See im 16 years or age and ive been through alot this pass three month relationship with this boy. He wrote and told me about our relationship and how he doesnt see me because, i moved. I told him i want it to work and so does he. He wants me to be his dipset... which means just to have sex with but, we still boyfriend and girlfriend... Then i told him i just want us to be friends because, i just dont want to be with him because of sex, theres more than that in a relationship. SO, he wrote what are you talking about you still my chick and he love me. then i told him if you love me you will let me go and lets see if love brings me back... he told me is that what i really want??? i dont know because i want to be with him because, i have strong feelings for him and i dont want to be with him because, i feel as though that might be a waste of my time as well as his. so should i stay or should i go... my friend joseph told me i should follow my mind instead of my heart
2006-08-02 20:57:58 · 12 answers · asked by beintiffanyworld2002 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Its pretty hard to face something like this. I totally understand what you are trying to explain.
Here goes;
Relationship is far more than sex, if the only purpose he wants you is for sex then the answer is leave him, you'll find someone who will love you, respect you, understand you and support you in all aspects of life.
As life must go on, you started your life by moving on to a different place for work, which is your future, and if he cannot accept that then that sucks.
If he really likes and love you, he wouldnt ever brought up the matter you r facing now. This increases tension, stress which will create frustration if you dont overcome soon, tht will create depression which will ruin your work.
He is trying to be the good guy by saying 'is that what you really want', that is absolutely foolish. From what i see, thats what he wants.
I had a girl when i was 18 and she was 16. I really did love her, from the bottom of my heart. Not only i gave her everything i could, i even started to save to purchase an apartment for her. I moved to Australia, Perth for work which paid really well, my contract was only for 18 months. Only 1 month passed and she broke me off saying long distance relationship is impossible. Now, she calls me every single day that she wants me back. But now i dont want her anymore, y? because i suffered for 4 miserable years thinking about her, my heart was broken into pieces. I breached my contract in Australia to come back and be near to her, i came back after 2 months. And what i got back, she was dating some1else. I ask myself is it sex? is it money? the answer i achieved from days past is that she was trying to experiment with others. Thats no loyalty, that a total poison.
Not only i broke my heart i sunk my future too. Luckily now i m well to do but i really did regret on my foolish decisions in the past.
You'll find the right one soon....dont worry, if you have done nothing to hurt others, you'll get what you want in life, i promise you, never lose hope.
Never follow your heart, thats all good in shakespeare's novel, not real life. Follow your brain, thats the fact.
2006-08-02 21:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's just wants to use you for sex. You're right there's is more to relationships than just sex, it's not like you're his **** buddy... If he doesn't respect you, he doesn't deserve you. I know it's hard sometimes to decide or go through with things. Relationships can be crazy and stressful. I understand what you mean when you say you still want to be with him, I have felt that way before. Then again maybe it's best to just wait and see, I think that is actually a very good idea, and if your boyfriend is not willing to try that then I don't see how he could really love you. I been in many relationships, some good, others extremely bad. But you're still very young so you should have the chance to meet other people and by doing that you'll learn what type of people you really enjoy being with. Sometimes relationships can get you too attached to one person. If you know it's better to let it go for awhile do that. Your friends care about you so they can give you advice, but remember it is ultimately your decision and you should make the choice what you really want regardless of what anyone has to say... Sorry this was long, hope i didn't bore you too much, hope this helps hun! good luck! Ciao!
2006-08-02 21:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 16, you moved, you'll find so much more in life as it goes on. When i first got in to college (im 19 now so a year and change) I watched my best friend waste away more than half a year doing nothign just waiting till he saw his g/f. He did next to nothing, basically wasted away a semester and a half of his life for a girl he wound up breaking up with anyway. Hanging around, ESPECIALLY when your that young probably isnt worth it. Dont let him hold you back from living your life where you are now.
2006-08-02 21:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by jlorich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 22:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am with your friend Joseph, but you will do what you want, even though sounds like even though you are young you have a good head don't ever degrade yourself or let a man manipulate you with his selfishness. you deserve so much more or you and believe me you will meet a many men in your life. any man that doesn't respect you as a person will use you like a rag. move on i say but i know from exp. it is harder. you be the big balls in this cause he is just thinking with his. trust me. you will love again or infatuate.
2006-08-02 21:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should send him a letter that asks him to write a letter back with how much he wants you to go with him in presantage
if it is over 50% you should go and if it is under 50% you should stay but if it is 50% well, ........ i think you should stay home anyway.
2006-08-02 21:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the same melody by Clash : "should I stay or should I go now?" They hava an answer
2006-08-02 21:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ana B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, get the hell out.
Just wondering but, if it is all about sex as you say what DOES your heart say?
2006-08-02 21:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a dork who don't know what he wants, you should be friends but go with the flow.
2006-08-02 21:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself for marriage, tell him that see what happens.
2006-08-02 21:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋