My cousin is having a baby shower and I really don't want to go. What can I say to get out of going and not hurt anyone's feelings? I'm planning on sending a gift with my mother-in-law. However, I have to send an email to the shower's coordinator and I'm not sure on what to tell her. Being honest really isn't an option in this case. Does anyone have any advice they could give me?
2006-08-02 17:31:41 · 11 answers · asked by Princess Anne 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I do not feel comfortable with some of the people that are going to be there. I have an infertility issue that I am working on that I don't want any of the family to know about. It is really hard and stressful for me to go to her shower.
2006-08-02 17:44:47 · update #1
I'm going to be late, I have to make a few stops and will be there as soon as I can. If I am runnint to late, I will call you. Sorry for inconvenience.
2006-08-02 17:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can give you advice, I just had a baby shower 2 weeks ago for myself, and I would tell her you can't make it something came up. You shouldn't have to explain yourself, just tell her you are sorry and ask her to lunch for just you and her. I had a lot of people not show up and it didn't matter because they called and told me and asked to do something with just them. Its better to spend time one-on-one then in a group. I didnt get upset so try that maybe it will help
2006-08-02 17:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by *.:marie:.* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of growing up is learning that it's not all about you. You are supposed to go there with bells on for your cousin. Don't cop out and take the easy way out. You'll be so proud of yourself if you act like a grownup. You cannot do this without hurting anyone's feelings and you will mark yourself as self-centered, as needing pampering, as incapable of joy for others.
My precious precious father just dropped dead in front of me recently. He was my best friend. Do you think I should carry that pain to every friend and not attend their kids' birthday parties because my friends' fathers will be there and I have so so so so much pain at the loss of my dad?
You're right, being honest isn't an option because you are trying to argue to yourself that because you have pain about something, you cannot behave like a grownup and (pretend to) be happy for people who have that which you are in pain about. And you wouldn't want to be honest about being so - what is that? envious?
How does that go - I used to be sad because I had no shoes and then I met a man who had no feet. Gain perspective, suck it up, grow. Do the right thing - you'll be so proud of yourself.
2006-08-02 17:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well...I'll be honest. I think you should go. I had a baby shower once. I invited TONS of "friends" and guess who all showed. my step mom (whom i didn't even invite cause we don't get along) and my little sister's babysitter. NONE of my friends came. I spent the whole time calling them and they all just decided not to go. and they're not just people i knew, but people i thought were actually my friends. I was so mad. don't let this happen to your friend,
2006-08-02 17:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ami-chan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didnt go to my aunts baby shower i am sorry to say, i had something come up. it was no biggy. i think she will understand. you shouldnt force yourself to do something you dont feel like doing.
2006-08-02 17:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by darkangel0_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you tell the truth. The truth always set you free!
2006-08-02 17:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget M 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her Your Busy or you have to work....Good Luck!!! I hope you become Pregnant!!!!!! God Bless!
2006-08-02 18:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by brookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you have a doctors appointment and you cant reschedule, or you think your coming down with the flue
2006-08-02 17:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Screew this i'm gonna go get some ice cream.
2006-08-02 17:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i use diarrhea for all my excuses and the thought of it makes people so sick they don't want to listen to you anymore so I hang up the phone and do a happy dance and enjoy my day doing what I want.............. hope this helps............
2006-08-02 17:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋