I have been with my guy for about a year and I have been around a lot of people that are pregnant. I want to be pregnant and have the kid and raise him or her with my honey.... But i know that we dont have the money, stability, or are even ready for that... What should i do just try and forget it or what???
2006-08-02 18:57:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
leave it, trust me, just leave it until you !00% sure your ready. having children put your relationship to the test, and if you dan't have the money, stability or aren't sure if your ready or not to have a child, and you do, your relationship will not survive or will be veru difficult to sustain.
2006-08-02 19:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should most definitely wait until you are ready financially and emotionally. I'm not a parent, but I have helped raise my younger brother and already know that parenting when you have financial problems is no picnic when you have children, much less when they are infants. And the fact that you have only been with him a year really does not mean you are ready to fully commit to full time parent-hood. Chances are that his thoughts might not be filled of baby booties and diaper duties like yours. Even if he says he is. My suggestion is get financially ready first, then start with a pet. A pet, in my opinion, is like a young child. (Dogs are perpetual two year olds) They will test your patience at times and your relationship. And they tend to be more affordable to raise than a child anyway.
Of course you would have to be emotionally ready for a pet as well, so many people have gotten pets, got bored with the responsibility and had neglected them or given them up for an adoption (something that you most definitely should not do with a child) Either way you would have to be ready, despite your biological clock just tick-ticking away.
2006-08-02 20:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by juannabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "But i know that we dont have the money, stability, or are even ready for that... What should i do just try and forget it or what???".. you actually answered your own question honey.. it doesnt mean you want to do it your ready for the consequences of having a baby.. perhaps now you can forget to have a baby but the question it is how about six months or a year from now? if you want to have one be prepared.. just try to save money or be stble like getting a job or go to school.. it will just break you heart if you cannot give the baby a hard life.. goodluck and work hard..
2006-08-02 19:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you can financially care for a child. I know the feeling of wanting a child now but if you can't fully provide it will be very difficult. I had wanted a baby since I was about 20 and waited until I was 26 to conceive because we were financially stable and I could stay at home with our son...honestly that didn't even prepare me for being a mother. When you really want to raise your children right, you have to sacrifice so much of yourself that you never thought you would. Parenting is like becoming a doctor without the PHD...you are learning while they are learning and you feel like you could have waited a little longer if you only knew what you could have learned before to make it easier. I wish I could sit down with every teenager who wants a baby and tell them what it's like or just let them take on a real child for a week and let them see. It's not as easy as you think and just when you think it will be easy you won't be able to turn back. Don't get me wrong, my son is my life and I wouldn't give him back for anything but I thought I was prepared and I wasn't...just be completely ready before you have a baby.
2006-08-02 21:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered your question yourself with the last sentence. Bringing a baby into the world is a huge responsibility and I believe that you shouldn't do it until you are ready. It's not fair to your baby. I can understand that you are feeling broody because of seeing other pregnant girls, but you don't have to " try and forget it", just wait until the pair of you feel you are better prepared. Good luck.
2006-08-02 19:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by David C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is wrong with you people? Go for it? It's about the dream? As long as you can pay the bills, there's nothing to worry about? You people are what's wrong with this country (I'm going to assume that you live in the US for argument's sake). It's all about me, me, me. I, I, I. How about looking up some statistics on how well children fare on average in low-income households. How about looking up statistics on how children fare when there is no father around (which is what will happen if you have a child with a guy that you've only known for one year). How about you look up some statistics on how children fare in non-traditional households. If you gave a rat's *** about the human being that you want to create you would think about these things and do what's in the best interests of the child. You wouldn't be thinking about what you want, and how it will fulfill you. Jesus.
2006-08-02 19:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by Justin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THat's tough.... I think you should wait... Atleast untill you get everything ready. You need to save up becasue a baby can cost alot of money. If you don't have the money then don't try for one yet. Anyways lets hope your married because your man can leave any day on you. Wait until you've got everything going smooth
2006-08-02 19:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry. There's never a perfect time to have a baby. It's always expensive, no matter how much money you make. If you want a baby, talk to your man and see what he says. If he agrees, then go for it.
My husband and I are still living in a 2 bedroom apartment, just newly married, and had our baby (it wasn't planned, though). We're not rich, but we make enough money to get by. That's what's important. As long as you can still pay your bills, there's nothing to worry about.
Go for it! Good luck!!
2006-08-02 19:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to rush it. Wait a few more years get married if your not and grow as a couple first. When you do finally have a baby it will be so much better because you have the security of your marriage.
2006-08-02 19:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by chrissie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry just Waite i feel the same way as you its just that this year everyone is having baby's i want one to and I'm not ready so i just rather Waite
2006-08-02 19:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by mia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋