we've been fighting for months and she has her whole side of the family against me. i want nothing to do with that church. its utterly corrupted, and i have so much evidence to back me up along with several pastors. She just wont back down.
2006-08-02 12:14:57 · 34 answers · asked by S L 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just tell her it is a closed topic firmly and respectfully state your opinion and just tell her that is the choice that you have made and it is no longer up for discussion.
2006-08-02 12:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In spite of all the current problems within the Catholic church, it's wrong to just leave.
As long as there's still valid sacraments and regular Mass (and there is) there's no better church on earth for you to be in.
If you don't understand this, than perhaps you haven't yet come to fully understand the Catholic faith.
It's not dependent on having all good priests or all good bishops. God can make do with whatever he has to work with. And if he can, so can you .... until all things can be restored.
Change parishes if you need to, but don't quit.
Many of the problems occurred specifically because the faithful did not fully participate in the life of the church, so when things started going wrong, nobody was around to notice.
I you're a Catholic and you lived during the last 30 years or so, you (and all Catholics) are partially responsible for the problems, too.
You can leave if you want, but if you choose to simply cut and run, instead of earnestly working and praying to help restore God's church, you're missing out on the faith opportunity of a lifetime.
God will give you the answers you need. Ask him what you should do. Leave the others out of it.
God bless you.
2006-08-02 15:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are young enough to live in your mother's care, it may be that you will need to attend her church. You can go and appreciate the music and meditate during the rest. When you become the age at which you make your own living and move to your own home, you are certainly free to have nothing to do with any church. Many people attend a church and do not practice the faith that is preached within that church. Stop the fighting and take the high road until you are on your own.
2006-08-02 12:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem with my mom when I made the decision to abandon the catholic church.
At first it was the topic of many many fights and arguments.
I realized though, that it takes two to argue. What I finally did was go to my mom and state plainly, firmly but RESPECTFULLY what I beleived. Let her know that I was not going to be attending Catholic church or be involved in Catholicism in any way. Then I told her that I did not expect her to agree with me- she could believe whatever she wanted and think whatever she wanted about me, but I did expect her to respect me. I have children so I had big problems with her stepping over the line with my kids.
I let her know that I wanted to have a relationship with her and I wanted my kids to have a relationship with her, but if she refused to show respect to me and my children and uphold mine and my husbands authority regarding my children then I would not e visiting with her. At first she was really angry and refused to ocme to my house, then she cooled down and would call and visit again but occasionally she would make a jab or remark to see if she could stir something up. Most of the time I just let it pass as if I did not hear it- if she pressed I would remind her that this was not a discussion I was going to have with her and ask for respect, if not, I would hang up the phone or go home (not angrily) she will get the point soon enough and things will go better. My mom rarely brings it up any more because she knows she will not get a reaction out of me and the conversation will go nowhere .
2006-08-02 12:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you live on your own and pay your own way you have earned the right to make these decisions for youself. It will be easier if you just take the high road and just brush off bad conversations and arugments about it and resist the need to convince your parents and family that your view is the right one. It will never happen.
When your family members start pestering you, just find an execuse to get off the phone or change the subject. Make up anyhthing and don't worry if it's believable. You can actually say "Someone's at the door I have to go" every single time she brings it up, eventually she'll get the message, but NEVER expect her to respect your decision or agree.
2006-08-02 12:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're under 18, you should support your parents' religious choices to the point that they do not violate your personal sense of well being or are abusive. This is the easy choice. All the things you have to make a stand on, religion is the toughest to broach with ones parents if they are religious. Give it time and get out on your own.
If you are out of the house and on your own, then tell her how you feel and you want her to lay off or you will stop communicating with her. If you're living on her dime, respect her wishes as she has the goods on you financially and the least your deadbeat self could do is go to mass now and then. Be glad she isn't baptist.
2006-08-02 12:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel. I was raised catholic and i also think its corrupted. Just tell them that they cant make you have something to do w/ catholic church. Say that you dont b lieve in it and u would b a fake if u went. You go to church for your b liefs not b cuz some 1 forces u, and if she cant under stand that, u tell her thats sad and god wouldnt want u 2 do that.
2006-08-02 12:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by =)) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being raised Cathloic myself, I can say that there is nothing you can do to convince her of your beliefs. I too have rejected the Catholic Faith, but only let that be known to people who feel the same as me.
The best thing you can do is agree to disagree and don't bring up the subject of religion. If it comes up just smile and try to bring something else up. Get her sidetracked on another topic.
I like to say that "I have my opinion and you have yours lets keep it at that. It does not mean that I don't love you, just that I see things differently."
Religion and Politics are a matter of opinion (sometimes a very strong faith) and an argument that can not be won, so just don't discuss it.
2006-08-02 12:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by jenstar1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Human there is corruption everywhere. You can't judge a whole religion on a few bad people. God and Jesus are perfect and we here on earth just have to do the best we can.
My daughter feels like you and I guess I feel like your Mom does. Religion is SO important and we feel like we have failed you in some way by you not sharing our beliefs. I pray all the time for my daughter and hope she changes her mind.
Moms and Dads care about you more than anything and we want what's best for you. Being Catholic is an important part of our life and we want you to share that.
There ARE good Catholics and bad people in EVERY other religion. Give us another chance. : )
2006-08-02 12:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be patient and kind to her and her family and avoid fighting it may leave scars that you don't want. Don't you fight anymore over it and when you see her starting one just respectfully walk away. She cares very much for you and (fears) for you ( there is no reason to ) but she don't know that. Maybe after time you two will be able to have a good calm talk and you can share with her the things you believe.
2006-08-02 12:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an adult, tel Mom that you are grown and able to choose your own faith. The pastors that back you up on the corruption of the Catholics may be more corrupt themselves; don't let pastors think for you...God gave you freewill and a marvelous brain.
2006-08-02 12:21:44 · answer #11 · answered by Roxton P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋