I'm tired of people telling me I made a mistake...?

Question

I'm 17, I'm a daddy to the most beautiful baby girl in th entire world.

I am still madly inlove with my girlfriend, and tommorrow night, I'm going to propose to her.

& Frankly, people always tell me I made a mistake, and that my daughter isn't living the life she should. Look at these pictures below, and tell me how the love of my life is a mistake...
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http://images.myphotoalbum.com/s/sa/sam/sama/saman/samanthadelillo/albums/album02/Samantha_234.sized.jpg
http://images.myphotoalbum.com/s/sa/sam/sama/saman/samanthadelillo/albums/album01/Samantha_270.sized.jpg

Is that a mistake..?

Answer 1

Congratulations. She's beautiful. Don't listen to those people saying you made a mistake. It's only a mistake if you abandon that baby (which most guys would) It's your life only you can decide if your ready for marriage, just make sure you do it for the right reasons, you can be as much a part of her life without doing it.

Answer 2

You are young, and i am sure your girlfriend is too. I am sure when your girlfriend first found out she was pregnant you both were scared, Did you think at that moment you both had made a mistake, I am sure you did, and thats how other people see it until they have a child and can see how beautiful they really truly are. There is so much love that comes from a child that it changes us. In your lil girls eyes you are not 17 you are just her daddy, so it doesn't matter if you are 30 to 17 you are always going to be her daddy, so what everyone else says to you doesn't matter you know what you want in your heart so go for it. Stay where you stand, others will always say stupid s**t to you. Your lil girl can't be a mistake because you have so much love for her, she is very cute. Do what your heart tells you it sounds like you want to propose so do it. Just keep going to school, so you can make a great life for your family.

Answer 3

I dont think you made a mistake. There are a lot of men that run out on a woman after they get her pregnant, you get a lot of respect from me for staying with the mother and helping her raise your child. If your daughter wasnt living the life she should, she would have been taken away from you guys, just ignore people. I became a mom for the first time at 17 (5 years ago) and I dont think I made a mistake except for who the father is because he aint around. The only mistake you could have ever possibly made is the one thing you didnt do (act like a baby and run). It would be a mistake to take off. Good luck on proposing to her. I hope you all have a happy life together.

Answer 4

yeah maybe you DID make a mistake, my mistake is named Alyssa, she's 5 1/2 years old and she is the BEST mistake I ever made!!! And she's pretty to boot!! I think no baby isn't living the life they should if they are well loved, do you think your baby cares whether you have money in the bank, or the latest toys to play with (my kids would rather have the box it came in, I threatened to get my son empty boxes for his first birthday). There are parents out there that have all the money in the world and they are sucky parents, there are people in the world that are older than you, that doesn't make them good parents. If you love your baby (regardless of how you feel about the mom, but good for you if you love her like you say you do), that's enough, if you try your hardest for that baby to make sure she's happy and healthy then no one can say you are making a mistake. My mistake cost me dearly, because of her I'm no longer alone in the world, I have purpose and happiness, before her I was depressed a lot, but I haven't felt depressed since the day I found out I was pregnant. I ended up marrying my boyfriend who got me pregnant, 6 years later and one more baby, and we're doing GREAT! So don't let the world tell you you are making mistakes and should be unhappy when you have the whole world in front of you and life is what you make it.

Answer 5

I don't believe that your baby girl is a mistake, I'm a mother of a 5 month old and I KNOW she is not a mistake. I think what people may be saying is to not jump into things with marriage just because you have a child together. The only other thing I can say is regardless of what other people say and give advice to is just that "advice". It is just someone's opinion. At the end of the day, you are the one that has to take responsibility for your actions and live your life to the best of your ability. If you believe you are in love and want to get married, go for it. Just remember, it takes more that love to make a relationship work. And it only gets harder when you are trying to shape the life of your little girl. I hope this helps.

Answer 6

If you are ready, well you have no choice but to be now, she is beautiful.
You should go for it, and make it legal.
But don't just ask the mom because you want to do it for the baby, although that's sweet , sweet don't pay the bills, and sweet won't make you stay. Marry her because you really love her, and you are ready to put your all into it. Let her know that you might make some mistakes along the way, but together you can overcome all of the obstacles and be a real family. That plus the fact that you love her enough to marry her, when most guys your age would shirk their responsibilities. That's a big plus in your favor. It means you really are a man now. She's sure to be the envy of all her friends. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Congrats, your baby is adorable!! And OF COURSE not a mistake.
But....I have to agree with Blkrose65, there's alot more to parenting than making a pretty baby...
Here's the deal. Even for someone twice your age, raising a baby is alot of work and sacrifice, not to mention expensive. People are just worried that you haven't considered the sacrifices you're going to have to make. You're not living for you anymore, it's all about your baby. You may have to give up college plans, and going out with your friends may be a thing of the past. Quitting your job cause you absolutely hate it? Can't do it, need the income. You're only 17, and there's lots of stuff you haven't done yet, and now some of those things may be out of your reach, at least for now.
PLEASE don't get me wrong, every second of that sacrifice and work is soooo worth it!!
Think about it this way. You have hopes and dreams for your baby, you hope she gets everything she wants from life, right? Your parents have the same hopes and dreams for you, and they're probably just concerned that now some doors are closed for you, if only temporarily.
I think "mistake" is a truly bad choice of words....but they probably do have your best interests at heart =) All that being said, you're very lucky. I wish all the best to you and your new family, congratulations!

Answer 8

You will only know if it is a mistake by looking back 10 years from now. You have taken on a big responsibility that most 17 year olds are not able to face. But with hard work and the support of the rest of your family you can make it. Good luck to you and your new family.

Answer 9

Awwwwww, such a beautiful little girl and no, no child is a mistake...having unprotected sex is never a wise thing when you're sooo young and unmarried, but say what they might, your "wrong", "mistaken" actions eventually led you to a beautiful life who you will no doubt start living every day for, and hey it might make you into a better person (as kids usually do)...

I commend you for being involved in her life and i wish the best for you and your gf, its going to be hard, yeah, but as long as you both put effort into it you'll do wonderful!

You and your gf are doing a wonderful job with the baby (from what can be told from those pictures)...such a beautiful baby! (I have a 7 month old girl and am very much in love with her)

Answer 10

Hi there,

You have a beautiful daughter, very innocent, and like a sponge, ready to absorb all that she will experience, good and not so good.

You didn't say how old your girlfiend was, how long you have had a relationship with her, and if your relationship is a good one up to this point.

It is really up to you yourself, and your girlfiend and herself to decide this question. You two will have to be the one that makes your relationship work for the long, long run. In the short run, biology, chemistry, and what feels like love is your main attraction to each other, and by the way, it is really that way with all of us in the beginning old or young.

You and your gal know each other to a degree but it is after you are married for several years that you will really know each other. In these first several years you and yours will learn things about each other that you do not like-----that is normal. The challenge then becomes to be able to overlook each other's quirks and make a succesfull marriage. It is literally work at times.

Now, what does this have to do with your beautiful little girl. Everything, as if you have a poor marriage or end up in a divorce, this will affect your beautiful little girl in a negative way.

This is what you must really consider assuming that you want what is best for your young daughter: Is there a good posibility that your marriage to her mother will result in a loving, nuturing, relationship that will allow your beautiful daughter to grow up in a positive manner?

One can never know for sure how things will turn out in life, but it is certainly important to start out on the right foot.

Think of your daughter and what is best for her. As much as you love her, believe me, love is not enough to have a successful marriage and family.

Again, in the end, this decision is for you and your gal to make. If you two choose to get married, do so, and don't worry about what others may say.

May good things come to you