2006-08-02 12:37:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't ask. You can talk to her about a sexual relationship if you feel it's time, but don't ask her for sex. It'll happen when it's supposed to happen.
2006-08-02 12:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have a bit of thinking to do before you do that. Think, for example, about what happens when people just have sex, without thinking about the consequences, not making any advance preparation: eventually, some third party intrudes on the relationship, or a breakup occurs. And then they have found out, the hard way, when it's too late, that such things are just not supposed to happen after you've started having sex.
How to fix that? For starters, before you take action, make sure you're both able to really put each other first and take complete responsibility for your life and for your decisions (both as singles and together). No more running to Mommy and Daddy at the first sign of trouble. That'll take care of the third-party part.
As far as the breakup part is concerned, you need to make a choice beforehand - both of you - that breaking up is simply not an option. This will mean getting to know each other well enough to know you're on the same page about all the important stuff. And then making a commitment - in public, so you're accountable for your decision - that there won't be a breakup.
This is what getting married is all about - it's not ultimately about a piece of paper. So, then after the wedding, I guess you go wherever you were planning to spend that night, and you take a shower together, or whatever, and you ask, 'Shall we?'
Of course the story doesn't end there - to have sex with a woman for the first time safely and comfortably, you have to do a great deal more than 'just ask' - but that is a subject for another Answer :>
2006-08-02 19:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really not sure, then the answer is probably no. But to be sure, you should talk to her. Don't ask in the heat of the moment. Pick a time when it's obvious that you don't mean NOW and then ask her if she thinks about it. She'll probably give you an honest answer and the next time you're getting into the heat of the moment you'll have the confidence to take it where you know you both want to go.
2006-08-02 19:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by tke999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you dont just come out and ask for sex..lol...if you guys are making out or fooling around, maybe start taking the next step by touching her, if she lets you...proceed a little more. If she stops you then she isnt ready to do anything more than your already doing. If you come out and ask, it kinda kills the mood and might make her uncomfortable if she is afraid to tell you she isnt ready.
2006-08-02 19:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by LovableLibra84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just blurt it out... if you do, it will just make her uncomfortable. You just need to start out with kissing and move on to other more intimate touching and then go a little futher etc... for heaven's sake please don't rush things... let them take their own time and course... if she is ready then she will respond and encourage you to go farther, sex is not a race. If she isn't ready for sex just yet, you could introduce her to different ways to achieve the same results. Good luck.
2006-08-02 19:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with lovablelibra ...just move slowly..if she stops you..you know she isn't ready.if you ask for it.it DOES kill the mood....plus..even if she did answer...she'd be pretti focused on your next move..and ..it's pretti akward as is....so just take it slowly..^^ it more smooth that way ^^ rather than that...question shoved in there. =P
2006-08-02 19:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by iD2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her if she wants to have sex.
2006-08-02 19:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm get her drunk? no, seriously, that's sooo rude. if you are ready for "the next step" then you should be able to bring it up just as easily. just ask her if she's ready to be more intimate with you.
2006-08-02 19:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow the Girls what they had suggested, its their body they knows better how to use it.
2006-08-02 19:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Taurian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask and if she dont put out dont go out with her again
2006-08-02 19:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by tattoo282001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋