My fiance and I lived at his moms to save money for our place. To make a long story short- things got stressful, and we ended things. A month later we're back together trying to work things out. Only now, everything his mom invited me to do with the family ( functions, parties, concerts etc.) she invites his low life best friend. Not only don't i live there anymore (thank God), I feel totally excluded. Granted it is his choice to take his best friend places, but something just feels off. Their all going to a reggae concert 2gether, he knows i love reggae- but i don smoke- so apparently thats the reason for taking the best friend. His best friend is exactly what i dont want my fiance to become. He has no job, no education (not even a hs diploma), no license and no car... How do i act in this situation- we were apart for a month and now im totally excluded. His mother made a comment about how nice the house has been with me gone...huh- she doesnt want her son to move out. Please- advice?
2006-08-02 12:52:22 · 4 answers · asked by Jessica S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This guy doesn't seem mature enough for marriage. A man ready for marriage would want to spend time with his fiance. A man ready for marriage would make it clear to his mother that you have an important place in his life and she has to accept it. I know you may love him, but you can't make a man into something he's not. I'd sit him down, discuss your feelings. He may just not see what he's doing and he'll make immediate moves to change it, but if he doesn't, you may need to call things off for good, even though it will be painful.
2006-08-02 13:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like weather you like it or not he is becoming what you don't want all ready a bead beat so move on!!!!it seems he is Turning to give you the message in non verbal ways so just take the hint and get lost already you can't change him so either love him or leave as is!
2006-08-02 20:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by mel416 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he would rather spend time with his friend, then let him spend all his time with him. *How* old is he?? Sorry, but to be living at home with no job, no schooling, no car, and no money is major loserville. Perhaps he will one day grow up, check back with him then.
2006-08-02 22:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know this relationship is doomed - so get out of it
2006-08-02 19:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋