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Question

Just say this and I am so so angry.I read a question about how a a mother thought that If her son got someone pregnant that she would seek custody.First,thing I think it is ridicolous when grandparents are awarded custody of their teen kids kids,I find it ddownright wrong when the guy is awarded custody cuz he has more money even if the women is a fit mother,even if she is a teen.What are your opinions?

I'm in no way advocating teens having kids.And I'm a feminist and proud of it!!!!!!

It didn't hit close to home it just that men think that now that everything is equal they have rights against us.

I belieev their are good fathers out their but not too many.Most guys run away.

this thing is not at all about me,I saw someone else post how they thought grandparents getting custody was good.I am not too imature,I just have opinions and am not one to not voice them,I beleieve that in todays society we need toi help teen moms not shun them.

Answer 1

I really dont think teens should be mothers .

Answer 2

I was a teen mother. My father wanted custody of my child, but I would not give it to him. My son's father was in jail when he was born, so he couldn't be there to try to take him away. He wouldn't have anyway because I let his family have every other weekend with my son. I am a great mother. My son is almost seven years old and has had everything he wanted, within reason. I work very hard to take care of my son. On the other hand, my mother and father now have custody of my niece. My sister does not want her and she is so wonderful. The father is an illegal alien, so he can't have her anyway. I help my mother take care of her. To answer your question, I think custody depends on the situation of the child. Just do whatever is in the best interest of the child, even if it means letting the grandparents raise him or her.

Answer 3

Nope, I agree with you. A child shouldn't be taken away from the mother, though if she's not capable and in terrible shape I might go against it. But even if it's a teen mom, she's the one having to carry that child for 9 months!! 9 MONTHS!! That's a long time and even in those 9 months a woman starts having a bond with this unborn baby. To take that away, is not just a shame, but a disgrace. She's bee given this child and I would say it's her say if she wants to keep the baby or give it away. I also have nothing against guys, the more they are involved as a parent, the better. But it gives no right to the grandparents to decide what's what and how things should be handled!!

Answer 4

First of all, it may make you angry and that right there proves that you are to immature to deal with it. It's not about your rights or any ones right but the rights of the child and what is in the best interest of the child. If there is a custody thing going on then there are reason for it. If you are doing what you should be doing then the courts are not going to take a baby or child away from it's mother unless there is just cause. PLAIN AND SIMPLE. It you have had a child taken away then the better question to ask is why and what do you need to do to fix it where you can get the child back. I have seen alot of different situations and I have told my girls POINT BLANK, if you get pregnant and you're a minor the child will be adopted. Yes that may seem harsh, but first of all I have talked with them about it, they have their free agency but if they make that choice then the consequences for their actions will be just that. Too many kids are not taught abstinence and consequences for their actions.

Answer 5

Well, let's see... If a teenager is too young to have kids then I don't have a problem with grandparents getting guardianship until the teen is mature enough to handle the responsibility. To merely take the kid away just to take it away is stupid.

And in the state I live in, the woman almost always gets custody of the kids when there's a divorce or whatever. Like take my bro for example, he got a divorce, and the kids went to his ex. His ex is a slutty, drinking, cussing, worthless pile of crap who works in a bar doing gawd knows what to make money. She leaves the kids IN the bar half the time. It's really awful. My bro has a job and is a good guy. It's dumb the way things work out sometimes.

Answer 6

You should think before you go public about being so angry because a grandparent gets custody of a child. Not too many grandparents really want custody of their grandchildren. They have raised their children and it is their time in life to be able to relax and enjoy their freedom and spend time with the grandchildren when they want to.

If a grandparent gets custody of a child, it's because the parent can not or will not accept the responsibility. They should be thanked, not have someone go on yahoo question and answers saying how angry they are.

Would you rather a complete stranger get custody of a child? One who may abuse it more than anything else?

Answer 7

Sex at this young age may cause a lot of problems such as this one you have said. A guy/ his parents who seeks for custoday do it simpley because to "blame" the mother of the child and she is not fit to bring up the child over her "fault".But what the grandparent did not think is that, even her son is a part of the "guilt". Child custody should be discussed among the couple. Not the grandparents. But im very sure that 98% of the couple do not talk about this as they are not ready to commit themselves to raise a child when they themselves are under their parents shades. And thats when they seek for abortion. Abortion is illegal as its done mostly by couples who are not fit enough to bear a child.So, creating a being just to kill it over the pleasure that both parties has had is riddiculous and should be prevented and stopped.This would avoid teenage girls to be a mother.

Answer 8

Sounds like this has hit close to home with you !!! Why shouldn't grandparents be awarded custody..If the mother isn't able to or is unfit ..or just because they want the child to have a happy life. Very seldom does the mother not get custody unless she is into drugs or something...Calm down..my parents had temporary custody of my son because I wasn't ready to take care of a child and they just took over and I cn not thank them enough...Don't juddge others until you know the whole story...

Answer 9

In most cases, if you are a teen, you are not a fit parent. A fit parent has to be able to emotionaly and financially support their child. While I have no doubt that a teen could emotionally support a child, financially supporting is another matter. You would have two choices. Quit high school and work at McDonalds your whole life, or do high school and a job, and never see your child. Do you really think either one of those is an acceptable choice? I don't.

Answer 10

There is an underlying assumption in your question that
all other things being equal, the kid should end up with the
mother.

Indeed, I believe you think that there should be almost no
circumstances where the kid should NOT end up with the
mother, right?

First off, grandparents have a proven track record of being
able to take care of children. First time parents do not.
Certainly teens rarely have the maturity to really understand
what they are getting into (though they get it pretty quickly).

Secondly, grandparents probably have more access to
money which is awfully useful with medical care, education,
etc. when taking care of children.

However, lets go back to your underlying assumption, given
history of child care (lets say none), available income,
people around to support child care etc. are all equal,
why do you think the mother should necessarily get custody
over the father?

While your pondering that, please try not to be sexist.

Answer 11

It depends on the situation. If the teen mother is irresponsible and the grandmother is the only one who can give the child shelter, food, etc. then I guess the child should go to the fit household. If the teen can hold her own, then by all means she shouldn't loose custody. By the way, take a deep breath. This isn't your situation so there's really no reason to get so angry about it.