2006-08-02 15:10:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to be more specific. What problems are you having?
How old are u?
2006-08-02 15:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄ƷPetoonia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you get more detail. Me and my dad use to fight all the time about the most stupid stuff. now he isnt here (died in 2002) now i think how stupid i was. all that time i could of been spending time with him i was wasting fighting about really nothing to important. AN if you are a teenager once you grow up believe me you will find out that he isnt all the unreasonable and was probably right . Probably doest seem like it now i know i went through it too. I got kicke out lived on the streets and believe i would of rather been at home listeningto my dad and putting up with the stupis rules just to be ina nice bed and heat/cool house and food then out there on the streets. the most important people in your life are you parents. dad use to say i am not doing it because i hate you but because i love you and in the end..............he always did
2006-08-03 02:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by etta d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calmly tell him that you would really like to have a heart to heart talk with him because you feel upset about your relationship with him, and you both need to CALMLY agree to disagree without flipping out.
It has to be HEART to HEART talking about how you both feel and not placing blame on each other. It really helps if you both can talk about how you feel, and if you both make a point of LISTENING to each other. Beforehand, agree to talk again later If at any point either of you starts to get irritated.
Good luck and don't give up. You never know how long Dad or you will be around. I have a friend who had an argument with his father, then his Dad died of a heart attack before my friend had a chance to make things right. To this day [ 10 years later] it still haunts him.
2006-08-02 22:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVING UP ALREADY? How about sitting down with him and (without shouting or name-calling) suggest that each of you verbalize what's wrong that you fight every day.
Emphasize that you want to CHANGE so that you can have a productive relationship, not a destructive one.
Then each take 5 minutes to talk without interruption. LISTEN to each other, then agree to have the same chat at least once a week.
Good Luck
P.S. The 2 keys are: no emotion & LISTEN
2006-08-02 22:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I'm sorry.
That isn't uncommon during the teenage years. They see their little baby growing up and they can't handle it because it means they are older, too.
Try having a low-key conversation with him during breakfast or some other time where you don't have built-up baggage for that day. Tell him you want a better relationship, I bet he does, too. You both want a better relationship but neither one of you know how to get there. Start that conversation. good luck!
2006-08-02 22:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you be the bigger person. It takes two to argue,don't argue with him. Tell your Dad that you would love to talk about things with him, in a calm, Dad and Daughter manner. If you feel yourself starting to explode, excuse yourself and leave the room.Family counseling would help.
2006-08-02 23:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to your dad about the problems you and your dad are having without any fights. just talk to him gently about the situations. me and my dad never got alone, we talk to eachother about things when we're both in a good mood so we don't end up fighting. I just avoid him when he's in a bad mood.
2006-08-02 22:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your still underage, ignore him and all the stupid comments that he has to say about you or what ever makes you mad. If your not underage, move out. That is the best solution because your going to be fighting all the time.
2006-08-02 22:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough, and it's not going to get any better until you both decide to listen, really listen to what the other is saying. Only then can a compromise be attempted.
2006-08-02 22:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by Zeke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is catch him in a good mood and talk to him, tell him how you feel. if he is receptive he will give his side of the story. if not, then you did your part. try to keep reminding him, calmly, about your talk and tell him you don't want to fight anymore.
2006-08-02 22:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. Life's too short to go through life with an unhelpful dad.
2006-08-02 22:15:28 · answer #11 · answered by rogue chedder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋