Would you get upset if you found girl's phone number's on your boyfriend?

Question

I want some answers from girls who have a committed relationship, or who have been in one.

I was washing my hands and noticed my bf's wallet and some cards and paper laying on the counter. The moron left them there and right on top was a card with a girl's name and number on it!

When I asked him about it, he told me that he was at the store and the girl just started commenting on his clothes,she then asked what he was doing that night he said he was busy with his mom (he was helping her out with stuff).

She asked where he lived he told her, she said she lives close by. Then she offered him her number, and he said he didn't want to refuse it because he didn't want to embarass the girl. I was skeptical because he is very flirtsy, but says he wasn't flirting and that he didn't think to mention that he's taken

He said I made a big deal about it, and that no other girl would get upset...and that is what irks me. Is he right, am I crazy or would this upset any girlfriend?

thanks bethany, your probably the type of girl who gives out her number to men so easily.

I do trust him to go to the store alone, we do alot of things apart, did you read the question? He and I don't live together, he said he first met the girl and got the number ...at...a...store. He was there with his mom who was off shopping or something.

Answer 1

He's a lying cheater. He is pretty sleazy too by trying to get you to feel guilty about it when he is a big loser. Dump him. He's bad news.

Answer 2

First thing, how old are you? If your 15 to 20 , i can say a majority of girls will get thouroughly jealous, why? mostly because of the maturity and hormones. When i was 16 I went ballistic at EVERY girl and I did not Like to admit.As much as i hated to admit I was jealous I WAS, no matter if the guy was for real or not.
I'm 23 now and I realise, If the guy , depending on his character is real, then what ever it is, I keep my emotions in check.

There could be a few things and hoenstly, we don't know your guy at all, so we can't judge specifically what he is up to, I will let you be the judges.

1) Guys usually DON't like to make a big Fuss , if it really isn't anything. So if he can just leave things lying around, then he isn't a moron, but it proves he has nothing really to hide from you. WHy didn't he tell you then and you had to find out that way? SOmetimes guys don't say anything when it really isn't anything because they'd rather let it passs because they KNOW you will Kick up a HUGE unneccassary fuss that you won't let down. In that case, give him a break, think it over an dgive him benefit of the doubt.

2) The girl who gave him the number could be the one who gave the number. You don't know her, maybe thats her personlity BOLD and your guy could actually be in a position to not say NO, because if he did, he'd be in an awkward moment and that weird silence. I mean what if he always goes to that place. Anyway he said he was Helping his mum, does that really sound flirtsy to you???

3)YOur guy might not be tellign the truth, took the number from the chick, left it on the table because he really is an idiot and inthat case you shouyld worry , because if he can do it once, he can do it twice.

It usually is the first 2 answers. But you know, if he wanted to cheat on you, he wouldn't want to be with you and tell you , you are over reacting.

Answer 3

I am in a commited relationship (5 years now) and am engaged to be married next August. If I found those things, I would probably act the way you did. I try and restrain from doing so. If your boyfriend has told you that nothing is going to happen, then you need to trust him. Dont go thinking things you dont know happened, that will only stress you out. Just relax, have a serious conversation with him about this. Tell him how you felt when you saw the name and number and explain why you feel that way to him. Give him some time to talk and explain his side of the story. If he still agrees that he wasnt flirting, believe him. You need to have trust in a relationship. Without that, the relationship will go nowhere because you will be questioning it so often. Just talk to him about it and clear things up with him. Good luck and I hope everything goes well!

Answer 4

No, you are absolutely right to be upset. If he's telling the truth, and his only intentions were not to embarrass the girl, then it isn't something to dump him over. On the other hand, he could be totally lying, and was planning on calling her to hook up until you found the number. Only you can decide which one you think it is. However, even if it was innocent, what he SHOULD have said was "I have a girlfriend, and I wouldn't be comfortable with her picking up random guys' numbers, so I'm sorry I can't take it." Whatever the situation, he SHOULD have told her that he had a girlfriend.

Answer 5

Yes other girls would be upset, MAYBE he didn't want to embarass her but I think thats crap, a perfectly appropriate response is sorry i have a gf if he didn't think to mention that I would have a serious problem with it, and/or you don't need to keep the number, stores have garbadge cans and thats where he should have put it! Call the girl and tell her he has a gf and ask her what really happened, I bet she has a different version of events, plus she'll be happy to know how lame he is! Plus she might just do you the favor of letting you know if he does call her!

Answer 6

Gosh but you guys are critical! Give him the benefit of the doubt here. He may just not have wanted to hurt her feelings. The very fact that he left the card in plain view should tell you that he isn't trying to hide anything from you. You're in a committed relationship with him but you don't seem to trust him to go to the store on his own. He's right, you are making a big deal out of nothing.

Answer 7

I have been with my man for 6 years and if I found some girls number on him and I asked him about it, if he knows what's good for him he's gonna tell me the story behind it and he'd better not make a big deal about me asking. The whole point of relationships is being with one person and and being able to talk about things. And to know and feel that you are loved and respected. If he forgot to tell her that he's taken just tell him to make a mental note about it and throw it out there next time, but if it happens again I'd be gone.

My man had to learn the hard way. Some broad hit on him right in front of me and asked him for his phone number and everything and he just played it off but he never even acknowledged that I was his girlfriend. After that, lets say his memory improved 100%

Good Luck!

Answer 8

First,you are so not crazy I am kinda in your situation my bf has lots of woman friends who he is flirty with and one hangs all over him,then he expects me to say something cuz I don't like it.First,I suggest explain that I fhe is so intrested in the single life you could help him there,see if that straightens him out explain that you like your relationship and dont want it to end but his behavior is unexpectable.Or call the girl and ask I f he was flirting with her say that you are a considered ex who knows that he cheats on every girl he is with and you don't wnant another girl to get hurt the way you were,then say I don't know if I should tell you this but he currently has a girlfriend named melissia.That should stop her from talking to him unless the girl is a desperate slut.

Answer 9

Women are important in a man's life. Its those ladies that he will be looking to for female advice about how to treat you. If he only ever learned about how to treat a woman from men think about how you'd be treated. Its these friends, collegues, ex girlfriends, and sisters that you have rooting for ya. If you're scared about exes don't be, they are exes for a reason. And you can usually tell if he's buddying up to someone else or if its something you should worry about if you pay attention to how they act around eachother. If its noone you know, maybe ask him about it. That isn't anything that appears too jealous or crazy. If he says you are then he is covering something up. Good luck.

Answer 10

You should trust him. Although I'm a guy my brother has a lot of girls numbers on his phone. If he is a passionate guy he would be telling the truth. If he is never really nice or anything I wouldn't really trust him. Say you don't feel comfrontable and you don't think he's telling the truth. Say what you feel if he cares for you he'll understand. Oh i didn't read the last paragraph this wouldn't upset my brothers girlfriend she really thinks my brother is passionate. In your case I don't know, it really depends on how passionate he is. If he really never hurt you you could trust him.

Answer 11

Well, if I were in that situation, it would upset me because of the fact that he did not mention his girlfriend anywhere to the mystery girl. And he should not have to worry about embarrassing the girl if he told her gently that he had a girl, or if he accepted the number, got rid of it when she was no longer around. But of course that is just me =).