I can't figure out why i haven't had a boyfriend in the past two years. I'm 14, 130 lbs, 5'4", red hair, green eyes. I play tennis everyday so i'm not fat. And to top it off I wear a C cup. I get straight A+'s and i'm nice to everyone i meet(due to the fact of having to make new friends from moving). Why won't any guy go out with me?
2006-08-02 15:27:54 · 29 answers · asked by Krayola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you should concentrate on playing tennis and hanging out with your friends. You're 14....not having a boyfriend is perfectly ok! :) I didn't have my first relationship until I was 19. That relationship didn't work out, but I have found my "one."
Let a good guy come to you...don't stress on it so much...guys might see that you're doing that too and it'll scare them off. As far as your body...don't really try to use the way you look to get a guy...because then you might end up with some jerk who only wants your C cup. I had a few guys who did want to go out with me in high schoo, but breasts had a lot to do with it...I kicked them to the curb REAL fast!
Be proud of yourself and realize that waiting will let you find the good ones :) Trust me!
2006-08-02 15:34:08 · answer #1 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow why are you worrying about boys when your only 14? I was a Mom at 17 and again at 19. I am not saying that I do not love my kids but for Gods sake live your life go out have fun, have girl friends that you can laugh with enjoy High School the way it is supposed to be. Boys are not that great especially when they are in High School they are arrogant jerks and think that they know everything. Trust me you are not missing anything. I am 24 now and have a husband, 2 kids, and love my life the way it is now I just wish that I would have had a childhood cherish yours and never let it go until you have too!!! Please for your sake and for your parents sake live your childhood the way it should be FUN!
2006-08-02 22:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedgirl3528 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might consider the fact that since you're only 14, its not really a surprise. 'Real' dating/boyfriend relationships don't happen until a little later, so I wouldn't beat yourself up about it. I would imagine with all that you have going for yourself it really shouldn't matter. Perhaps you are rating happiness on whether or not you have a boyfriend instead of just being happy with yourself as you are. My advice would be to stop worrying about it so much and just have fun. One of the biggest lessons I learned about women (I know you're a girl, but I think it rings true no matter if you're a boy or a girl) is that no one will ever like you if you become obsessed with someone liking you...make sense? People like you when you are genuine (things like being funny, good character, things like that-not just your cup size), so just be yourself and I'm sure you'll have 8 zillion boys knocking on your door in no time.
2006-08-02 22:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something wrong with you? I don't think so. Perhaps, its because you haven't met one that has caught your eye and is worthy of your charms. Guys can be a little shy around more independent gals and may be too nervous to make the move. It doesn't mean they aren't wishing they did. Plus, you're still young - you shouldn't worry about having a boyfriend for a couple years. But, its always nice to know they are out there and they notice -even if you aren't ready. They'll be there when you are - don't rush it. :-)
2006-08-02 22:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You play tennis every day. How about mixing in some activities that a guy might like to do with you like bike riding. Tell him you're going bike riding on Saturday and see if he wants to come.
If your goal is to get a date, none of the things you're doing are in alignment with getting a date, just getting looked at. You are going under the false assumption that good looking girls get asked out.
Don't expect young guys to take the initiative about a date. You have to step up to the plate. If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got.
2006-08-02 22:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh don't worry about it I didn't have a boyfriend at 14. It's perfectly normal not to have a boy. It's ok even great at times. Make new friends don't worry about guys they'll come soon enough and bring all sorts of freakin drama with them. Good Luck
2006-08-02 22:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Bast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... straight A's, red hair and green eyes (which a lot of American guys have a mild fetish for, btw), athletic and stacked... Krayola, a lot of guys your age probably find you a bit intimidating, in spite of the fact that you're nice to people.
Try interacting with guys in mixed-sex groups in situations that allow you to show your laid-back and funny side. Once they see that you're not some untouchable goddess, guys will be more willing to approach you.
Let me know how it turns out!
2006-08-02 22:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you like any guys? You could start there. Maybe because you are nice to everyone when you flirt with guys it doesn't register, because that's how you act all the time. But love, trust me, guys aren't all that great. They break your heart and give you reputations. Really not worth the time or trouble!
S
2006-08-02 22:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sam I Am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down you 14 you have the rest of your life ahead of you!!! I loved being single. Im 22 and when i was your age i wasnt even thinking of boys. i was concentrated on my work and the activities that i was in i didnt need a b/f. And now i found the most wonderful man of my life.
2006-08-02 22:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The face baby.. the face... do you have pictures to show the community for concensus? All your numbers sound outrageously beautiful, but if we need to admire you with the lights off, then that could be the reason...
You're obviously a very ugly girl or a very beautiful monster...
2006-08-02 22:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋