My brother has been in jail for over a month now and I haven't seen him in about 3 months. While he was tripping out on drugs he tried to stab my mom and he assulted a police officer. As mad as I am for what he did to my mom and what he could have done if she hadn't excaped and called the police, I fear for his saftey in jail and kind of want to visit him just to make sure he's ok. No one has gone to visit him yet. He's a small guy and has never been in toruble with the law before and I know what types of people are in jail. Should I go visit him?
2006-08-02 20:33:05 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i did a year in county jail for drugs when i was younger. i had to get in a lot of fights to discourage the urges of other prisoners.
stand by your brother and try to get him out.
2006-08-02 20:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should visit him, the odds that you would be hurt are so slim and right now he needs you. Don't be freaked out by the sign that says "no hostage situation." What that means is, if you are taken hostage, they will not negotiate for your release, it kind of keeps you safe because you aren't worth much to the prisoners. You'll probably be behind plexi-glass and on a phone, which is pretty safe, or you may be in a large room with benches and tables, either way, the guys in there that get visits don't want to lose their right to visitation by acting up and hurting or harassing someone. Don't worry, just go see your brother. Make sure you read, and follow the rules! Be early too, the guards are stressed out and can be jerks, if you are a minute late, some of them will deny your visit for that day, not caring how far you traveled. Look up the institution you want to visit on line, each place has different rules. You may need to send in an "application" and have your information verified for you to be approved for visits. It might be helpful to call and get all that information so you don't waste your time. Good luck, it's hard- HARD times having a loved one behind bars. Write him a lot, he'll be so bored and depressed, I always hear that those letters mean a lot.
2006-08-02 20:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a brother in jail and I went to visit I think it is important to let him know that what he did was wrong and that you still love him but don't like what he did. Given the fact he was on drugs you will need to talk as a family about where he will fit in on his release. What I said to my brother when he was locked up was that if after coming out of jail he wants to make bad choices I was not going to be part of that as I loved him and could only support good choices as the bad ones cause so much hurt and anger with himself and the people who love him.
Good luck and go and visit
2006-08-02 20:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christina, I know what he did to your mom was very uncool and perhaps very angering to you, but you have to remember that he's family. And sometimes when you come down to the nitty-gritty, family's all you got. So right now, you're all he's got. Losing one's freedom is a signicant thing, and if he's a small guy, he might be having a difficult time right now in jail. You know him, if he's a strong person inside and he's a fighter, he'll be fine, cuz' those kind of people can survive anywhere. But I can guarantee you that he's lonely and would definitely appreciate seeing you. If you still love him as your brother, go see him and make sure he knows that you're there for him, even with all his b.s. I hope you and your mom stay strong. Peace.
2006-08-02 20:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by LovePeaceandHairgrease 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boyfriend has the same kind of case he assault a police office they found drugs on him i mean the whole nine yard. he's doing two years in jail and he's pretty small too. even tho we are not together i write him everyday so that he knows someone is out here that cares also i visited him every tuesday and thursday and the drive is about 45 mins long. im telling you that you need to visit him or else he will get depressed and lonely and get into more trouble most likely he will click up with a certain type of group for security. just please find time to write him it would mean alot to him plus you guys will bond even more
hope this help
2006-08-02 20:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Koran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visiting can be very depressing. Allot depends on how long he will be in and how close he is to You. The hardest part of a visit is when you have to leave. It can be very embarrasing for the one who has to stay behind. Sounds like Your brother has a real drug problem and definately could use a boost in morale. They need the support of the family to deal with the drug tretment and the adjust ment to confinement. If the fmaily turns away from him the future may end up very bleak for everyone. Words of encouagement and support helkp prisoners stick with programs.
2006-08-02 20:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u should. And just to let u know most ppl in jail are reg. ppl they just made wrong chooses in there live. But yes you should go visit him. It would make u feel better knowing he's ok and make him feel better knowing that at least one person in the family don't hate him for what he did. But just to let u know don't be shocked if both of u started to cry. Him cause he can't go with u when u leave and u cause he is locked up behind glass. Its a very emotional thing for both of you.
2006-08-02 20:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that matters if you forgive him...I have an 19 year old niece in jail doing time for attempted murder...I haven't wrote or talked to her because I really don't care what happens because she put herself in that situation...now your dilemma maybe different...you may love your brother and want to do good by him but if he is responsible for what he did and he is paying for his consequences...people know how jail is without even going there and they choose that path...don't feel bad for him but if you feel you must visit remember it's not your fault and you owe him nothing. Try to advise him to use this time wisely and to see what his next step will be after getting out...doing drugs again or straightening his life out...
2006-08-02 20:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by ILAUGHATU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about all jail should do for him is make him think and put him on the right path.if he was on drugs and never did anything like that befor then it might actually be good for him to visit jail so he knows why he shouldnt do anything like that again.if it was prison id say worry but jail he'll be ok.as far as visiting that would depend on if you'd be abel to control your anger over what he did bc the last thing he'd want to see is his family still suffering and he cant do anything about it while on the inside.hes got nothing but time to think about what he did and his family rubbing it in his face intentional or unintentional would just kill him.so think about it hard befor you decide to go and see him
2006-08-02 20:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by andy f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit him out of love, never hate as it is against the will of G-d, but you can be upset, he has wronged you and the family, by the way, he is fine in jail or he would be locked into protective custody by now...... 2 brothers of mine are prison guards, Folsom and San Quinten and they both say how the inmates act after a vist, they are so much happier... Make his day and go for it....
2006-08-02 20:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your family should understand drugs make people do crazy things that wasn't your brother who stabbed your mom it was the addiction. Go see your brother explain to your family why you want to see him and how you feel. Also explain to your brother that you are angry but you still love him and understand that it was the drugs. If you know the drug research it so you can understand more of what he was going through. I also think you and your family should attend Al-anon meetings they are for family members of drug addicts and alcoholics. They really help you deal with it. And will also teach you how to help your brother. I have been there its a tough road and i am sorry this has happened o your family it really sucks. You can find a local chapter of Al-anon here http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ and ask for more advice with professionals.
2006-08-02 20:48:43 · answer #11 · answered by baby kountry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋