ok im 28yo m and ive been talking to a woman w/2 children.her soon to be ex husband is being an a-whole and i'm unable to do anything to help her physically or emotionally other then talk to her on the phone or on-line befor he busted her computer.is there anything that i can do extra to let her know how serious i am about her and should i really be concerned getting involved with her.
we have been talking on the phone and on-line for about 4 weeks and i believe we really do need eachother but i feel helpless when shes going through this crisis alone.
we have been really open and honest with eachother and i dont want her feeling like we're(men) are all the same and im just gonna end up beating her and breaking her down in every which way possible.shes got bad self esteem and confidence issues and im pretty sure i can get her back to where she needs to be but i need to know if im wrong for standing by her eventhough we havent met yet.we both work alot so we havent found time yet.
2006-08-02 21:21:23 · 7 answers · asked by andy f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are in the campaign of stop domestic violence and this is good to know especially from a man.and as i can see,you are the kind of man who dont believe in hiting a woman or treating her bad and it hurts you in a way to find out that there is a man out there who has no respect for the woman he was once in love with.
You've always hear of it (am hoping) in tv or people talking about it but you've never seen hear i real confession from a woman.
To be honest,i dont think you feel affection for this woman but what you feel is sympathy but since you cant differentiate the two you confuse yourself from being in love this woman and prove to her you are different but you see it doesnt work that way.
What i would advice you is be there for her,comfort her and tell her she doesnt deserve that .show her you care but dont,i repeat dont get involved with her.atleast not immediately.love doesnt come that easily.you might be a nice guy to her but that doesnt mean you are the right guy for him.think about it before you get your self to something that is gonna break your heart someday.am a woman and i know what am talking about.i've seen this before but the ending was not so good.dont make the same mistake
2006-08-02 21:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by milandaworld 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I strongly suggest that you have a face to face meeting before deciding anything else. After all the chemistry might not be there. If you do meet and want to be together, it might be beneficial for her to have some counselling if she has been abused by her ex. After all she is coming to u in a very fragile emotional state, sometimes even with the best of intentions, it need a professional to help people find their way back to happiness. In the meantime just continue to be there for her and offer her any practical and emotional support and help you can.
2006-08-03 04:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really seem in love with her just dont come between them
let her decide wether she wants a divorce and wants 2 spend time with u that will make u realize she really does love u.
2006-08-03 04:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her straighten out her life first, and then maybe you can start from there. You should be careful getting involved with her. Good luck!
2006-08-03 04:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine was like yours is, and i can tell you after 3yrs weve come a long way but its going to time time & more time
2006-08-03 04:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Spock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want to become a bounceback relationship...... give it time
2006-08-03 04:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are basically, rude
2006-08-03 04:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by healingman2911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋