My brother, his wife and their kids visit from out of town several times a year. They stay at my house. I don't mind having them in because my sister in law and I are real close. The problem is my brother is an alcoholic. He drinks several beers a night before passing out. My sister in law drinks with him, only not as much. But it's enough to keep the two of them from tending to their crying toddler who wakes in the middle of the night from bad dreams. Usually the child cries for about 20 to 30 minutes before me or my husband get up to shake one of the parents out of their drunken passed out state to take care of the kids. My husband's work schedule is very complicated and on his dayshift requires him to be up at 4am and in bed around 10pm. The kids are still stirring, loudly, while he is trying to get his sleep. How do I ask them to stop drinking the beer in my home and to keep the kids quiet when visiting.
2006-08-02 16:17:41 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Everybody is right: Your house, your rules.
As a former alcoholic, several people told me I could not drink while visiting them. Rather than stop drinking, I stopped visiting. It was consequences such as this that caused me stop drinking.
Be open and honest.
2006-08-03 04:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by raysny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell them before they come to visit you that there is a new rule(being absolutly no drinking in your home). Of course this might cause them to go out and drink, which still wouldn't help the fact that they sleep through their child's crying. So politely tell them the kids have to be in bed early than usuall(say around 9pm). THIS IS YOUR HOUSE- YOU MAKE THE RULES. If they don't want to follow the rules out of respect towards you, then they need to find a hotel somewhere. The best of luck to you.
2006-08-02 23:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by save_me_now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't say something to them you are adding to the problem. Tell them this is affecting you and your family in a negative way. Also tell him it is very destructive to his family. If he doesn't agree to stop then bar him from visiting. But don' stop there. Love him, let him know you are there to help him out of this destructive behavior and will do whatever it takes. Pray for and with him.
2006-08-02 23:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove any alcohol from the house before they come. As for keeping the kids quiet, sorry.
2006-08-02 23:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you are no longer allowing beer to be drank in your home. the home belongs to you and your husband. please do not allow anyone to interfere with your relationship. in the end, they will still be drinking and the kids still crying. however, I would seriously talk to my brother and tell him & his wife that their problem is not only effecting them but their children as well.
2006-08-02 23:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by NaijaPrincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR home and you need to set the rules. Simply tell them from this day on, no alcohol is allowed in your home.
2006-08-02 23:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time he plans to visit your house, just tell him that that is YOUR house and drinking will not be allowed!
2006-08-02 23:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by brat71825 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them strait out. they cant do that to you.
2006-08-03 00:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jocelyn A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you should tell him.
2006-08-02 23:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by fizzmemethomas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋