Hi can anyone help me? i have bin wit my lad for 2 months,sex was good to start with,but now i just dont get pleasure.i have slept with around 30 ppl and only eva had 3 orgasms only 1 with him although when i use my sex toys i orgasm every time.What can he do to please me because i am starting to lose interest and sick of faking it.please help.thanks
2006-08-02 21:05:24 · 18 answers · asked by blueeyedblonde 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i love anal it feels great,i do orgasm off that but i want to the other way aswell.iv tried alsorts of positions,
2006-08-02 21:13:15 · update #1
greenfairy you only live once and i always use protection.
2006-08-02 21:38:50 · update #2
You need to teach him how to get your spot... I bet you don't make encouraging noises to show him you are enjoying it, do you???
What about oral or anal??? Or what about something a little kinkier, like tying down or blindfolded...
What about role playing???
What about different positions???
2006-08-02 21:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to enjoy good sex every time you have to search for the right man.......not a boy !
An experienced guy will know the ways to make you more relaxed and stimulate you more. Seduction is the key, not all out brute lust.
Sex for a man can become boring, he will need the excitement of new ideas, different postions and locations. It needs to remain fresh for him whereas you will not notice anything different.
There comes a time for the man when he no longer "feels" the excitement with the same woman, he becomes anethatised to the feeling of any sensation, therefore he cannot ejaculate the same as he once did.
Your quest is to find the right guy, keep him interested, be adventerous and willing, and you will find the satisfaction you crave.
2006-08-03 04:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem for years, I worried that I wasn't 'normal' because I could only orgasm through clitoral stimulation, now i know that that is how most woman orgasm. I also know that the more I worry about whether its going to happen or not the less likely it is. 'Girl on top' is almost guaranteed, a modified form of the missionary where my partner really concentrates on rubbing against my clitoris works sometimes, everything else needs me to get my fingers involved too.
Make sure you are getting enough foreplay to get you really ready for it, use lube and communicate honestly. After two months you should be still exploring each other and working out what does it for you, you are also more likely to come when you trust your partner enough to 'let go' - whilst there is nothing worng with having lots of partners this isn't conducive to building that level of trust in my opinion
2006-08-03 04:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got yourself into a pretty tough situation. i know how bad it feels not to orgasm or even struggling to orgasm. been there done that also faked a lot.
Maybe go see a specialist about your problem. Or try different positions or stick to your technique you used when you got your other og's. That's what i did, and ever since i started doing that, i can orgasm with ANYONE!!
2006-08-03 04:15:28 · answer #4 · answered by natasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don' t focus/concantrate on the orgasm, focus/concantrate on the act of having sex-the action itself.
This may help.
2006-08-08 09:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by NoxecA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya huney...
Heres what you gotta do.
1st hide the toy from yourself and dont touch it for a week before you see him so that your body is ready for the orgasm.
Actually thats it...your treating yourself way to nicely in the vibo dept and its spoiling you for a really good sex life.
2006-08-07 14:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him to do all the things u love, if that doesnt work how about u give him a hand, wen ur avin sex why dnt u play with ur clit at the same time, im sure that will help.
2006-08-03 06:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by xxholly_wollyxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you know how your own body can orgasm WITHOUT the use of RPM and batteries, and dont continue to fake it, he will never know now will he?
try telling him what feels good and guiding instead of faking it,
you should know what pleases you, how are we to tell you THAT? this is why you arent achieving orgasm
30 people ?
slow down girl
2006-08-03 04:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by Greenfairy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to use the toys on you and help you to cu m, since they do better than the actual and after you have cu m he can do it on you for his pleasure. be open with you man at all times in this area so that you reach a point were it suits both of you.
2006-08-03 04:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe get him to concentrate more on the oral side until you're really ready for him and play with your cli tty when he does.
2006-08-04 08:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋