Would you meet him?

Question

I met this guy on an online dating service, and he lives in the same state but a different county. He seems nice and everything, and actually i already agreed to meet him. He is 27 and I am 20. Do you think it is too old. Do you think I should meet him. We have talked we have chatted and done web cam so I know that he is not like 100 yrs old. I just don't want to get raped and murdered if you get my drift. But you got to try stuff new. And you got to take chances. So would you meet him?

Answer 1

I would try to be smart about it. First, I would think about the conversations you've had with him, and decide if you are really interested in him or not. Second, has he said anything sexual in nature that made you uncomfortable....came on too strong...been disrespectful...said anything that makes you think he is the jealous type or controlling? Trust your instincts. If there are alarms going off in the back of your mind, listen to them.

Finally if you decide to meet him, be careful. Meet him somewhere that is very safe and public, preferably in the daytime. Do not get in the car with him on the first meeting. Do not let him know where you live. Let a friend know where you are going to be and who you are going to be with. Be safe and have fun.

Answer 2

First of all, you're 20. He's not too old for you. Secondly, agree to meet him in a public place like everyone else is saying. Go have coffee or dinner, and be sure you let someone know what you're doing. Tell a friend to call you later that night to make sure everything is cool.

Don't go home with him on the first date. I'm sure the guy is very sincere and nice, but you shouldn't assume he's NOT psycho. Keep meeting him in public places until you feel safe enough to have him pick you up or whatever.

Answer 3

Not too old but who knows what he's really like. Arrange to meet in a public place-coffee shop,restaurant for lunch and for heavens sake don't get in a car with him or go anywhere alone with him.Check out where he says he works or lives. This kind of stuff is easy to do on line.You might verify that the phone number and address at least exist. Won't give you any personal information??-RUN!! He's either married,a compulsive liar or wanted in six states for some despicable crime. Now with all those negatives,I have several friends who have married guys they met on the Internet and are very happy. One big advantage of on line contact is that if you spend several weeks or months just talking you can really get to know someone well without the sex thing getting in the way of meaningful conversation. Good luck and enjoy but please be safe.

Answer 4

if you do decide to go through with it PLEASE make sure you meet him in a very public place with high people traffic. drive your own car and dont go home or to any secluded area with him. women are taking a chance anytime they meet with a man (whether it started on the internet or not), but the facts are you can never be too safe and you have to look out for number 1 no matter what. it seems like almost every night there is another missing, murdered or raped person on the news.

you can have fun while exercising caution! just use your head and dont trust ANYone until theyve earned that trust over a decent period of time. good luck and be safe.

ALSO, watch your drinks...i personally have had someone slip something into my drink and blacked out for many, many hours following it. i was at a close friends house even and thank God my friends were there to watch me immediately and give that guy what he deserved. i turned my head for ONE second. thats all it takes.

Answer 5

Geez, look at all the doom and gloom in these answers. Yes, meet him. But also be careful. Taking a friend or 2 and meeting in a VERY public place shouldn't bother him. If it does, then yeah, he's probably got an agenda you don't want to be a part of. But don't let all these nay-sayers stop you from potentially meeting a wonderful gentleman.

Have a Safe/Fun first date.

Good Luck,

Answer 6

Yes go meet him but you can never be too safe so this is what I suggest. Do not tell him what time your flight is coming in; just the date. You do not need him surprising you at the airport. Rent a car at the airport so you have your own mode of transport. Get a hotel room. Drive yourself from the airport to the hotel and just tell the guy you will meet him at a restaurant. Meet him at a time when restaurants are usually pretty crowded. Make sure you know how to get to the restaurant on your own and make sure you can get back to your hotel on your own i.e. have good directions to and from the place. Make sure several people you trust know where you are going and what you are going to do there. Give them the name of your hotel and room number. You should be pretty safe if you do this. Good luck. Hope when you meet him you realize he is "the one."

Answer 7

I would only meet him if he has a job, a car, and a house or apartment of his own. Don't meet him if he doesn't want to meet in a public place. Make sure your family and friends now what and where you are going first. You could double date or something. You also should make him come to your territory. If he is willing to do that, you might have a pretty good guy on your hands. Good Luck girl!!

Answer 8

It's risky- if you absolutely want to go through with it, take a friend or two along for the ride, and only go to well populated public places to do so. The age thing is something you would have to answer- are you comfortable with that? Age is nothing but a number- he could be totally immature for 27, or totally responsible- only time will tell that. Hope he's nice!

Answer 9

Don't jump into any stupid, silly and useless conclusions...

You did say he "SEEMS" to be a nice guy... You can go meet him but make sure to BRING SOMEONE ALONG WITH YOU... Your sister or a friend... You know for protection and to have someone to rely on if something not too good happen... Tell him that you are bringing somebody along... If he didn't agree on that condition, then don't meet him. If he's not planning to do anything and would love to meet you, he would agree immediately.

Enjoy and take it easy ^-^ Good luck!

Answer 10

Sure... why not? As long as you meet him in a public place, you dont have to worry about being rape or anything.

Just make sure somebody knows where you are going though...Better yet, bring somebody along. Better safe than sorry, right?