Girls, am I a strange guy?

Question

I am a guy that has a lot of friends that are girls. I never intended for any of these friends to be girlfriends, but several of these friends are obviously interested in more. I have not really had a girlfriend in six years, and I have kind of become cold or uncaring to the idea of a relationship. I just graduated college, and I really do not care much if I ever get married any longer. My parents try to hook me up with people for dating, but I take no interest. I ask this question because of my parents' prodding and several questions girls ask me about why "I do not like girls". I have plenty of friends, so I do not hate girls, and I AM NOT gay! I just wonder if my situation and view of things is strange. Thanks for the insight!

Answer 1

I don't think you are strange. I think you are smart. When the right girl for you comes along you'll know it and magically you will be interested. If you continue they way you are you will definitely be single to jump on the opportunity to be with her. The only con that I see in this situation is that people learn from relationships. They can be helpful tools when really trying to make it work with the love of your life. But, I think you'll do ok. You seem to have a level head on your shoulders. Good luck and God bless.... oh... and congratulations when you meet the one of your dreams (even if you're not dreaming of her yet.)

Answer 2

Hey, just be comfortable with yourself. It doesn't matter what other people think. You know what you like and that's all that matters. You have a lot of good friends and you're lucky for that, many people don't have any friends. For those friends of yours that want more, if they don't understand your feelings, maybe you should put more focus on the friendships you have with the ones that do truly understand you. And don't worry about what your parents think. It's very likely that they will always give you opinions that you won't want to hear. Try not to take it too personally - that's what parents do, whether you 18 or 68!

And don't worry about marriage, many people live fulfilling exciting lives and stay single throughout it all. Marriage could be absolutely wonderful, but if you're not into intertwining your life with your partner's and being able to easily comprimise with her on everything - it could just be a big interfering hassle.

When I was a kid most of my friends were boys. And even today my two best friends are guys. I've always considered guys to be a lot more fun!
One of my friends had bad experiences with step-fathers when growing up, so he's alway been more comfortable around women. But even if there is no way to explain, it's okay, it's normal. DON'T WORRY, BE HAPPY!!! =)

Answer 3

Not totally strange, its just that maybe your too serious with life.. always busy doin something that you really enjoy and never felt the emptyness coz you always have girl companions so you still feel ontrack with what women now a days are or "maybe" you're the kinda guy who is not really flirt in nature and much willing to wait for the right person to come along your way coz you just simply belive that she's no where to be found at the moment so why waste time for looking (just lettin destiny run your life).. unlike those typical guys that whenever there is a chance to court or worst to f*ck a lass, hELl yeah! he'll surely grab that opportunity..

So if you are what i tought you are, well what can i say? your just so close to perfect! i must say your girl in the future will be so much blessed for having someone like you..

Not strange, too CoOL actually '=) however, if your close to being 30 years old guy ahh that sucks! one should endeavors life existence.. we only have one shot! one life! so why waste too much time..

Hope you'll find your match! best of luck!

Answer 4

If you are not interested in sex you are unusual for someone your age.

If you are interested in sex but not a committed relationship, that's pretty common.

Unusual is not the same as strange. If you are happly, enjoy what you are doing, and have friends of both sexes, you are certainly not "strange" just different.

Some great figures in history, like Isaac Newton never had a romantic interest in the opposite sex.

And another possibility is you just haven't met someone with whom you might want a romantic or committed relationship with.

But if you are happy with your life, what difference does it make

Answer 5

No, your not strange. I understand where you coming from. I think you are just used to your freedom. And there is nothing wrong with you having more female friends than male. I'm a girl and I have more male friends that female. You are just popular with the girls. But if you like your freedom then you do as you please. Maybe you feel you don't need a woman to be happy. At least you can come and go as you please and don't have to answer to any woman. You live you life the way you want to. It's no ones business and if being a bachelor is what you want then you go for it!!

Answer 6

Yes, it's strange. You seem to be having emotional detachment issues. It happens to everyone from time to time, but six years is a little too long to stay in that frame of mind. It's almost as if you are stuck in the self-centered phase of life. That's what hardens you to the idea of a relationship. You like it being a "Me, myself and I" situation. Which is fine, if it works for you, but if it's not the way you see yourself in ten years from now, you are going to have to start changing that. Humans are creatures of habit. We are most comfortable with what we know. If you are comfortable with being alone, the chances of you being with someone in that sense after years of isolation from those emotions, is going to be a difficult feat to overcome.

Answer 7

You're waiting for the right person. That's no surprise. And it sounds like the more people bug you about it, the less and less interested you are. Did you get burned in the past? I did and I hated men for awhile. When you find the right girl for you, you'll know. Believe me, you will! There's no rush! Try not to stress it! It will happen.

Answer 8

I think you are just fine. If I had it to do all over again I would have stayed alone too. Dating is fine, but that's a s far as a person who wants to live a nice sane life should ever go...I know this didn't really answer your question, but atleast you now know you are not alone...

Answer 9

There are guys who can be friends with girls and expect nothing more. You just see them as friends without caring about the gender. Maybe you just have not met the right girl yet.

Answer 10

I just have to say that my husband used to be you to a "T". It just may be timing or whatever, but if you don't want your parents to butt in, just tell them that you are not ready to get into a relationship and when you are ready, you will make the move to date whomever you choose. It's nice that they are trying to help, but "help" is only appreciated when you want it. Otherwise it becomes stress. I hope this helps a little.