what age does a girl have to stop sleeping in bed with dad?

Question

we are separated and she she spends the night with him about once per month (but visits regularly).

dad says that 7 is too old and she will be emotionally damaged if she continues to sleep in a bed with him.

i think she isn't too old until she thinks she is, and right now the only thing emotionally damaging her is him not letting her sleep in the bed bc she is a girl.

people...it's once a month (maximum). that equals 12 x's per year.

Answer 1

If either one is uncomfortable with it, it's time to stop.

Answer 2

Doesn't matter how many times she stays the night at her dad's house overnight. Usually at 5 girls start getting curious about what that lump is in daddy's shorts or pants...if she hasn't noticed yet, SHE WILL! Most pediatrician's will tell you that opposite sex parent/child should not be sharing a bed after age 5. It sounds to me like either you want to make sure your husband is uncomfortable, and your child emotionally vulnerable and stunted, by forcing the issue about where she sleeps...or you don't want to get a bed for her for her dad's house, cuz you want him back. I don't know, that's just the vibe I'm getting here. You and your husband NEED/HAVE to get your daughter her own bed, with bedding that she gets to pick out, make it this whole special "Big Girl" deal. Your daughter will LOVE being having some new stuff, and feel more "grown up". Another question.
Does and has your daughter always, slept with YOU in your's and your husbands bed? If she has her own room/bed at your house, she should have the same treatment at her dad's...either way, she needs some privacy, and so does your husband, obviously! I mean, you slept with him-would you want your daughter to wake up and find his hand over/holding his dick?! I sure would not want MY 7 1/2 year old to see that! Even if you DON'T agree with your husband, do it anyway, for the sake of your daughter. If you make a big deal about her needing/having to sleep with daddy, you're ARE going to emotionally damage your child. PERIOD. Kids are smart, and they hear and notice a lot more then we think and expect. Just do what you gotta do.

Answer 3

7 yrs old I think it is time for her to be a big girl and sleep in her own bed.. I was the youngest out of 6 kids and I slept with both of my parents till I was around 5 or 6 and my mom worked nights and yes I did sleep with my dad but it ended at 6 no more sleeping in my parents room and I think that was good for me, If you don't do any thing now it will only get worst and she is going to call the shots on everything else outside the Bedroom!!!

Answer 4

She is way past the age of sleeping with her Dad. The longer you wait to have her sleep a lone the harder it will be to get her on her own in her own bed. My Daughter had a difficult time with her son but he finally started when he was about 4. This is not healthy and your Daughters father is right. If she is emotionally disturbed it's die to the fact that you both have separated.So I think she is feeling in secure.Sleeping with her Dad at 7 won't help her.

Answer 5

I'm a little confused on who's who.

Maybe your dad just wanted to avoid having the girl being called daddy's girl. The term "emotionally damaged" is too heavy, just because she is not able to sleep beside your dad.

I'd consider age 7 to be young, but it's best to ask the girl you know. If she still feels like sleeping beside her dad, let her. She'll grow up in her own time anyway.

Answer 6

Personally I think that she is too old to be sleeping with her dad. You should even realize this, you know how men are, they can have one of those dreams and wake up in a tent if ya know what I mean. And if he feels uncomfortable with her still sleeping in his bed well, then it just isn't right to tell him that he needs to continue with it. He could try putting a cot in the room with him or even a sleeping bag on the floor but everyone in the situation needs to feel comfortable in the end.

Answer 7

It's ok for her to sleep with her to sleep with her dad at 7 years old i think the age that is to old is like 9 or 10.

Answer 8

She is too old to be sleeping in the same bed as her dad, he is quite right. He will have to start sleeping on the couch. It can't be hard to explain to a 7 year old that it's best dad sleeps on the couch because he's afraid he might squash her in the night.

Dad is right - so I stick with dads opinion

Answer 9

I think she's at the age where she needs to learn boundaries. My daughter is 8 and i wouldnt allow her to sleep in bed with her dad. She wont be emotionally damaged by not sleeping in his bed as long as you both explain to her that she's getting older and she needs to learn about keeping her body private. I can understand you being reluctant about having "THE" talk with her, but knowledge is power, and as long as she understands from an early age what is and isnt acceptable in terms of personal space she wont be taken advantage of.

Answer 10

As soon as my kids started sleeping all night, they started sleeping by their selves in their OWN beds.

It don't matter if it is JUST ONE NIGHT a month. It is still wrong!!!

The only ways that the kids EVEN got to "sleep" with me, was IF we were watching TV and we all went to sleep, but as soon as I woke up that child was put in their OWN bed. Then the other reason that they would sleep with me, is if that child was sick and I wanted them close to me. But even with both of these, that would stop all together before age TWO!!!!!

Sorry but that is the way it was with me.
And 7 years old, that is way too old for a daughter to be sleeping with daddy!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Dad is right.
Age 2 or 3 is a good time to stop daughters from sleeping with fathers.
If it goes your way, she'll be sleeping with him forever. She may never think she's too old.