i like a kid who is a mormon.. he is 16.. but i want to know more about what he can and can't do.. and why he keeps trying to convert me.. it is kinda scaring me.. i told him already that i recently got confirmed and i am happy with my religion right now. i want to date him.. but i don't know if i can.. help please?
2006-08-02 18:12:35 · 7 answers · asked by meegles 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My friend Kyle and I have been friends since we were in 2nd grade (we're 21 now). He's Mormon, and I can sympathize with your predicament. Of course, it's easier to be friends than to get involved romantically. I told him long ago that we could stay friends as long as we both live as long as he doesn't force his religion down my throat, and things have been pretty good. It's not so simple if you want a relationship. Like someone else already answered, if you ended up getting married, either he would have to leave the church, or you would have to join it.
But... with all that said... if you're 16 and you just like the guy and want to date him, see if he's interested. You can tell him up front that you'll listen to what he has to say about his religion, but that you're happy with your religion right now and that you'd like it if he listened to what you have to say about your religion as well.
If he's anything like my friend, he won't be interested in anything sexual. If his parents don't object (they might), he can still be a great companion. It's not likely that a guy you date at 16 will end up being the person you marry anyway, so why not go for it?
2006-08-02 18:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by TOB 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are happy with your faith I suggest you date people that will support you in that and agree to raise children in that same faith. I know you are only 16 and probably aren't thinking about walking down the isle but I was your age when I started dating my husband. Now we are married two years and had a baby boy 7 weeks ago. If we had not addressed the issue "What faith do you have and do you want your kids to be raised in?" early on then we would have either had very broken hearts or a very tough marriage.
Not to down Mormons but they would require you convert, and before considering that make sure you know what they believe as some may drastically contradict what you believe. And if he is a really strict Mormon it is true that your family would be second fiddle. I hope that helps. I suggest becoming active in your church youth group. So many of my friends who are in successful marriages met their spouse in High School youth groups. But I met my husband in my high school. So you never know what God will throw your way. Who knows may this John Doe is interested in your faith anyway...
2006-08-03 01:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by QTPIEVL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I'm from Arizona and we have many Mormons here. Let me be very frank with you. Mormon men would love to sleep with you, but they will never be serious with you. Mormon men will always want to marry a nice chaste mormon girl from a good mormon family. Your only chance is converting, which sounds like it's not going to happen. My advice is move on. You will get hurt - guaranteed.
2006-08-03 01:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to move on. However; if you choose not to move on, let him know up front you don't want to covert as are happy with your religion. If he respects you and your mind that should be enough for him. If that is not enough and he is still persistent, then maybe he's not for you. And an FYI, he keeps trying to convert you because he most likely believes that you are in error and wants to bring you to what he believes to be the "truth". Stand firm in your faith and grow in knowledge of what you believe, so maybe you can show him why you believe what you do.
2006-08-03 01:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Fidei76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mormon boys taste good with barbeque sauce grilled over an open flame.
2006-08-03 01:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Daemon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. If you convert and your family doesn't, and you guys decided to get married, your family would not be welcome, because the wedding would have to take place at a temple, where only select Mormons are welcome in. (Not all Mormons are welcome at the temple).
2006-08-03 01:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by imagineworldwide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T.
He won't stop. Trust me.
2006-08-03 01:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Aemilia753 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋