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Notice that men repent their actions, but repeat the behavior. can you see the beatings from the men's perspective?

2006-08-02 12:18:45 · 26 answers · asked by labo 2 in Family & Relationships Family

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There's no reason for anyone to get abuse (male/female). Many men still see women as property -- when they get married -- that woman is "theirs." Both the man needs help and so does the woman who continues to let the man beat on her.

2006-08-02 12:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

There isn't a justification!

Beating anyone has no justification! The man that beats a woman does so because he is weak, without morals and a coward. Call him a male, but not a man.

I too belong to the male species, and it is often with a heavy heart, out right embarrassment that I look females in the eye.

The travesty that males heap daily upon females is of an enormity the defies definition. Just the questions that some ask in this forum defies decency, understanding, and the wherefore comes the well from which such sordidness springs.

I implore all ladies, if you can, take martial arts, you do not need brute strength to win, clothe your body, offer nothing to the male, he is nothing but a big in the garden, trampling flowers under his hoofs, and routing what ever his penis Can find.

That includes you, your sister, cousin, girlfriend or your mother if he catches her naked!

You have heard about us over and over again in the news, young females, children, in their homes, on the way to their car, while running in the park, where ever, how ever.
And when you said no to our rape, we beat you, lie in court, and even the male judge helps us against you.

Females are nailed on the cross of mans cowardly violence,
for the sake of what they have between their legs, every hour, every minute, every second of every day!

2006-08-02 19:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't they usually repeat their own experience? (They were beaten or saw their fathers beating their mothers.) At least that is what a lot of people think. I think you are on to something though. There's something more to it. I think they lack self-control, and often because of alcoholism and psychological immaturity they haven't developed a way to manage their rage. It could be genetic in some way - a faulty self-control mechanism. Every time they do it they feel guilty, but the adrenaline rush the next time they get angry over-rides their self-control and better judgment. They feel helpless too about controlling their situation, and it's one way they can take control. I imagine though after a few times, the inhibition from guilt begins to wear thin. It becomes more and more difficult to have restraint (especially if alcohol is involved.) One more problem with this release of rage through violence is that sex and anger are very closely linked in our limbic system in the brain. It's like saying love and hate are two sides of the same coin. This makes it even more dangerous to allow someone to continue to vent his rage in a violent way against people. It's OK to let it rip in sports or other physical activity, so a really bad abuser needs to get professional therapy quickly! Personally, I am a woman and married happily for the second time. My first husband was a rather severe alcoholic, and probably could have been prone to violence, but rather than beat me, he sent me to bed early (in a separate room.) It was a wise choice, because if he had beaten me I would have had to do one of two things - either try to kill him or leave him forever. Probably he knew I was half-crazy that way, so he never tried anything. It's tough to try to understand how violent men think. I hope some of them will e-mail you personally to tell you about it. That would be better than posting it openly here for all troubled teens to mimick. I hope you are OK, and if your own situation is troubled by violence, please go get therapy or help of some kind for yourself, even if your man won't go. I know it can be hard even getting out of the house sometimes, but you need to take some steps for your own protection.

2006-08-02 19:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0 0

No. Any man who beats up on a woman is weak and has major self-esteem issues and needs to have some desperate sense of control over someone who is physically weaker than him. Any man who physically abuses a woman is a WIMP. There is NO justification for that.

2006-08-02 19:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

What a bunch of crap T.B.!! Women are no more evil than men are.

Men who abuse women have very low self esteems and it comes out in their fists. It also gets past down from generation to generation quite often.

2006-08-02 19:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly_from_Texas 5 · 0 0

It' ssometimes learned behavior that they have learned form their father's beating up their mother's etc. Also if a man feels like he can't stand up to a man and he's a punk he will go after woman because woman are not as strong as men.

2006-08-02 19:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by lifeislove 3 · 0 0

I think it's out of frustration. Guys tend not to be as verbal as women are- when it comes to expressing their feelings. & they tend to "clam up" under pressure - which makes the problem worse. Physically "lashing out" is their way of releasing that unhappiness- which they quickly repent for because it's been released & they don't feel that way anymore (until the NEXT time it happens). Obviously this is a vicious cycle- and Counseling is the only way the guy is going to be able to learn how to handle it.

2006-08-02 19:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0 1

Most men don't abuse women physically.

If you are observing abuse you need to report it to the police. Beatings are not something that anyone should ever tolerate.

2006-08-02 19:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Alan Turing 5 · 0 0

You are surrounded by the wrong type of men.
Indeed many men are weak and insecure, and it takes ages for some man to grow up.
Still there is hope, there are other men as well.

2006-08-02 19:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by Chri R 4 · 0 0

most men wno beat women have seen their fathers or their mothers boyfriends beat them and didnt see their mothers fight back,so they think thats the best way to control them,had these mothers fought back and put a hurting on them and put them out the house, her boy wouldnt be beating his women, also some men are just born mean.

2006-08-02 19:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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