I think he is just asked me because he is in shock that I am pregnant also because maybe he feels bad that he got me pregnant. Should I say I say yes or no or should I say that I will think about it? uh I am going crazy!!!!!
2006-08-02 14:02:03 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
How long have you been together?
Just because you are having kids does not mean you have to get married.
Just because you get engaged doesn't mean you have to get married within a couple months, you can wait it out and make sure it's what you want.
2006-08-02 14:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
whether or not you are having a baby is NO REASON to get married, because the baby wont make the two of you love each other, support each other, or desire each other, especially after the first few weeks of newness wear off. You will be spending your life with this person, so make sure that you can honestly say that's what you want.
Besides, the baby will grow up, and you waont be able to use him/her as an excuse once that happens.
If you love him, if you know that you could forgive him for hurting your feelings if you argue or he forgets your birthday, if you know that when he is not with you, you can think about him and even if for some reason his facial expression is one simialr to that when he farts a good one, and you still love him, then there you go. Because he will fart, believe it. (And so will you!)
It's not the baby, its your heart and your head that must decide. If you'd do it if you weren't having the baby, then you're okt to say yes.
If not, tell him you are not ready, because it might be that you really do need more time or need to get to know him more and feel more comfortable with him. THAT IS OK! There is no rush, you have the rest of your lives, and if he REALLY loves you, HE WILL WAIT! No doubt!
2006-08-02 14:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by teachingazteca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean he proposed to you ?? Well, maybe he feels that his kids should grow up in a family and to have a father figure. And now might be the time that he is really thinking seriously about the future of your twins. It's your decision, but if you love him and he loves you enough to ask you to marry him then maybe this is a good thing. Isn't it good that once he found out about you be pregnant that he didn't run away ?? It seems like he is ready for commitment, but this is your choice. Good luck.
2006-08-02 14:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by REDSOX847 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? Would you always? If you do and would, I would say yes. If your not really sure if the relationship would last a long time, then think about it. If you know that he wouldn't stick around long, then no. If you're gonna think about it, then maybe you should talk to him. Figure out between you how much you care about each other. I think you guys have a fighting chance. After all he didn't ditch after he found out. He did the opposite! Whatever happens, I wish the best for you and the twins!
2006-08-02 14:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be sure it's because he loves you then say yes and make your wedding day for a few years down the road,just because you say yes to getting married doesn't mean you HAVE TO get married tomarrow!!!That way you both can get used to the idea of family and marriage,it's not easy even with no kids!!!!Take things slowly,you might tell him that he shouldn't ever feel pressured to do something or to do things for what he thinks are the right reasons,he is still the baby's father even if you aren't married and if he's serious he'll wait.What's the rush anyway?
2006-08-02 14:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by ~Misty.babydoll~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, talk to him about it. It seems like you are unsure. Don't tell him you'll marry him just because of the situation. It could be the shock of the pregnancy but he could also mean it. If he is someone that you want to be with and marry then you need to sit down and talk to him and make sure the proposal was real and not just heated by the fact that you're pregnant. Maybe it seems that way but he could also be feeling that he loves you and you are pregnant with his children and he realized he wants to marry you now more then ever. But talk to him first before you make any decisions. Good luck!
2006-08-02 14:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thoroughly talk to him about it. My husband and I were just dating and thinking about maybe getting married when I became pregnant. I don't like the idea of getting married for the sake of the child, because I know that can cause problems in the marriage. We talked about it and decided to live together, and more than likely get married. He "officially" proposed to me (even though we went shopping for the ring together) about midway through my pregnancy, and then we still didn't get married until our son was five months old. I'd much rather make sure that we're getting married because we wanted to be together than getting married because of a baby, or the excitement having a new baby causes. We were 22 years old, btw.
So talk to your guy: is this a good time to get married? Do you think you're too young? Would you get married, or have gotten married later if you hadn't gotten pregnant?
Having a trial time together may ultimately make the difference.
2006-08-02 14:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by criticalcatalyst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did that too..Well 5 months into it...
I told him..NO..
I said ..you be a daddy for a year Live with me Take care of the baby ...Be the dad for 1 year and if you STILL want all that responisbility Then yes we'll get married.
4 months after our little one turned 1 We got married.
We were young so I wanted to make sure that THIS was what he wanted ...We have been together for 8 years , Married for 3 and a half and have two beautiful children.
Good luck!
2006-08-02 14:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger question is, are you going to say yes because you love him, because you want a husband, to lock in a father, or what reason? And maybe you should both just sit in a nice quiet place and talk about it, your reasons and his, before you decide. Twins! Lucky lady, not a lot of them around. But a lot of work. Be sure you keep pictures. Good luck with whatever happens.
2006-08-02 14:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by fishing66833 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he proposed because he loves you say yes but as long as he loves you to. He seems like a really good guy because he's wanting to do right. My fiance proposed to me when I was 6 months pregnant. He'd been planning to since before I became pregnant but hadn't been able to buy me a ring yet. Just follow your heart. You don't have to get married right away either. I've been engaged 3 years and I'm happy with it. We want a nice wedding and won't have it until we have saved enough money up.
2006-08-02 14:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say yes. Work it out. Learn to love each other. Those babies need a mommy AND a daddy. If you put their needs before your own you can do it.
Glad to see the young man is capable of taking responsibility for his actions. That is very rare. And I am overjoyed that you are going to HAVE the babies.
PS, if you decide not to keep them, my wife and I will gladly take them off your hands. We've been trying to two years. It is a real blessing, even if it isn't under the ideal circumstances.
2006-08-02 14:10:34 · answer #11 · answered by Andrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋