I am getting married in 6 weeks and my fiancee's brother and father are no longer with us. We would like to include them, but the wedding will be outside...Any suggestions?
2006-08-02 15:00:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You could do a wedding program that list them "in memory... " and toss a flower lei out to sea for each of them.
2006-08-02 15:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by wahine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely include their names in the wedding programs-say something like "In Memory Of......", and you could also reserve a chair for them with a candle on the chair, or some flowers on the chair, or a picture of them, a seashell or something with their name on it put on the chair or where they would have been seated at the reception-just something to let everyone know that those who have passed are not forgotten and that they still hold a special place in you and your fiance's heart on your wedding day! Good Luck!
2006-08-02 15:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about some of the rude answers you are getting here! :-(
I think something you could do would be leave two empty chairs with a framed picture (8x10) of each of them on a chair. Put some flowers and a candle maybe next to it. I have seen where people wrap a lei around the back of the chair in lay it across the front and then the frame on the chair with the candle in front of that. This is a special way to remember them and it's like even though they arent really "here" they are in spirit and could even be sitting in that very chair even though you can't see them! ;-)
Congrats on getting hitched! :-)
2006-08-02 15:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love Wahine's idea. A flower lei tossed for each of them would be beautiful. But I recently heard of releasing butterflys which could also be preceeded with a wish for those loved ones to be with you in spirit on such a special day. I've seen roses placed at the alter for relatives who had passed before and a oneliner was entered in the wedding program. Having been in this situation, my heart goes out to you both.
2006-08-02 15:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by socalmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I'm having the same issue to deal with for my beach wedding in November. We are having all family members names on a candle and it will be burring throughout the ceremony and reception. At the end of the night the appropriate person will take their candle, but our guests who are no longer with us there candle is going to their family. We are also having a message in a bottle for them, at the end of the ceremony it will be sent to sea and we will be thanking them for watching over us and blessing us with their continued love and support.
What ever you do, it is personal. Enjoy your day and the time you have with family.
2006-08-02 17:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Light a candle called unity or memory candles or have a special reading for that person,or make a toast for that person a t the reception,have a picture of them,have a song played for them,be creative and pick me as the best answear.jk!!
2006-08-02 17:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I honored all of the grandparents that were not with us by lighting a candle for them. Our pastor said,"Melissa is lighting a candle in honor Grampy Smith." The candles were lit at the beginning of the ceremony so we felt as if they were watching over us throughout the ceremony.
It will be a fun and hard day for your fiance, so to remember his loved ones will be special. Congrats and have a great day.
2006-08-02 15:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sand ceremony and sea shells, maybe even a candle sitting in sand, covered with a hurricane vase, so that the wind wont kill it. You could light it at the beginning of the ceremony to signify their "ever glowing/burning/lit presence in your heart, spirit and memories," and acknowledge their presence at the ceremony, even though they have passed away.
2006-08-02 17:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i got married a few years ago, my husband's small children could not be there as they were with their mother. i know it's not exactly the same thing, but we wanted to feel like they were there. so we brought a few framed pictures of them and had them sitting with the unity candles so that when we lit the candles it was like uniting the four of us as a family. they thought it was really cool when they saw the pictures because they could see the pictures of themselves there.
2006-08-02 18:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can light a candle during the ceremony and say in memory of those who are no longer with us, but are here in spirit.
2006-08-03 04:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋