I still Feel connected to this person, is this wrong? I hope the best for her, yet I don't want her to drag me down to the depth of destruction in which we both once lived... I want to support her.. yet I am scared of our past...
Just Me JT
2006-08-02 17:24:30 · 7 answers · asked by I'M JT 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
you can write to her stay within guidelines ( the present) dont give her money dont make false promises to her, let her know your cleaning up your act and what was done in the past is done you cant change things and move on,if she is not willing to move on and wants things to be the way they were before you have to let her go, thats where she will drag you down. emotions are a powerful thing and she could lay a guilt trip on you and make you feel bad for whatever has happened. supporting her is listening to her, writing to her, be careful prisons are colllect callls to you if she calls you. support her mentally and emotionally not financially
2006-08-02 18:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since you are scared that maintaining your friendship with this girl could drag you back down, you owe it to yourself to let this relationship go. Sometimes in life you have to put yourself first, and I think this is one of those times.
You don't have to worry about her getting support. Women inmates form very close friendships with each other, and women inmates are provided lots of opportunities to work in prison jobs and pursue hobbies.
You said you hope the best for her, so I know that you are a kind, caring person. She will be all right. It sounds like you're grieving a little bit over her and the things that have happened, and I think if you contact her it will be harder for you to heal. Like I said, she will be all right. You need to take care of yourself right now, okay?
2006-08-02 18:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly it sounds like a history of drug use? If so, you need to protect yourself if you have moved beyond the old lifestyle. Support her from a distance. You are concerned about your past and having a clean future. Put your self-care first. If you don't have yourself intact, you have nothing to give anyway.
2006-08-02 20:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money, letters, and visits. Don't abandon her but if you get on with your life and make it better than before you could be an inspiration to her. Continue to be there for her.
2006-08-02 17:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by are u crazy?...cuz i am not! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help her in a way that no one would find out its u.go thru someone common.like her family member .someone u can trust
2006-08-02 17:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
writeaprisoner.com
2006-08-02 17:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money
2006-08-02 17:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by timothy r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋