here is what i'm trying to deside when time comes, our family wants us to get married in a church, and my boyfriend wants to get married at a court house, then he said he doesn't care, i know we can't afford a big fancy wedding, what way should i go?
2006-08-02 18:28:24 · 17 answers · asked by flcountrygal82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I say get married on a boat with a few close family or friends. You wont have to worry about accomodating anyone because it is unique and special to just you!
I have the same dilemma, and truth be told- i havent figured that part out yet- and i am getting married in March! WE arent rich by far, but no matter what, he has said that I can get married the way I want to. I would go for the courthouse- his family want sthe church. I think I am going to settle for an outdoor wedding, smaller of course and then a nice size reception during the day. (cheaper than evenings, and you dont have to serve alcohol)
Good luck- I hope it all works out for the best!
2006-08-03 04:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, congratulations!!! I hope you two have a happy, long life together
second, why not go ahead and have the small court house wedding the day before you have the "fancy" wedding?
Lots of local parks and forests will let you have a wedding party if you call and ask them(may require a deposit), I have a friend that got married at Bernheim forest here in Ky, it was a beautiful wedding, I myself got married at the court house.
Do some location scouting, look for beautiful areas you could imagine yourself getting married at......maybe a friend has a beautiful large backyard with lots of flower gardens or something, I bet if you use your imagination you could think up something really beautiful. Remember, the wedding party is just a celebration of the marriage, don't let it consume you.
Decoration stores(for parties and such) will have stuff for weddings, have your cake made at a local market, as many do this now, weddings can be done pretty cheap these days.
Best of luck to you and your soon-to-be hubby
2006-08-02 18:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd say the church wedding over the court house. Do you, your boyfriend, or your families belong to a church? If so you shouldn't have to pay anything to have your wedding at the church. And just because your wedding is at a church doesn't mean you have to spend a bunch of money for a big fancy wedding. I was 8 1/2 months pregnant when I got married, so obviously we didn't have a lot of money to spend on a fancy wedding either. We found ways to cut expenses down. For instance, we found a lady who makes dresses and she made my wedding dress, as well the dresses for the flower girls and candlelighter. She also did alterations on my attendants dresses and made me a dress to wear at rehearsal. All this cost us $100, which we would have easily have had to pay more for my dress had we bought it from a store. We also had someone who worked at a bakery make the cake on her own, instead of ordering it from the bakery. This saved us $65. And instead of hiring a professional photographer to take pictures, we bought several rolls of film and had my Uncle take the pictures with his camera. We still had great pictures that captured our event, but we didn't have to pay hundreds of $$$ to get them. These are just some of the ways we cut the cost of our wedding way down.
Our wedding was beautiful and didn't look cheap at all. There are lots of ways to save money on a wedding and still have a beautiful ceremony.
Good luck.
2006-08-02 18:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a huge distinction between a court docket wedding ceremony (civil union), and a church wedding ceremony. sure, the Catholic Church enable you marry. A court docket wedding ceremony does no longer enforce a non secular area to marriage. that's a criminal contract, greater or much less. The Catholic Church will in basic terms protest a marriage in case you have a unresolved divorce, are no longer Catholic, etc. If those subjects are no longer recent, there's no concern. whilst one marries in the church there's a mix criminal / religious contract. The Church will make you're taking some instructions in the previous marriage, although that's popular for each guy or woman. i ask your self, in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, why are you asking this question right here? in case you intend to get married in the church, set a competent popular and communicate those questions with the priest! stable success! Jay
2016-10-01 10:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by kelcey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not cost that much for a church. You should do what you want not what every one else wants. Do you always want to remember your wedding at a court house? No. Just have a very small one at a nice little church. Try to get some pre marital counseling also. I think it is worth it and fun. Plus your chances of staying married are greatly increased.
2006-08-03 00:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married where you chose to. My fiance and I are going through the same thing. You have to ask yourself...is this for you two or for your family? We are choosing to go to the courthouse and then we are going to have a reception at our house afterward. Do what makes the two of you happy. It's YOUR day not theirs. Will a fancy, costly wedding make you happy or marrying the man that you love? The marriage is the most important part, not the ceremony!
2006-08-06 08:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by imystifyyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, those aren't the only 2 places you can get married at. I went to a LOVELY wedding held in a public park, in a gazebo overlooking a lake, in October. It was great. My sister's getting married at the beach. My brother's getting married in a reception hall that specializes in weddings. Get creative and you can find a place that will be perfect for both of you. Best of luck!
2006-08-02 19:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a small, intimate wedding at a church. Just invite your family and close friends. The officiant will not mind how many people are there as long as it is what the bride and groom wants.
2006-08-03 02:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
church...it's more expensive than a court house wedding but you can always think of ways to lessen the expenses...church wedding is more binding especially if you come from a religius family and a Catholic country.. :)
2006-08-02 19:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by jensky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to meet each other half way on it. You dont want to miss the opportunity to have the wedding you want, but you dont want to ruin his either. Possibly a really small ceremony.. nothing big and fancy.
good luck!!!
2006-08-02 19:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋