we've been going together for like.. a month. and we're still in highschool. he wants to have sex but i told him to wait. the other night we were getting into it but i told him to stop because i was overwhelmed and my senses came to me. he got really mad and stormed out of my house. now he won't answer my phone calls or anything. i want to dump him but i don't know if this is what a typical guy would do. i need help, bad. i already posted this but i need more answers.. i seriously don't know what to do. do i confront him at work? should i let him keep on ignoring me?
2006-08-02 17:11:03 · 45 answers · asked by jenny lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really liked him. and it just hurts. his friend just IMed me and called me a teasing wh ore.. now he's telling all his friends!? this is getting out of hand
2006-08-02 17:39:13 · update #1
He doesn't deserve you. If he is not willing to wait until you are ready, then he obviously doesn't respect or appreciate you. Most guys that are decent will respect their girlfriends wishes and just be patient until she is ready. Unfortunately, a lot of guys are not decent men. You just have to wait for the right one to come along.
You really should just dump him and find someone more deserving of you!
Hope this helps!
2006-08-02 17:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should be proud of yourself! It takes guts to say no. If he can't accept the fact that you want to wait, then you're better off without him. If you don't connect on a moral and/or emotional level, then you don't have a good foundation for a relationship. Don't give in just because he's mad. There are plenty of girls out there who will have sex with anyone that comes along. Let him go find one of them! Stand up for yourself and let him know exactly how you feel. Definitely confront him so he is clear that you're not going to change your mind. Do it in a mature and firm manner. If he can't see things from your point of view and respect your feelings, then tell him to move on. There will be lots of other guys to choose from. Good luck!
2006-08-02 17:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by jengirl9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He stormed out of your house and he will not return your calls. He has already answered your question for you. Evidently he is not ready for a relationship based on more than sex. Never confront anyone at work. Dragging personal business to work is not a good idea. Work is for work only. As for him ignoring you, well...he probably is beginning to get a big ego boost from your continued pursuit. Let it be and move on.
2006-08-02 17:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the boot. He is a jerk for pressuring you. You should be the one mad. I went through this when I was 13 and he was 17. I regret it to this day and I am now 28. So kick him in the groan which is what I would like to do and move on. There is a guy that will respect you the way you need to be. Trust me.
2006-08-02 17:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me when I was in HS. He wouldn't answer my calls, then skipped school the next day, had a friend of his tell me HE wanted to break up. (like it was his idea) and when he came back to school the next day he told everyone he broke up with me because we did do it and he thought I was a S!@T. So, even if he doesn't answer your calls, dump him!!!! Have one of your girl friends with you when you do it and leave a message on his machine. She will be able to verify what you did. And be able to back you up if he starts spredding rumors about you or just being a jerk. When a guy gets his ego hurt sometimes they hide for a while then come out fighting, so be prepared for some rough stuff ahead.
2006-08-02 17:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by sunnychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to diminish backtrack, this changed into definately inappropriate and kudos for you for status up for your self! that takes lots. bear in mind: the flower of your virginity is something which could in easy words be shared with someone you want and who loves you decrease back. if he's mad at you because you does no longer placed out, then he isn't any longer a really reliable chum then, is he? If he tries something again, or starts off spreading rumors about this, get help from a instructor, consiler, or determine. do not complication about entering into hardship, they are going to be at liberty that you stood up on your rights. also, in case you tell your dad, you may properly be certain he receives what he benefits (wink, wink) god bless
2016-11-27 22:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by picou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a complete jerk to me...
But hey, if you really like him, you should talk to him. Try to make him understand that you are NOT ready for sex...but no matter what, do NOT let him talk you into doing anything you don't wanna do.
Truthfully, though...if he's ignoring you because you won't have sex with him, that might be all he wanted out of the relationship anyway. Someone who really loved you would accept the fact that you're just not ready and wouldn't pressure you into doing anything.
So if you REALLY REALLY like him, talk to him. If not, forget him and move on.
2006-08-02 17:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by ?confused? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever the woman is the one bringing self control, restraint, prudence, foresight, etc. etc. etc. to a relationship it is a very bad deal.
You want to be with someone who shares your aspirations, values, impulses, level of maturity, etc. etc. etc. not with someone whose conversation you generally enjoy or who looks pretty to you but who has entirely different motivations than yourself.
This guy doesn't even seem to care that even if you did have sex with him that you would be experiencing remorse, doubt, anxiety, disappointment that you gave in anyway, etc. etc. etc.
All he cares about is what he wants to do now, without regard for the other person who is very much involved in the process.
The guy is a total *sshole, no matter how pretty he talks.
Not only should you wait for sex, but you should probably wait on a relationship period, until you are out of highschool.
Guys in highschool are very much driven by peer pressure, juvenile ideas they see in movies, television, their boyish penis needs, etc. etc. etc.
Do you want to be with a man someday with whom you can live a satisfying and real life. If you do, wouldn't you want the ultimate intimacy with that person, rather than intimacy compromised by a moment of indiscretion into which some childish boy pressured you because his penis was ready for fun.
Dump the jerk and be very careful about being in relationships until you have a job, are paying bills, living day to day in the real world, etc. so that you can see what is important and enjoy a substantive relationship with a mature man rather than regret later that you were such a goof off in your youth.
2006-08-02 17:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the loser hes only with you to screw you... Sorry that sounds harsh but hes behaving like a spoilt brat whos not getting his favourite toy. Ignore him hes doing you a favour by not speaking. A normal guy would use the art of conversation to try and tempt you into having sex not throw his toys out of his pram. Just wish his next girlfriend good luck with him.
2006-08-02 17:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by Gar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is such a typical situation in high school....in my opinion...NO ONE in high school should be having sex..it's just NOT worth it...too many hearts get broken....if he really loved you, he would respect you and your boundaries. Good job for not giving into the pressure. I think you deserve a better boyfriend who will respect you and not demand that you meet his needs cuz he happens to be horny. I think you shouldn't confront him....but if he confronts you...explain that you have certain boundaries and are going to stick to them...this is a big issue and unfortuately you might decide to break up if he doesnt clean up his act. Just make sure if he does change his mind that you can trust him and nothing will happen that you will regret
2006-08-02 17:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by pirate_holla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋