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how many people would see themselves at a certian age (like me, I'm 25) at a certian place in their lives, I thought that by now I would be at least in a serious relationship possibly engaged, but when you get there your no where near where you thought you would be, doenst have to be married but just the goals and places you had set for yourself and didnt quite make it?

I mean I'n content being single but I found out today that one of my best friends is pregnant again, so happy for them, and a co-worker is getting married, very happy for her, I'm still in school working full time, I live with my parents becuase of stupid financial choices I made right out of high school, I just want to move out and start my life by myslef, ya I want to get married someday but I just want my own place and to be done with school and start my career.

Answer 1

As long as you still have air in your lungs, a soul in your body, and faith is in God. you still have time to accomplish. that goal. plus the many more you have not set yet!

Answer 2

Just Answering!
Many people would see themselves at a certian age (like yours, as you are 25) at a certian place in their lives, you thought that by now youwould be at least in a serious relationship possibly engaged, but when you get there your no where near where you thought you would be, doesnt have to be married but just the goals and places you had set for yourself and didnt quite make it?

You mean in content being single but you found out today that one of your best friends is pregnant again, so happy for them, and a co-worker is getting married, very happy for her, You are still in school working full time, You live with your parents becuase of stupid financial choices you made right out of high school, you just want to move out and start your life by yourself, ya you want to get married someday but your just want your own place and to be done with school and start your career.

Answer 3

I think just about everyone sets those goals and dreams for themselves. When we make that list, we make it up of our ideals, rather than reality. Life happens. Accidents, un-forseen circumstances, the environment, jobs, relationships...they all play a part in our journey. They are also factors that are beyond our control. Which, I've learned, is something we don't take into consideration when making our life time-lines. Don't panic honey, the majority of people don't accomplish what they planned to do in the amount of time they gave themselves to do it. The importance of that time line was to set a goal for yourself. You've done that, you know what you want. Now just keep plucking away at it...you'll get there. And if you are worried about time, consider this.....it's not how quickly you got from point A to point B that you are going to remember....it's how you got there that really matters.

Answer 4

You can't just assume things are gunna be picture perfect. To be blunt, life isn't fair. I mean, we'd all like to marry early to a rich spouse, have a nice car/home, have kids, and have one big happy smiling family. The fact is, we are human - we will never be fully satisfied.

But on the lighter side, look at this as a positive notion. You still have a chance to have fun, and not have all the burdens of keeping up with a family, while being single. Just keep looking and you'll find a good guy.

And even if you don't, keep your chin up. ;)

Positivity and Confidence is key.

Answer 5

I think that happens to about everyone, in one way or another: Some people make it to their goal..but then ask themselves "now what?" or feel upset that they didnt do anything but have a planned out life... OR some people end up getting pregnant , or married ahead of schedule, or to someone with children already...then they are in disbelief that they are 21 with 3 children and 2 dogs... Its okay to not be where you imagined you would be, it wasnt meant to be that way. Eventually things will fall into place, but you just have to let it. Goodluck in all you do :-)

Answer 6

trust me your not alone! we all think this at one point in our lives how we got to were we are and what happenned to our plan. things never quite work out the way we thought they would. im 23, have a secure relationship but am unsure bout my career choices and am now confused. i think there is too much pressure on young people. to get married have a family and house and all that stuff.

Answer 7

As long as your on the right path to eventually getting your goals done then your not a failure. And as for marriage your soul mate will come at the most unexpected RIGHT time in your life no matter how old you are.

Answer 8

Most people fail to reach their goals as planned. But getting married shouldn't be a goal, otherwise you'll feel rushed and end up with the wrong person.

Answer 9

Well when i was in elementary school they told us to visualize our selves in 30 years and to write down where we saw our selves.


in my paper i said that i saw my self as a wife and mother. With a good husband who loved me and adorable loving kids.


Today i am a 24 year old mother of three trying for 4th, wife to the most wonderful man (in most departments) for 6 years now.
so i guess i got what i wanted.
I guess i should have wished for money and a big house too!!
lol

Answer 10

well yeah but do not give up....sometimes you marry to soon...and then it all goes bad...i wasted 23 years with a abusive husband and now i am alone and i like it...i do not have to listen to his drunken mouth and abusive ways..and hitting me for no reason at all..and he was so jealous if someone talked to me...so just work from where you are now...take one day at a time and do not rush into anything...make a good life for yourself and if the right girl comes along then that will be great...