Does anyone actually like their inlaws and how do you deal w/ the horrible ones?

Question

My sister in law is a competitive bi**h, and my mother in law is horrible. I had a miscarriage 2 weeks before xmas and my husband and I decided not to celbrate the holiday or his bday which is xmas eve. My mil told me to get over it, I was only 9 weeks it wasn't even a baby yet and her son was not about to miss celebrating his bday over me!!! What do you guys think? I'd love some input on this, am I the only one cursed with satan as a monster in law? lol? And my sister in law caused a huge brawl on my wedding day 15 minutes before it was over. I could seriously wrtie a nocel on these people!!

Answer 1

and i said one day, what makes her so horrible? so he took me to go and meet her, we all talked for a while, told her that i was pregnant, everything went well... then we left, and when she said her goodbyes to us and i was getting into the car she called out to me and said....you know where he'll be when your giving birth don't you, and i looked at her like ah duh??.. she said he'll be with his red head x girlfriend fuken her. i replied with, well, just because you was the town w#ore doesn't make your son one... last time we seen her.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. Some suggestions:

I'd make sure your husband is on your side and understands your frustration with his family. Try to come up with a plan on how to deal with them together. There may be times when he has to run interference with them for you when you've "had it up here".

At the same time, though, don't slam your mother-in-law to your husband. All it does is put your husband in the awkward position of choosing between his mother and his wife. She's probably just showing her insecurity because she's not the most important woman in her "baby's" life anymore. Try not to take her too seriously. If that doesn't work, try to avoid getting into any long talks with her. If that doesn't work, drop subtle hints about horrible you think she's being.

(On the positive side: In my experience, relationships with in-laws always improve when the grandkids arrive. Because now you're not just the she-harpy that married her son; you're the mother of her grandchild!)

Your sister-in-law is a different story. She ruined your special day, dammit. Ask your husband to tell her to back off. It's his family and you're still getting over your loss; you don't need to waste your energy on her.

Answer 3

I have been married for almost one year and my mother in law used to drive me crazy. I didn't realize what her problem was until I gave birth to my first daughter. She was so protective over my husband and thought I was trying to take him from her. No love is like a mothers love and in learning that myself I had to give and take with her. I am so sorry to hear that you lost a precious child. Regardless of how old they are they are still a human being and they are yours and you love them. I am sure that must hurt. Maybe with time the situation will calm down and if the time ever arises for the two of you to have a heart to heart then tell her how you feel. She has to have a heart somewhere and maybe she will back off. Good luck.

Answer 4

I've been blessed with awesome in-laws, which includes a mother-in-law, father-in-law and three sister-in-laws, they will do anything for anyone.

It really sucks that you got a bad in-law family, but remember you married your hubby and sadly the family comes with it..maybe kill them with kindness.

(As for the miscarriage, it's very unfair for his family to not let you mourn, for your mother in law's info a baby is a human from the point of conception, so yes it was a baby and it's a very hard thing to get over. I had a miscarriage and I still to this day feel a little sad about it. What my hubby and I did to help us move on is we bought a small stuffed animal as a memory of our baby.)