Am I a Bad G.F?
Yes, it's True. i keep on Breaking up with him and then asking him back out, what am i supposed to do. i mean he is a really great guy and everything, i just can't stop. i try and try again, i even asked his cousin. no help. i get mad at him even when he goes to baseball games. i kno, i am such a bad G.F. i love him to death and i don't kno what to do. so can you all help me. like tell me what can i do to stop this. oh and by the way, he had a surgery on June 6-06 and he's getting another one on Aug. 14. so now what do i do? oh, and lately i've been feeling like we'd be better off friends. so yea, what do i do?
2006-08-02 11:30:56 · 11 answers · asked by ReY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There may be immaturity at work here. You have made an important steps - realizing you have a problem and asking for help.
First you need to identify what it might be so you can fix it: You are indecisive and jealous.
These are areas you may wish to address going forward. You will need to correct them to have a long lasting mature relationship.
You may always have those feeling but you can BEHAVE as if you don't.
2006-08-02 11:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen my friends go through it before. They fall in love with him, but the second that he offends them, he's out the door. When you pick up a boyfriend again, the chances of the relationship working out start to slip away, so you'll find it harder and harder to be boyfriend-girlfriend.
When in doubt, stop asking him out.
If a relationship ends, then ends again for the same reason, it's obvious that you two just aren't meant for each other. Your idea about staying neutrally friends is a terrific idea, though. Many people break up for all the wrong reasons then hold grudges, but remaining friends can help you in the long run.
If you find that you two have remained friends for a long period of time, but want to go out again, give it another try. Chances are, the new level of maturity and friendship will help your relationship soar.
Meanwhile, during his surgeries, stay with him, make him feel comfortable, and be a friend when he needs it the most. Also, save the drama for later when he's feeling better. You'll both be hurt if anything happens to the relationship during tough times, and you'll probably ask him out agian just because you feel bad about it.
So, in short, don't ask him out again until you both have been friends for a while. That way, you have better chances of having a serious relationship later on.
-Lella^_^
2006-08-02 18:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be a high maintenance GF, not necessarily a bad one. If you keep on breaking up and gettig back together... One day he will decide he's done playing the game and tell you no. What will you do then? Being indecisive is not a great quality to have! Alot of women are...true... but you seem to be in excess! Make a decision and stick to it. Quit messing with his head! You may not realize it, but you are keeping him on an emotional roller coaster... he's gonna want to get off the ride soon sister!
2006-08-03 03:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cija 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep asking yourself why you want to break up with him in the first place. If he's a great guy and you love him like a friend then it's time to tell him. Let him know what a great guy he is but that your love for him is for a deeper friendship rather than relationship. Also thank him for the good times you guys have had and now you're in a place where you'd like to explore dating other people. I would do it after his surgery that way he can focus on his recovery. Good luck!
2006-08-02 18:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here is the deal. This has nothing to do with being a bad girl friend, it has to do with you not sticking to choices you have made. Do you and him a favor and make a final decision and stick to it. If you decide to be with him, then there is no breaking up unless your willing to never see him again. If you decide that your better off friends then make it distant friends and start looking for a new boyfriend. Going back and forth only hurts you both and ruins either of your chances for finding real love.
2006-08-02 18:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why ise he having so much surgery here hons are you doing more than breaking up with him and are you using a baseball bat on him is that why you kep dumping him and going back for more?? you might try just dumping the guy you have nothinh here in commonn etc, something here isent right, your mind is telling you no dont want him let him go you are abusing him over over bye dumping him one of these days hes gona snap and never come back break it of klean here, this relationshipp is over like the old carly simon song goes its just too late we tried---good luck daveey steviee
2006-08-02 18:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gather up all the girls that are your friends and get them to go pay him a visit and tell them to be extra nice to him.you get out of town and find you another man that only wants to use you and one that is not so nice.This way your bf will be happy and you will not have to worry about what anyone thinks and also when you decide to break it off with this new guy,well you will be dumping a looser so your problem is solved
2006-08-02 18:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by joshd1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex gf does the same thing to me. Loves me but breaks up then loves me and breaks up. You better get your head screwed on right with him or he will do what I done. Tell you he is through with the games and move on.
2006-08-02 18:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him talk to him about your problem. but if for now you are feelibg bad out of his surgery, pity is NOT the answer. talk to him it will work.
2006-08-02 18:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Reinalove. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay by him. u don't have to be in a relationship but u can't leave him now
2006-08-02 18:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋