Should I go for what I want even if it hurts another person?

Question

I'm a guy and I just found out that the guy I have been crushing on for a long time is actually straight.
I felt myself slowly dying while he talked about how much he likes my other "girl" friend and wanted to ask her out. I almost cried in front of him but instead, I just wished him good luck because I want him to be happy even if it hurts me so much.

But the other thing is that my "girl" friend who he likes actually has a crush on me. I am bisexual and I also like her but not as much as I like the guy.

What should I do? Should I be evil and go out with the girl who has a crush on me just to make the guy jealous? Or be good and let the guy that I love have the girl?

I'ts kinda like a very twisted love triangle where somebody will get hurt extremely bad when I end up with either one of them. If I forfeit the competition, I could get totally ****** up emotionally, which I kinda am right now

Please give me your most sincere answers cause I'm really serious about this

The guy does "not" know that I like him and there could be a possibility that he's bi because he's never had any girlfriend in his life.

The girl would be his first if I let it happen. But I don't think I'm quite ready to let him go yet. I guess I should wait and try a little bit more before I give up completely. I might never meet a guy like him again.

Oh god I'm feeling guilty already. SOMEONE SAVE ME FROM MYSELF! I MIGHT **** UP 2 PEOPLE'S LOVE LIFE!

Answer 1

Tough one!!!!!
First, your situation really sucks. It hurts to want what we can't have, doesn't it?? But, this is also a part of life. Is this guy Straight or Bi?? If he is straight there is nothing you can do. Obviously if he is bi then you need to tell him how you feel for your own peace of mind, if not let it go. Straight men have a very difficult time with stuff like this. I have a friend who is gay and who is HOT and sometimes I wish he were straight, but I cannot change him. Personally, if you went out with this girl it would be like punishing the guy because of his sexual orientation and that wouldn't be fair either. Nor would it be fair to go out with this girl who has a crush on you simply to punish him and in the process probably break her heart because you are in love with him. I am taking it that he doesn't know that you are in love with him??? It's hard to set someone free that you love, but unfortunately I see no other option, You cannot make someone feel something that they don't. I wish you the best of luck and hope that everything turns out okay.

Answer 2

Have you come out of the closet to your friends about your bisexuality?

If not tell the girl in this triangle about your bisexuality and explain the whole mess. Women tend to be more supportive generally of alternative sexualities in men.

If that's too scary for you talk to a female friend of the guy you like. Tell someone about this. It's difficult online because I don't know the guy or the girl.

Answer 3

If the guy is straight there is nothing you can do about it. Being as he confided in you and said he wants to ask the girl out it would be cruel for you to do that. Let it go and move on.

Answer 4

YOU KNOW THAT YOU SHOULD NOT DO THIS. OUT OF PURE SPIITE. AND THAT NOT RIGHT. AND TWO WRONG DONT MAKE IT RIGHT. AND WOULD BE UNFAIR TO EVERY
BODY TO DO THIS.YOU KNOW WHAT THEY SAY, WHAT
GO AROUND WILL COME BACK AROUND. AND THEN HOW
WILL YOU FEEL WHEN THE SHOE IS ON THE OTHER FOOT
JUST MOVE ON, AND YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE THAT
WILL LOVE YOU. BUT NO GOOD WILL COME TO YOU IN
THE LONG RUN..