My mom caught me and my boyfriend making out?

Question

She didn't say anything at the time, but I know she saw us. What should I say? What should I do? I'm 14, if you were a mom how would you react?

No we were not doing anything else!!!!!!

No, it would not have progressed further! We've both agreed not to do anything else for a LONG TIME!

Answer 1

If I saw my 14 year old daughter, I would have thrown the boy out, and try to calmly talk to you and find out why you would do it. I personally had mine stolen from me at 16, and I chose to willingly give my virginity up at the age of 19, I am married with two children now.

If she still hasn't approached you, pass her and you should be able to tell the mood she's in, then try talking to her, but don't lie to her. When mothers are in a protective state, we are emotional, and have a sixth sense of lying. If she's not mad, then I urge you not to make it worse. Try talking to her and tell her your reasoning, but remember, you are her baby girl, and no matter what you say, it's still going to hurt her that you did it.

Answer 2

Well, it wasn't very smart to be some where that she can find you. Sometimes it's not good just to let things blow over, maybe she' s waiting to see if you'll be mature enough to talk to her about it. If i was your mother I'd sit you down and tell you about what the consequences of going "to far" are. I'd tell you that you're grounded and that you couldn't talk to your boyfriend on the phone, computer, etc. until I said so. You're only fourteen! Who really wants to have a baby at age 15? I'm sure you don't, so take this from a girl that knows, just because you like this guy alot doesn't mean you make out and sleep with him. Be honest, if you had the chance, your making out would have progressed further.

Answer 3

Well I first would ask what you classify as making out. If you were just kissing then, I would not be very upset, I beleiev that is a natuaral thing between two people. However as a parent, I would talk to you about sex and how to control your emotions and how boys and men are mostly looking for the situation to go further. I would impress upon you the importance on controlling your emotions and the boys. I would also make sure that you understand the importance of not leading the boy on.

Answer 4

If I were your Mom, I won't get angry, but certainly, I'd have to give you a long sermon & try to ask you if you know & understand the consequences of your action. I would try to make you realise that your action, although the trend in today's teens (& single adults), is not becoming & very morally wrong & that as we are the highest form of animals, we shouldn't act like those ranked below us. Unlike them, we have been given our minds, our hearts, our conscience, our wills, to fully understand & reason out, so that we could decide w/c actions to choose & to take. But as you are still a minor, we, your parents, are responsible for you & we have the duty to guide you & to make things clear to you because anything that happens to you will still be our responsibility. Although this isn't a very pleasant reason to start an open dialogue between us, I see this as a very good opportunity to do so bec. your action reflects a lack of understanding, complete irresponsibility & ignorance, w/c could have been caused by our lack of advice & guidance.

Answer 5

Your mum is probably scared to think of her daughter becoming sexually active, and worried that you may not be mature enough to cope with the emotional demands of a physical relationship. My advice to you is to go to your mum and be honest with her about your feelings towards this boy, any questions you may have about sex, and show her that you're thinking about this in an adult way. Personally if my 14 year old daughter was sexually active i'd be horrified, but i would really appreciate her coming to be and being honest about it. Parents are only human, and she's bound to feel a little disappointed, so why not use this experience as a way to get closer to your mum, and reassure her that you're not about to do anything silly.

Answer 6

Well, I'm guessing from your icon that you are a girl. I assume, since you were making out, that you have reached menarch, and are therefore capable of bearing offspring. I also assume you know how babies are quickened and where. Provided that you were not taking any immediate risks of pregnancy and childbirth at 15 (not a real smart move, but certainly survivable), I would probably just tell you to keep it zipped and then beat the crap out of boyfriend, but then, I'm not a mom.

Answer 7

if i was ur daddy i would probably say as long as i dont get grandkids any time soon but i also would say u shouldnt bring a boy in ur room alone cause some boys mind are in the gutter so u shouldnt take a risk like that again but im not ur dad or ur mom just if ur mom ask tell the truth about everything for u wont have her worried about u bein pregnant or something like that cause that will scar u not knowing wat ur daughter did with a boy

Answer 8

depending on how far you two where going and what she saw i would talk to you and most likely restrict your freedoms. like no more boys in your room or when shes away.

as for talking about it. if you want to take the first approch and sit down with your mom to talk to her about what your feelings are towards this boy then that would be very responsible of you.

if you want to wait til your mom says something. thats fine to.

either way apologize for what your mom saw. find out what she saw and promise it will never happen again if she disapproves.

Answer 9

I'm a Dad, and would hope that you would trust your folks enough to sit down and talk with them. Your dad doesn't really want to know. But your Mom will probably give you tips on guys and be happy to be your friend while you are growing up.

ISN"T THAT RIGHT MOMS!!!

Answer 10

If I was a mom, I'd talk to you about sex and relationships. My niece is 15 and got pregant, but just had a miscarriage. It was a mixed blessing. You don't need to ruin your life by having a baby right now. Wait wait wait.