I'm curious to know if I should try to take a friendship further. There is mutal admiration but she's leaving town to return to a different Uni about 2 1/2 hrs. away and until now its been strictly mates. Do I try to take things further than just being friends? I'm worried that it will ruin our friendship, as I dont want her to see this as a purely physical thing. I'd hate to lose her as a friend, any advice?
2006-08-02 14:22:22 · 13 answers · asked by notmanychoicesleft 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you want to push the issue because she is leaving. Pushing the issue might not be the likeliest way of keeping her in your life at this point. You might want to stay friends because that way when the excitement (read: new guys) in the new place dies down, you will still be there. NIce guys finish last.
2006-08-02 15:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Katrine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me I know exactly what you are going through. I was his friend since I was 15. What he and I did is we asked each other if we thought it would work out to date and see if things would change between us.We decided to wait and be friends. He moved out of town and we hardley ever seen each other except maybe for holidays. We were friends for a whole year after that and now we are closer than ever and the way i see it were looking at that question again and if he does want to date I actually think I would say yes. So ask her , if you really care for her you'd take the risk and ask her and if she says no believe me she'll think of you and eventually go back to you or keep in touch as much as she can like my friend and I. I wount hurt to ask it would also be a test for the both of you. Life is all about risks right?
2006-08-02 21:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by bluetam2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to decide what you want. If you pursue the relationship you guys will only have a short time together as boyfriend and girlfriend. Do you think you will be able to handle a long distance relationship? The first couple of months in a relationship are those where the couple usually wants to spend most of their time together. You and this girl will not be able to do that. You guys will have to be apart. Do you think this would work? I do not know you or this girl so only you can answer this question. Both of you will have to be very committed to making the relationship work.
2006-08-02 21:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if she is leaving to go to uni that is 2 1/2 hours away then it is unlikely that u will be able to sustain the relationship. if its just sex u want then that will probably mess up ur friendship, if u want a relationship then are you really willing to move with her?
or maybe she is thinking the same, try to find out if she likes u in that way
2006-08-03 05:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rockhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a really great friend for 7 yr thru college & after. We went out to catch up on friends and gossip. We both felt the way you do, but both were afraid of ruining the friendship. When I took her home that nite, she stood on her step. I leaned foreward to give her a little kiss. she REALLY kissed back. Then we knew. 5 weeks later she proposed to me. We just celebrated our 40th. Best friends make the best spouses. We have seen people do things to their spouses that you wd never do to yr best frnd.
2006-08-02 21:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends and do your best to keep in touch and let her know you care. It will mean a lot to know someone at home is thinking of her. Then, see what happens over her first break - return trip home. Nothing like a reunion to spark romance - if it will ever happen, that's the perfect time.
2006-08-02 21:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have plans to take the relationship further then DO NOT fall into the friends zone!
What are you waiting for?! An invitation?
2006-08-02 22:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Rob G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i't up to u'r decited...what u'r want it to be...if u heart said u love her...u can make u'r friendship further...don't make a resion if u truely want her... if heart said u just want her only be u'r friend u try to say for her..dont make someone hope with something it never be... i think she will understant...ask u'r self deeply...u cant ask advice to people here, but at the end u must get decited by u'r self..do what u loved to do,dont do what u had to do..ask u'r insthink..ask u'r heart u can get the answer....good luck!
2006-08-02 22:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her..Explain to her what you want to do and if she thinks its a good idea or would it harm your relationship......Taking things to the next step may be right for you both ,,but talk to her first
2006-08-02 21:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she feels the same way as you do, and has the same concerns. Why not sit down and discuss this with her - and go from there.
2006-08-02 21:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋