Six year old boy starting to push me away, telling me to go away, don't touch him. Is this a phase/stage?

Question

I'm the mom and secretly his pushing me away hurts my feelings, he probably picks up on this. Sometimes he studies my face and doesn't seem to like what he sees. I'd like to hear if this is a common phase, sounds familiar to anyone.

Answer 1

no, you need to beat his lil' azz. i bet he could make out that expression. he has tested you and you failed, he knows he can control you with that. next time he tries it, give him a swift slap to the head and i bet he never tries it again ...and you would have passed the test!

Answer 2

He's 6 so id think he was in 2nd grade. It could be a phase or it could be some kind of resentment for something he's experienced and blames you for it. More than likely it's nothing but a phase. all boys go through it. No matter how much they love their mom they are embarrassed if you hug or kiss them in public or around people that know them. I say don't even worry about it. No matter how much they push you away they still love ya. If someone else were to bad mouth you or treat you wrong he'll be right there defending you.

Answer 3

I've heard phases at that age which range from ignoring the parent to shouts of "I hate you." Most kids go through this phase, and it's a method of social learning. IT could also be a larger show of his independance. He will get past this. Let him know that it hurts you, though don't let him use it to get away with anything. Remember, no matter how indepenant he gets, when something happens he'll always come back to mommy and daddy for safety and comfort.

Answer 4

yea it is, hes pretty much just testing different effects he can have on u. u may have upset him and hes trying 2 hurt u. could b something small hes holding a grudge about or something big u did that he didnt like. at six though, he should still b able 2 talk 2 u so just do something with him that he enjoys and that u can have an easy conversaion with him over and talk 2 him, try finding out the problem.
good luck with it, im sure it will pass even if u dont get any answers.

Answer 5

I have had two 6 year old boys and this isn't normal.He apparently is upset.Try to find out by taking him to the Dr and also why can't you set him down and talk to him after all you are the parent.Say I don't like when you act this way and talk about whats bothering him make it a fun setting time with popcorn and candy and don't fuss because that might make all the difference in the world to what your able to get out of him.

Answer 6

May be you have done bad things to him in the past putting him and his relatives at a social and evolutionary disadvantage when compared to others of the same calibre. There is clear track record to prove as a parent you have been stupid, incompetent, lack judgement, common sense and you are selfish. You have also been a hypocrite, practise double standards, and have bias. There is no need fr him to trust you, he wont. You have also used the infromation you have learned from him AGAINST his best itnerests in the past, there is no reason for him to believe you wont do it again, so its better you take off your **** and tell it to some loser and leave him alone.

Answer 7

He is growing up. My 7 yr old does this too. He rather have DAD than MOM. Just one of those things little boys do.

I always tell my sons and daughter that I love them. I give them hugs & kisses. Even though they rarely if ever say it back to me! I used to get depressed, now I just accept it and move on. I know they deep down inside LOVE ME!

I am the ONE who makes sure things are done, get bought, paid etc. I had that affirmation tonite from my daughter. She NOW realizes that I do things, I dont want to do, for her & her brothers.

They have to be independent from mom. I don't worry too much about it. It's just another fact of life.

They certainly don't stay little forever!

Answer 8

Sounds like he's trying to get a start on his independence. My 6 year old grandaughter will do the same thing. She will say things like "i can do it" or " leave me alone" or "get away from me". It's part of them growing up. Sometimes little boys will be more agressive with their independence. Watch for other signs of his wanting to gain his independence. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Tell him too bad, as a mum you love him and will hug him but respect the time to do so. In front of his friends may be a bad time so do it at home before he goes to school. turn it into a game of rough housing with a the end being a hug. My son is 7 and thankfully still wants his hugs but told me I was no longer allowed to call him gorgeous in front of his friends(as in "hi gorgeous") I have to stick to his name or Buddy. A small piece of me died that day...my baby is growing up!

Answer 10

I think sometimes they get a little embarassed by affection from mom when they first start school. My son was this way a little when he first started KG. Then his male KG teacher told him that he still kisses and hugs his mom. That was all it took. Someone who was older and he looked up to telling him it was normal to still be affectionate with mom.

Answer 11

my lil girl 4 and she does that and some time i cry over it but there days where she cant let me go and i wanna cry bc if they way she acts so wat i do is when is tell me to leave her alone i tell her fine when u want some thin dont ask me and some time if she does that then want me i tell her no u dont want me to touch r r anythin so u leave me alone and dont touch me its hurts her but she tells me she srry and she wont tell me thats for weeks r days depends but its gotta be a phase bc all the kids i no have done that 2