ok well my mom told me the other day that she was going to ask my dad 4 a davorces. Well i was 100 and 10 percent ok with it and to night she told him when i was babbysitting my cusin. He got mad. When i got home my dad when up stairs. My mom said that we were staying at a hotel to night but then she asked if i could go up stairs and see if my dad wanted to talk to her any more. I stayed up atairs and watched tv. When i came down my dad said that he was going to go up stairs and watch tv. I asked what was going on mom said that he promised to go back to aa and tsome thing ealse. S he asked if i would be ok if we stayed here. Itold her that it is ok with me well now that i have had some time to think i have diseid that i do not waint to stay with him beacuse i now that this is not just going to go away. Thia has been going on 4 a long time my mom saying she dose not want to stay with him and then he polls her back. I am yred of it. i do not want to live here but i don't want to bad guy
2006-08-02 19:04:33 · 6 answers · asked by Windy W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wait Im confuzed... So you live w/ur dad but u wanna live w/ur mom? If thats wut you were saying I'd call the mom and tell her and make sure shes there 4 back up when u tell ur dad incause he gets mad cuz he might...
2006-08-02 19:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how that is. My parents argue ever since I was about 4 or 5. It often get really bad to point where they both completely ignore me and my sis needs. They even split a couple time, but they always got back together. My mom asked for divcorce more than once but wasn't able to for a while. It didn't happen until I was 11. When it happen, things was wrose for a couple of months, but I was so relifed that I finally have my mother back and doesn't have to live with watching my parents argue all of the time.
My suggestion is to ask a family member (grandparents would be my first choice though but that is me...) if you can move in with them until things with your parents calm down. Make sure you tell them that it's very stressful on you and really take a tolls on your school and start to take tolls on your health as well. Hopefully when you move in with them, your mom will finally wake up and realize what happen and move out of your dad's house.
This isn't gonna to be a easy thing to deal with, but the most important thing is you stay strong and survive through it. If I and my sis was much younger when it happen to us and we survived, you can survive this as well. However be prepare for some incredible tough time, so try get involve in school activity, sport, and other things to keep you away from home as much as possible so you don't have to see all hardship going on. Don't be shy about trying a new hobby or something. If your family member go four wheeling, rock climbing, antique shopping, paint, or whatever, feel free to ask them if you can learn about it or ioin them. It may not be most exicting thing to you, but at least it will keep you busy.
About getting away from the situtation or not getting involved, no you're not being the bad guy at all! A kids should NEVER be involved in a such situation. My parents use to use me or my sister as a messager in their arguement, it really traumatized both of us. I also seen so many other things and I really believe it still affect me eventhough I'm 22 years old now. So you did the right thing by trying to get away from the situtation and not getting involved. This is between your parents, and it have nothing to do with you. You should stay out of it and focus on your own life and try to not make the same mistake again.
I hope everything get better *hug*
2006-08-03 07:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you? Do you have an aunt or grandma to stay with for a while? Talk to your mom and tell her what you think, say that your daddy is an alcoholic and he's never going to change and that you can't live like this anymore, that if she's not willing to let go of him, that you are and tell her you are moving out with your aunt, grandma, whatever, but please let it be a family member you go and live with, and preferably let it be a female if possible. And also make sure to ask your family member if it's ok that you move in with them for a while. Don't have this conversation with your mom until you have a place to go. This will probably wake her up and realize things. Hope it turns out good for you.
2006-08-03 02:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by munich13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand you right, you, your mom and dad all live in the same house together as a "family" but he has a problem with alcohol and maybe drugs. She keeps saying that she is going to leave him, but he talks her into staying, saying that he will stop or change or what ever.
If this is correct, he can not stop on his own, he will have to get help. I know this cause I have been threw this before, not as a kid, but as a wife and as a girlfriend, they can not quit on their own. I know what is happening with you as well. Is there any body at all that you could stay with until they get the problem solved? It is not good for you to stay there at all.
Now if this is not what is happening, then oops, you lost me. I don't know what is happening.
2006-08-03 02:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask you school consuler what to do, look for those alonon AA for kids of acholic parents. classes in oyur area and just hang in there all kinds of kids get drug into there parents undecive battles everyday. If your mom really wants to leave she will but somepeople just like to stay miserable.
2006-08-03 02:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look here:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
2006-08-03 02:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋