so just forget that one
the one that is really bothering you is the "ex" being at the wedding...you can't change that...be gracious and rise above...find another female who is in the same position of being not of the bride but her other half is in the groom's party and just spend time together
2006-08-04 01:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself: you don't even know her that well.
If you were directly linked to her and skipped the invite, I would be upset too.
But you didn't. You hardly knew her!
Just relax and realize that things are going to happen. Deal with it. Stop acting like a baby and move on. There are bigger things to tackle then whether or not you were invited to the Hen night of a woman you don't know.
2006-08-02 22:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, no one likes to be left out or forgotten; we'd all prefer to have the option of turning down an invite.
Go to the wedding, drink up, and see if there's any fun people to party with. Have a friend 'on-call' who can come pick you up and save you if it's awful (or worse yet-- a cash bar).
2006-08-02 22:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by cabin_grrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you, but why would you be invited, if you don't even really know the girl? Of course your partner is invited to guy's night, he is his BROTHER! Stop being so catty and childish. This isn't about you, it's about the couple getting married. Don't be so self-centered.
2006-08-03 08:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋