Is it proper to send money in the envelope when declining a wedding invitation or should the gift be sent with a more formal wedding card?
2006-08-02 13:16:00 · 18 answers · asked by sheskiistoo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The gift should be sent in a separate card. Often, the RSVP doesn't go back to the couple or is opened by parents or friends. They have a lot on their mind, so delegating this tedious task to someone else is often prefered. Not to mention that the money (especially if it's cash) might easily be misplaced.
Also, while we're on the topic, here's some "Do's and Don'ts" for declining a wedding invite...
2006-08-02 13:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by dk 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Send your regrets all alone, with nothing else in the envelope. I know most people send you a silly little card, so go ahead and send it back, but also include a regrets note in proper form, which is very similar the invitation form:
Mr. and Mrs. Fred Flintstone
regret that they will not attend
the wedding of
Miss Gertie Gravel
and
Mr. Steven Shale
on Sunday April First.
As to the gift, I understand what you mean by a 'wedding card', but no commercially mass produced greeting card should be considered formal. Rather, it is a poor substitute for the more thoughtful, more proper, and certainly more formal handwritten personal letter. Do take the trouble to wish your friends joy in your own words and express your own thoughts (three or four sentences is plenty), rather than putting your time and money into enriching the Hallmark people.
2006-08-02 15:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely send a card. You can send the card and the RSVP on the same day, just not in the same envelope. Because the couple uses the RSVP cards for a headcount, the check would be separated from the RSVP card and might get lost on the madness of wedding planning. In addition, some people are traditional and like to save all gifts for after the wedding, so sending it in a separate card would allow them to do this.
2006-08-02 13:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by U2Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be more proper to send the gift separately, with a card offering congratulations. Sending the money with your reponse is kind of like suggesting that the wedding invitation was a solicitation.
2006-08-02 13:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decline the invitation with the regrets cards is proper.
Send your gift in a separate card.
2006-08-02 13:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to send it with an actual wedding card. Otherwise it seems like you didn't want to bother finding a card and are only sending money because you feel guilty for not going to the wedding.
2006-08-02 13:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The monetary gift should be sent later in a formal wedding card.
2006-08-02 13:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by ckoriginal930 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send gift later in a card.
2006-08-02 13:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by Isabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You send a card of regret stating that you cannot attend. You wish the couple the best, and if you wish to send a gift, you can send it to the home.
2006-08-02 13:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to send one package, place the RSVP card inside your card, but I would definitely get a separate card or money holder for your gift.
2006-08-02 17:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋