Hey! Okay I'm a quiet but friendly girl at first (20 years old), but once I know someone I warm up to them and I am always laughing and smiling. Some of my guy co-workers (I work at a sports bar) who joke around with me a lot and talk to me a lot still say I am shy, because I don't talk ALL the time, and have a quiet tone of voice. They also always joke around and call me innocent because I don't party all the time, but they are nice about it. It bothers me, because I associate being called shy as "reserved", "bitchy", "snobby" and so on...which I know someone can be shy and not be that, because I can be shy, but I don't want other people thinking that of me. When they joke around and say I'm shy and quiet does this mean it bothers them or what?? I just don't want people to think I'm mean if I don't talk all the time. So...what does this mean?? Thanks for any helpful advice and God bless!!
2006-08-02 18:21:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be yourself, if you feel you need to be more assertive, then practice. Your friends don't have to like who you see when you are putting on your makeup, you do. If you are comfortable with the woman in the mirror, you are a blessed person. Enjoy it.
2006-08-02 18:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mike G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shy does not imply bitchy. Shyness usually implies that the person is uncomfortable in social situations, and possibly not self-confident. But it can also mean something good: this person is not rude, obnoxious, or gregarious. My advice is that if you want people to like you more, smile more often. Avoid partying "all the time", or else you will get a reputation that is much worse than "reserved", "snobby", etc. Could be these people want you to take drugs and drink excessively with them, which could put you in a position of doing even more things you might later regret (obviously, being intoxicated or high will make you less inhibited, and you could get into situations that are embarassing or that could give you a nasty disease or some other bad outcome). You sure some of these guys aren't planning to slip something in a drink to drug you so that they can take advantage of you sexually? Think about this before you decide to go to one of their parties.
2006-08-02 18:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by MJQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think guys are annoyed with shy girls.. Not unless they are asking them something and the said girl just either shakes her head or nod.. Some are bothered because they may think that he is taking them to Snooze City.. In short, boredom...
Hey girl! I can describe myself exactly like you did.. People who meet me for the first time thought I'm a snob but after some fooling around and conversations, I proved them wrong. No need to worry yourself on these things ^-^ Try to open up little by little.. At first of course you'll be shy but after some time, you will end up having a good time with others and you'll show your true self..
If they comment that you are quiet, answer them back, jokingly of course. Say to them: "It's better to say quiet first.. Do you want a no-sense, noisy person rather than a quiet, sensible one?" Works everytime =p
2006-08-02 18:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how shy you are and how you act around them. Some guys might get the impression that you think you're better than they are because you don't want to talk to them much. I'd really have to see you interact with them to know if that's the problem. And I think many people go to bars for the conversation, so that might be the problem too. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. Have a good night!
2006-08-02 18:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need QUICK, friendly, short lines that are not invitations to long conversations.
Ask them how it went with the golf game?
How many came over to watch football at your house last night?
Where'd you get that new shirt?
Quick, snappy, factual questions that show that you care and remember what they say but which don't volunteer an endless conversation or consist of flirting.
It's just a knack and habit (flight attendants can do this flawlessly) that will keep you from being labeled "shy."
2006-08-02 18:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl n I'm shy til u get to know me. I'll sit in class quiet n not talk to anyone n wen ppl talk to me I get nervous...... But if ik u n were friends I'm a lot more outgoing .... I just get nervous around newer people n I get scared..... Guys always calls me cute n adorable cuz I'm shy, short, got a nice body, im sweetheart til u piss me off, stuff like that......
2016-03-26 21:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, im pretty shy around people im not that close with either. no you are not any of those bitchy or snobby peoplee for being quiet. just try and let go, you should go somewhere where no one knows you, loosen up and go back to where you were. thats what i did and now i often find myself around ALOT of new people. trust me, it sounds stupid but it helped to see what people often thought of me before
2006-08-02 18:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by CRUNCHATIZEMEEE! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya!!!!!!!!
Frankly speaking.....U mite have heard a quote-able-quote...
U OBSERVE A LOT BY WATCHING.....ever heard of..U mite hve...
Its Ur asset....dont lose tht....
Its nice...a +ve..point of Ur nature...human value....CHATTER BOXES......are empty headed.......mostly...talking on a useless topics..isnt it????
even in hindi there's a quote...."adh jal gagri chalkat jaye"
meaning...EMPTY VESSELS make more noise...nd show off more...
So ther's no point..feeling...sulken....And believe .me....IF U TRY to LEAD Ur life the other people way..U WUD NEVER BE HAPPY...
GOT IT>>>>>>
SO BE HAPPY...nd dont lose wht U hve....SUMTIMES SILENCE IS GOLDEN....
And as the question of guyz is there....it depends on person to person.....but mostly indian guys..still like sobreness...and shy nature of gals..as thts the what V call GEHNA(ornament of Indian gals...still)
Bye.....
2006-08-02 18:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by @niruddh@ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! its ok to be shy! i am 2 when im around people i dont know but once i get to know them i cant stop talking!! just be yourself around people and let them get to know the real you!
2006-08-02 18:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by moonlightdove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it does get annoying cus then you have to start talking, and when there is no answer it is really awkward. it is even awkward to sit by them, so just be more friendly and talkative to them
2006-08-02 18:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by nobreadwithvodka 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋