I am an adopted child and the people who adopted me abused me physically and emotionally, i ran away at 17 with my secret boyfriend who is now my husband,. I havent talked to my X parents since i was 21 and i did find my real parents, my mom however is not what i expected in respect to a loving affectionate caring mother, she always tries to push things on me and control me and i dont think she has that right so we fight a lot!, anyhow i still am very obsessed with knowing where my x parents are and what they are up to, like knowing all about your enemies without them knowing. I want to go to my x parents house and show them how im not afraid of my x mom and tell her off for the **** she put me through since i never got a chance. I was very meek when i lived there and had no courage or anything, now im a lot stronger. What should I do? Also my biological father i havent spoken to in 3 years thanks to my real mom telling lies and him smoking pot, should i try to reconnect??
2006-08-02 16:53:52 · 6 answers · asked by Tabbitatt 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am sorry you had to endure such a difficult childhood. You know children are the only people on Earth that are "entitled." When we are born we are conditioned to believe that we are entitled for our parents to take care of us, love us, and cherish us. Anything else is unacceptable. I believe you feel a strong sense of entitlement to go to your x parent's house and vent your anger and frustration onto them. However, deep down inside, you know that it will only hurt you more. They will deny ever abusing you, and make comments like "I'm sorry YOU feel that way," or "I'm not sure why YOU are doing this to us...." Therefore, you could use the "empty chair" technique and sit in front of an empty chair and pretend your x parents are sitting across from you and vent your feelings to the chair. This is very therapeutic actually. Also, keep a daily thought record of your feelings.
2006-08-02 17:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are better off staying away from all those people. sounds like you're doing just fine don't torture yourself thinking about how to get back at them or confronting them. leave all that ugly stuff behind and make a better life for you and your husband. when it comes to your biological dad, if he's willing to believe your moms lies, he's not worth it either. plus he's a dope head, you really need to move on and let all that stuff go.
good luck to you both.
2006-08-02 17:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from people who hurt you.Don't try to search the things which are hidden and things which hurt you.Be happy with people who like you-your friends and your husband.But if people are good and if they care for you ,you can reconnect.
2006-08-02 20:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by PINKY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, sorry u have lived such a rough life and i know it must be hard, but i think u will just cause more heartache if u went back.. I think u are better off just staying away from them and keep on bettering ur life.... GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-08-02 17:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try searching in YellowBook.com, ot Yahoo! ppl search...
Good Luck-- & B brave...
Someday, I hope I have the courage to do that to my parents... (they abuse me& stuff also)
2006-08-02 17:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by Xx_Lily-FLOWER_xX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be happy with your husband. be satisfied with your life. think of the present and the coming future. let the past go away.
2006-08-02 17:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Vanessa. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋