Does anyone have any tips on how i can give my 7 yr old a positive attitude?

Answer 1

Have one your self they are watching and learning your behavior. Reward good behavior and discipline not so good. Always tell the child you love them not matter what, even if it during the not so good behavior. Even at 7 they have the understanding of communication keep those lines open.

Answer 2

Establish a consistent routine and a consistent set of rules. Do things at the same time every day. Kids need the security that predicability offers. Most behavior problems stem from the child not knowing what is expected from them. So they test the limits. If they don't find a limit they keep searching. If the limits keep changing, that causes frustration and thus the bad attitude.
Kids are not adults in small bodies. They are kids and should not be treated the same as you would an adult. Don't fall for the "That's not fair." arguement. Nothing in life is fair and the definition of fair to most seven year olds is connected to getting their way. Establish the rules. Be consistent. Things will get better.

Answer 3

Mostly by modeling one yourself. Some kids (and adults) are naturally more positive and resilient than others. Some folks are born worriers and perfectionists. You can't change basic personality. But you can show your child, by example, how to be optimistic, assume the best of other people, find the good even in bad situations, focus on the goal and not let temporary setbacks derail your intentions. What your child needs to learn is that the only thing we have complete control over in life is our attitude. Stuff happens, but we can determine how we are going to feel about it.

Answer 4

Being 7 is hard. A kid is old enough to understand complicated things, but they don't have a frame of reference of personal experience to draw from. Example, they understand that mom and dad make X amount of money, but they don't understand, but they don't understand why they can't afford a new Xbox360, when it's so much less than the X amount. They can't grasp the fact that there's bills to be paid, since they've never had to do it and it's not something they can learn in school.

If you want your kid to have a more positive attitude in that respect, I'd get them involved in helping out the less fortunate families in the community.

Answer 5

This sometimes works. You need to think of simple helpful tasks that he can accomplish on his own, (something a seven year old won't know is easy) then let him do it- by himself.

Then when he does it, kind of make a big deal about it- to friends and family. Make sure he does it on his own though, or this will backfire.
And you cannot MAKE him do the tasks, he has to WANT to do them himself. Otherwise he'll just be mad you made him do something.

Kids like to know they are able to do things without anyone's help, and this gives them a sense of accomplishment, and will probably affect his attitude.

Parents have to stop doing everything for their kids, because in the long run it prevents them from developing independence.

Answer 6

Take some parenting classes. They work. Children do not come with an "owner's manual." You need to pick up skills that will help your child advance through the normal developmental stages. Also, it is not just helping "him" have a positive attitude. Children respond to how they are being treated. Are you using and or modeling healthy communication skills and behaviors?

Answer 7

The best tip is to have a positive attitude yourself. I'm going through the same thing.

Answer 8

This is hard, but I have found that the best way is to be positive yourself, and limit complaining in front of your children. Then, a good spanking has helped many a bad attitude! Good luck.

Answer 9

whenever you are with your 7 year old and he starts having a bad attitude tell him that he is no fun to be around and that you don't want to be with him until he has a good attitude, if that doesn't work you can e-mail me for more suggestions, i babysit little kids that age so i know a lot about that kind of stuff

Answer 10

kids model their attitudes from the adults in their lives. the absolute best way is to have a positive attitude yourself. also, talk to your kiddo about why he or she may be feeling negative. start to help your child problem-solve and try to see things in a more positive manner.