Do you think it is better to send your children to school or home school?

Question

My children are in school. I have just heard from others that home school is better. I just wanted some opinions from other people.

Answer 1

I think my children are better off at home. Some people's children would be better off in school, but mine are better at home.

I say this because I used to teach in the schools. I know what it's like there. The socialization there is not good. Socialization is actually the process of learning social behaviours and values. Our society no longer has a cohesive sense of values and behaviours. Not only that, but what children learn at school is that bullying is okay, because bullies usually get away with it, that life is about sitting down and doing as your told, which adults don't spend their time doing unless they're in prison, that what you wear and like are important factors in being a worthy person, that it's important to do your best to fit in and that fitting in is actually more important than doing well in terms of grades, not to mention all kinds of behaviours and attitudes and values which conflict with the family. These are not things I think are good for my children.

I also think the education they are getting with me is better than what they would be getting in school. They have a program that is completely tailored to their abilities. This is how education used to be, even in the one-room school houses. People were very well educated, academically and socially, being taught at home by their parents or private tutors. They did not move ahead in the progression until the 'teacher' thought they were ready. They were also constantly being coached in their academics and just in daily living.

Like students of the past, my children also have the time to study things that they love. I doubt very much that Thomas Edison would have become the inventor he became if his mother had not pulled him out of school to homeschool him at the age of 7. Where would he have had the thoughts or the time? It was the educational structure his mother gave him that allowed him to follow his passion.

Not only that but my kids, by not having to become how their peers want them to be, by going as slowly or as quickly as they need to academically, by being allowed time to initiate their own learning, will become strong individuals who will know themselves and who will love learning (they already do). By having interactions with different people on a regular basis, people they don't see each and every day for 180 days out of the year, they will be better able to interact with new people and demonstrate true social skills. They won't be worried about other kids not being their age or in the same grade because it's just not something they've been socialized into believing is important.

My kids are not recluses, anymore than various homeschooled presidents and scientists were, and have friends. They know many homeschooling kids and see them regularly in addition to taking various lessons. We go out so often that my husband wonders if we're actually home enough to do any book work. There are field trips and weekly homeschooling get-togethers and special programs and events and more. If anything, by being at home, my kids are learning that family is important.

I could probably write a book about why I think my children are better off at home. I hope what I've written so far helps answer your question in some way.

Answer 2

I see you have a lot of answers from people who have had no personal contact with home schooled kids, because they include every hoax and myth that exists.

This is real simple. Unless you have a personality conflict with one or more of your kids, and you want the best education money will buy, you will homeschool. Period. End of debate.

You need to find out if there is a Home Schooling Association in your area. If so, contact the director, and ask for help on this decision. And, for advice on obtaining materials. Also, such associations have weekly gatherings so the kids can have competitive sports, etc, all the things the dummies say home-schooled kids are missing.

As has been reported on other questions on this topic, kids are not stuck in the house alone all day, unless you are messed up or live way out in the boonies. You can take them to do and see many things, to shopping with you, and they can meet all the dummies who come up and harass you and repeat the usual myths and hoaxes about home schooling.

In rural Marion Iowa, the home-schooled kids AVERAGE at the 95th percentile, on the Standard tests, adminstered by Law to all kids, including home schooled kids in that district. And, this is a rich kids school district, with the finest certified teachers money can buy. All those untrained mommies outperform the finest Ed. degrees in only a couple hours of work a day. (And, ordinary smart kids advance two years on the tests each calendar year.) There are no dildo classes at home, no gay sensitivity classes, no feminist history classes unless you choose to have them.

All the home schooled kids I have ever met, and I of course, have not met them all, are ten times better socialized than the kids in the public school. Look at the foul language and filth on this URl from the public school kids. Do you call that socialized? I don't. Actually, the home schoolers call it "negative socialization" with an undue emphasis on sex, and extreme disrespect for any adult or authority figure. That's because in public schools their peers are other kids, and the teacher is the enemy. Home schooled kids have their parents and other adults, as peers, and they understand they are learning to be adults, whereas public school kids are being raised to be kids. Look out your window!!!

Answer 3

You know, one of the things I like about homeschooling is that I am getting an education right alongside my kids. I have no fear of telling them, "I don't know the answer to that one, but let's look it up!" They see that no one (not even highly-venerated public school teachers) knows everything and that learning is something they will do their entire lives.

Both of my boys are well above average on standardized tests and socialization?... well, let's just say they're not bringing guns to school trying to take out half the student body! Some socialization.

Please forgive my rant here, but I get so tired of hearing the same old arguments against homeschooling from the same un- or mis-informed people who don't actually know more than one homeschool family. Are there shy kids who are homeschooled? Well, duh! There are shy kids in public school, too! Are there weird kids in homeschool? When was the last time you went into a public school (or took a stroll through the mall) - some of those kids seem pretty weird to me. And disrespectful? Don't even get me started.

I'm not saying that all publicly-educated kids are hopelessly lost. On the contrary, most of the public school kids I know (my kids friends, other kids from the neighborhood, sports, church, school-related activities) are great kids. In the same way, homeschool kids come in all shapes and sizes and personalities. Please don't judge unless you can make an INFORMED judgment.

Answer 4

It depends on what you want for your children. If you want your children to be socially adept, challenged intellectually, and able to participate in extracurricular activities with peers such as sports and music, send them to public school. If you want your kids to grow up to be shy, fearful, socially inept and weird, then home schooling is for you.

I have several friends whose children were home schooled and several friends whose children went to public school, and now that all these kids are in high school, it's obvious that the home schooled kids are no better off when it comes to self-esteem and confidence, but they are tragically behind in making friends and academics. Some of these home schooled kids are so strange that even if they knew how to make friends they wouldn't have any because no ones likes them.

Just telling you what my girlfriends have told me about their kids (on both sides of the issue), and what I have observed.

Answer 5

I just pulled my 5th grader, 4th grader and 3rd grader from public school this past year and decided to homeschool. It is the best thing we ever did, both for them and for our family. All the stuff about kids not learning how to get along with other kids is crazy and spoken by people who don't know kids who are properly home educated. My kids learned their regular school subjects, but on top of that they had to learn how to interact with kids of other ages and developmental stages. This was due to the fact that we joined a co-op that met every other week, we joined a 4-H group of homeschooled kids where they learned leadership skills, they look part in a homeschool choir and drama class, art classes at the local library and museums....they were busy little boys! We learned about things that interested them, not just the things that were scheduled to be learned so they paid more attention to what was taught. They got to the point where they were getting up before me to get started on their day! There are also tons of classes offered by YMCA's for homeschool kids.


My son's confidence went through the roof and the stress level in my house is way low now....that wasn't true last year. This year we are starting Greek and Latin for vocab. There are so many fun ways to learn.

I wouldn't say home education is the way for everyone, but for us, for this time in our lives....this is great. Many of the folks I have met who have older kids, their children take classes at the local colleges and end up with dual credit, high school and college!

In some states kids have to take a GED when they are done high school, in others, such as PA, there are diploma programs where folks who follow strict guidelines can help their kids earn a regular diploma.

If you have any questions you can search out yahoo goups from your local area, I know I found lots of help when I got started by asking folks online. I hope this gives you another viewpoint to consider.
good luck!!

Answer 6

School without a doubt unless you have a Master's degree ( or above ) in math, English, science, history, psychology, sociology, foreign languages, instrumental music, physical education, art, etc. You will find the teachers at your local public schools are extremely well trained and can provide your child with opportunities you can only imagine!

Answer 7

Well kids who are in school get more friends besides the kid next door.They also learn how to enteract with diffrent people.They also learn better time managment. These three things I just mentioned are good when they get a carer or job.

PSDepends on what you want them to learn or on how far you or the person who is teaching them how far you or they got in school

Answer 8

home school as long as you have:

1) a great network of kids and activities for socialization.
2) the ability to teach the subjects or a great homeschooling network with assistance for the higher level subjects...

Answer 9

HeII get then out of your hair all day. Let then go to school!! Or maybe you are one of them people that thinks you are smarter than the Teachers..If that's the case I fell sorry for the kids!! I am not saying that you are. But what can you expect you are hearing it from a REAL Nutcase!!""NUT'S"""..PS ..did i win...did i win...did i win???

Answer 10

i think its better for them to go to school because if they ever go to school they could be behind in some things