Should I be worried..?

Question

About numerous things.
First of all, I'm 17, I'm a dad, I take care of my baby girl, and my gf, we live in our o wn apartment, now don't mock us.
My first concern is, my gf never really fully recovered from giving birth, she has been sick in bed for a few weeks, doctors say its normal, but we both know its not. I've been taking care of her, and taking care of my 5 mth old. But she ran a high fever today, and was crying for her baby girl, but if our daughter has a weak immune system, and i couldn't let her get sick.. Should I be worried about my gf?

My daughter, has been refusing the bottle, and I don' t know what to do, when she crys, it isn't because she pooped, shes hungry, and I can't really feed her to well. What should I do ?

Answer 1

You having a hard time here. Try seek a baby sitter or your parents to help or advice you.

Answer 2

Yes I would be concerned about both of your girls! If your girlfreind is running a fever ..I dont think the baby-blues should even be considered. Has the doctors done blood work? Usually when you run a fever your body is saying somethings wrong. If your daughter is not eating..this is a big problem too! Babies will dehydrate very easy which then will lead to other problems. Take them both to your local emergency room and tell them you feel theres a problem. While you are there ask to speak with someone to answer your quetions about ways to feed your daughter and ant other questions you might have. GOOD LUCK !

Answer 3

OK, first of all, I'm a teacher, and a mother of 2 children, 12 & 15. I'm 44 years old.
I had my first at 29, and my last at 31.

The first thing you need to do, is call your girlfriend's gynocologist. Make the appointment for her. You can also call the hospital to speak to a nurse/midwife. They can tell you exactly what to do. She is probably going through post partum depression, but you say she is running a fever? Moniter it with a thermometer. The mercury for a normal temperature is 98.6.
If it gets to 102, call the nearest ER. Because if it gets past 103, she could pass out. If she is under 18 also, call her mother. Make her comfortable. Put cold towels on head, feet and body while you make those calls.

For the baby, did you heat up the formula correctly? Give her a bottle of water with some clear KARO syrup in it. Is the mother breastfeeding? She would need to pump it out.
Ask the nurse/midwife what else you can do. She may advise you to bring them both in to get checked out. She could be colicky. Make sure that you burp her after each bottle, for the air to escape from her stomache. Calm down. You better eat too, because it sounds like you're in for a long night.

Don't give the baby to her unless she is breastfeeding, and you stay with her. If her temperature continues to climb, you have to go to ER. Now get off of this computer and MOVE!!!

Answer 4

being 13 i cant really say i have experienced this, but if i were u i would take my child to the doctor and tell my wifes physician to get off his *** and run some tests on your gf. she seems ill and ofcourse childbirth can weaken the immune system but my aunt had no fever and was off bedrest within the week. i feel for u. have a doctor look at your child and make sure there are no birth defects or illnesses she could have gotten from the mother. i hope your family gets well and good luck. much respect for taking responsibility, darkangel.

Answer 5

Yes, you should be worried about both - your GF and your baby. First of all, have you ever been to the Dr. with her. She is fife month post partum and feels sick since giving birth. That's not normal. So she needs to get checked out ASAP.
I assume your gf nursed the baby. Its hard for babies to get used to a bottle but you have to feed her. Evtl. she will take the bottle, keep trying its important for her to eat or she will dehydrate. Definitely seek professional help tomorrow.

Answer 6

Man I would really get a second opinion about her girlfriend that really doesn't sound right, I had post part-um when my daughter was first born but it lasting 5 months is way to long especially if she ill all the time. And about your daughter if she's eating other foods that normal for her to refuse her bottle just get as much formula as you can in her.
GOOD LUCK and congratulations

Answer 7

You are too young for all this, please take some help.
It is very normal, sometimes baby doesn't like feeder but you need to feed here every 3-4 hours. She will cry if she is hungry.

Why your GF sick, she should be ok by now. Did you check with Doctor.

Don't worry, with first kid everyone is careful. Get some help.

Answer 8

The gf seems to be having the baby-blues (she needs to talk to someone) and the baby, perhaps a little quiet time w/mommy will help both of them.

Answer 9

is you rgirlfriend suffering from postpardum depression? she should see another dr and make sure all the after birth is gone. As for your daughter good for you i looked at all the pictues. Beautimus baby. take her to see her doctor also it might really be something wrong, maybe she has gas. lay her across your lap ( belly down) and easliy bounce your legs. she might go to sleep and might not. see if that helps. good luck to you and your family..

Answer 10

first...i really think you should get a professional second
opinon next i'm proud that your trying to be the best dad and
boyfriend also if you have no other recourse seek aid
thru communiy programs planned parenthood,i hope this helps and good luck