I don't think this is normal.. I NEED ANSWERS!?

Question

About numerous things.
First of all, I'm 17, I'm a dad, I take care of my baby girl, and my gf, we live in our o wn apartment, now don't mock us.
My first concern is, my gf never really fully recovered from giving birth, she has been sick in bed for a few weeks, doctors say its normal, but we both know its not. I've been taking care of her, and taking care of my 5 mth old. But she ran a high fever today, and was crying for her baby girl, but if our daughter has a weak immune system, and i couldn't let her get sick.. Should I be worried about my gf?

My daughter, has been refusing the bottle, and I don' t know what to do, when she crys, it isn't because she pooped, shes hungry, and I can't really feed her to well. What should I do ?

Answer 1

Usually when a baby refuses the bottle they have a sore throat,
or maybe the hole in the bottle nipple isn't big enough,as for your girlfriend,try taking for walks with the baby to the park on a nice day to cheer her up.Little by little she will start to feel better and realize she has a caring daddy for her and her daughter and she'll feel better.
good luck and Thats great that you are there for your gf and baby girl.Keep up the good work.

Answer 2

This is not normal and she needs to see a different docter. Keep on the doctors until you get an answer. The baby might just have gas. If the mother breastfeeds maybe u need her to pump milk and feed it to her in her bottle, that way she isn't in contact with the baby. Make sure you always burp the baby. If she won't eat at all take her to the docter's office and ask them what u can do. Also try different positions when feeding the baby.

Answer 3

The baby could be colicky. Only a dr can determine that. Your girlfriend should not still be sick 5 mos after delivering a baby, and if her doctor says that's normal, then it's time to find a new doc. The baby could also be fussy because babies pick up on their parent's stress, and she could sense how worried you are about her mommy. Congrats on being a teen dad who stuck around, now just get your girlfriend some medical help, so she'll feel better for the wedding.

Answer 4

ok i'm a young mother too. i had my son when I was 19. granted my husband is 34 but he was in VA for the army for the first few months he was born and I had him by myself. the baby could be refusing a bottle for a few reasons. is he's on milk based formula you might want to try soy formula. or he could just had bad gas. my son did at that age. burp him in a lot of diff positions. second, have family help. I know you don't want to seem helpless but you can take all the help you can get. so take it now! I had my family help. I couldn't have done it without them. as for the mother of the baby she might be going to post pardom syndrome. it's perfectly normal. i went through it. some doctors will tell you that she doesn't have it unless she has suicidal or murderous thoughts...that's not true. it could just be her symptoms of it are fatigue, sick, headache, bad temper, short nerve span. I didn't have suicidal thoughts but I had bad post pardom depression pretty bad. for almost a year. ask the doctor if she can try zoloft or another depression medication. see if that helps.

Answer 5

Listen Pal, Mother's milk is the best for the child. I am sure she can still have it from her Mom. Your GF is a Mom and like all mothers, she too must be aware about her responsibilities towards the child. Give her the baby and then tell her the necessary precautions she must take so that the child doesn't get sick. And, like others said, consult a doctor as well.

Answer 6

If your girlfriend is nursing the baby, it sounds like she could have mastitis (infection in the milk glands) and she needs a doctor to prescribe antibiotics for her. If this is her illness, the baby can and should be with her to nurse. Call the pediatrician about the baby, or better yet, call one of your moms. Even though you are making it on your own (I've read your other questions), you need someone to come help you, for the sake of your two women counting on you. If you can't call a parent, is there someone else who can help you? Friend, neighbor, grandparent, aunt? Good luck!

Answer 7

You need to take your girlfriend to a different doctor, if she's running a fever its not normal. Its probably best that you keep the baby away from her while she's sick. I don't know why your baby won't eat though, maybe she has a tummyache. you might need to take her to the doctor too. And I think its very commendable that you are taking care of your gf and baby.

Answer 8

i think your wife needs a second opinion from another doctor. some people recover in a couple of days and some a couple of weeks. but 5 months is a little long. i think that is good that you are taking care of your girlfriend and your baby, you are very supportive. does your girlfriend have communications with her mother? maybe she could go help you with your family. being that you are young parents you might need your parents to step in and help. i had my baby when i was 18 but my mom insisted that i stay with her while i recovered. and i am glad that i did,but it looks like your girlfriend is having some serious medical problems and needs to see a different doctor. good luck

Answer 9

Honey, you need to get a second opinion. Is there another doctor you can go to? A clinic or an urgent care center or emergency room? It doesn't sound "normal" to me that your girlfriend should be this sick for so long and your baby is ultimately suffering the consequences because she is being denied the mother's milk that is so important to new borns. Please get some help!!!

Good luck!

Answer 10

first of all relax!i know being a parent is tough and exhausting,but first i would find a new doctor and tell them what is the problem it could be minor,then i would see if a different formula helped such as a lactose free formula such as enfamil or any generic version in a concentrate it always worked with my fussy babies and i have five children.also try to give her as much help as possible and babies are a lot tougher then you may think,but find out what is causing the fever! good luck and your in my prayers.PS try to be more comfortable when you feed your girl she may sense your all tense