I cant handle this nomore,CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE HELP ME? PLEASE??

Question

What to do about him.I had my baby on the 31 of July, and when I had my baby she split me a alot, and when I came home from the hospital he wanted to have sex with me and I said that I cant because of what happened and he got mad and made me have sex with him and he made my spilt come back open and I was crying and kept telling me to shut up or he wont take to the hospital. I dont know what to do nomore when I was the hospital about to have the baby he hit me when they told me to walk around he smacked me. when we got home he took me to get something to eat and he got mad in the store and kept saying wait until I get you home telling me he was going to beat me up, and I asked him why dont he just hit me in front of all these people so they can see who you are, and I triend to leave and he dragged me out the parking lot to the car and he punched me.I dont know what to do nomore.

He is not my husband he is 18 and im 13 going on 14

Answer 1

I just checked out your previous questions and I see that you are 13 years old with 2 babies. You have been told numerous times over the last 4 weeks to get out of this situation, so you have no excuse for still being there. If you can get on yahoo questions and ask the same question over and over then you can contact the police.

Answer 2

Honey what you have experienced in ABUSE!! Call the police, get yourself and your baby to a shelter...the police can take you there and don't go back to this guy no matter how sweet or how much he apologizes or say's he will change. Tigers don't change thier stripes and you and your baby are in real danger! I know because I put up with it for 5 years...5 years too long and too many broken bones and bruises later....Someday he will kill you or your baby.

I know how hard it is to leave and all the head games they play on you when you do or try. I got beat for trying to leave and I got beat for looking the wrong way or not answering fast enough or not at all...for dinner not being ready or what he wanted, for not enough groceries in the cupboard, for the baby having a dirty diaper, for the dog barking or kids crying, for saying no to sex when I wasn't healed yet, for saying no to sex when my baby was in surgery, for having to go to the doctor because he had beat me black and blue and broken bones! The list goes on and on.....

Yes there is someone out there that will want you and love you and respect you! Yes you are loved by someone other than him! Yes you have somewhere to go....the shelter! But you have to get brave and you have to get guts and get outta there.... That's the hardest part...deciding and then actually getting out....

I had to get out and the only way I could get out was to say I was going to the store and when I got there I called the police and they came to where I was, took me home to get my kids and took me to the shelter. While I was in the shelter a woman from the victims unit came and helped me file a protective order against him. That made him leave me alone. You are under age and the police will be more willing to help you when an adult is hurting you

Then last of all...you have to get mental health counceling...or you will go right back to the same kind of relationship.

Answer 3

1. You are in a relationship that could land him in jail, not just for abuse but for having sex with you. He would become a sex offender and have to register for anywhere from 10 years to life.
2. You are really young to have two kids, you really should look into birth control like the shot so you dont forget to take the pill
3. If he really did rape you, you need to report it to the police
4. Where is your mother at? What kind of parents let their little girl get banged by an adult? that is just sick as hell
5. If you have been told before to leave and didnt follow anyones advice why are you re asking the same damn question?
6. I think you are making everything up. I doubt you have one kid let alone 2 and I seriously doubt your mom is going to let you be with an 18 year old.
7. Get off the damn computer and go to bed. its past your bedtime

Answer 4

13 and 2 babies! He should be arrested for statutory rape as well as physical and mental abuse. You need to call the police and a shelter now! Don’t wait until he does it again, it might be to late at that point. If you have time to post all these questions for help, then you have time to call 911 and a women’s shelter or one of the numbers or groups that have been mentioned here already. Just think about it, JUST DO IT!

Answer 5

is he to far gone for therpy? Don't feel like you have to stay on behalf of the baby, there are plenty of MEN out there that will take on the responsibility of helping you care for your baby. He really seems to controling and wants to own you. You need to get help starting getting your things in order to leave. If he wont leave then you and the baby go. Stay with friends, family, or a half way house until you can get you together. No one deserves abuse especially a mother and her child. Do yourself and your infant a favor and leave, It will only get worse. Dont give into him when he says he will change, thats only to give you false hope. Get it together women are strong, stronger than you can imangine. It will be hard but you can do it. Do you Girl, do you. Good luck!!!!

Answer 6

I know it is hard for some women to leave a situation like that and hard for others to understand why you haven't left already. I have known quite a few girls in your situation and they found it extremely hard to leave as they were scared of what would happen, while others kept going back when he said sorry. My youngest sister was put in hospital many times by her now ex bf. She collapsed at work and he was there telling all her work mates that she was faking it and not to pay any attention to her. Someone finally took her to hospital only to find out she had a collapsed lung and pnumonia. She came out of hospital went back to him and he beat her black n blue. She was a mess. In March she was found on the street corner screaming in agony covered in blood. Was rushed to hospital and it was all touch and go. We were very very close to losing her. She had to have a full blood transfusion. Her hands and feet were very blue when she arrived in hospital. She was rushed in for micro surgery. He also raped her that night. She is now pregnant with his baby. She went to councelling and refuses to see him again. It is a very big step to take, but I believe you need to do this asap for you and your baby. There are so many people out there who will help you, you just need to make the huge step and ask them. Please do something before he kills you and your baby.
Good luck sweetie

Answer 7

Call this number:
1-800-799-7233 or
1-800-787-3244

It's the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

"At the National Domestic Violence Hotline… We believe that every caller deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. We believe that every family deserves to live in a world free from violence. We believe that safe homes and safe families are the foundation of a safe society."

Here's the link:
http://www.ndvh.org/

Don't think about it and then talk yourself out of it.
You and your baby are in an abusive situation and there can only be a tragic ending if you stay with someone who wishes to harm you this way.
Eventually, he will beg your forgiveness with promises of never doing this again....but, don't believe him...once an abuser, always an abuser.
DO IT NOW!!

Good luck!

You say you are almost 14...where are your parents?
Can you talk and stay with them until you get this straightened out?
If he does this again...tonight, tomorrow or whatever...please call 911...your life and the life of your baby could be in danger.

Answer 8

Oh sweetie get out of there as fast as you can! There should be a shelter for battered women in your area. your local police station should have the address and number. If they don't call your church pastor or clergy or priesthood leader or who ever. There is help out there for you. Don't let him do this to you. It's against the law. Send him to jail if you need to but get out of there! Get your baby out of there. If he'll do this to you he'll do it to the baby if it cries or doesn't do exactly what this guy wants. I've seen it too many times. they don't change either. You deserve better!
Don't let this guy abuse you for another second. Get out of there fast and don't ever look back. There is too much beauty in the world for you to enjoy. Don't let this guy turn the world ugly for you. There are lots of help programs out there for you. You can do it better by your self than you can with this guy. I know - I left an abusive husband and took myself and my 18 month old daughter to a better life! that was over 25 years ago. I only wish I hadn't waited as long as I did. Have faith in yourself dear. You deserve better. I send you strength and love - and faith. Believe in yourself. You and your baby are better off without this sorry excuse for a human being.

Answer 9

Ok I have to ask... Where the heck are your parents? You soooooooo need to leave this guy. Press charges against this jerk. Not only are battery and rape crimes so is statutory rape. I can't imagine your parents letting you date someone that much older than you. I'm not even sure if you can do anything against him without your parents/caregivers help.
You've put yourself in an adult situation now you need to act like one. Take charge of your life! Get away from this jerk.

Now I have wasted five minutes of my life on something that is probably a sick joke.

Answer 10

I know this is easier said than doing, but you need to leave him. No one deserves someone else beating on them. You are suppose to wait at least six weeks after giving birth to let your body heal before having sex. Honey, it sounds like you are in a very bad relationship. Please get out while you are able to. Do you have someone to help you you? Seek out a shelter for battered women is one of your alternative. How old is this person? File charges on him and don't drop them because that is assault and battery.