I mean, I loved my mom before I turned...12. Then, all of a sudden, she changed. I'm almost sure it wasn't me. I can't keep my door closed, and I'm constantly in trouble for stupid things like cussing. What happens? Anyone? I'd love for a mom to answer this.
2006-08-02 11:28:41 · 6 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, misunderstanding. I'm NOT twelve. Mom started changing when I was twelve. I'm older than that but younger than 18.
2006-08-02 11:41:33 · update #1
1. You still love her. You just don't like her.
2. She still loves you. She just doesn't like you.
3. You think you're an adult.
4. She still thinks you're a child.
Welcome to puberty, and adolescence. This can be painful for all concerned, or just painful for you, depending on how much your mother wants to torture you.
Do keep in mind a couple of things...
1. The hormones are starting to rage through your body. This means your mood and your ability to make good choices is not at it's peak. This will calm down as you get a few years older.
2. Your mother really does run your life...she makes sure you have food, clothes, a roof over your head, and all that other stuff. You really owe her for that...because some day you'll have to do that for yourself and you'll be appalled at how much it costs to support yourself.
3. Some day, you'll want to be friends with her again..and if you're too much of a pain, it's not going to happen.
4. She also gets to decide when you date, where you get to go, what you get to do, and when (if ever) you can drive a car at 16. Pissing her off...not the best idea.
All of this is excellent training for what you have to deal with when you get a job and marry....you have to learn to get along, take directions from people who are in charge, and figure out all of that stuff to make it in school, work and relationships.
(*hug*) All I can tell you is...that it isn't going to be easy...and you need to learn to talk with your mother...not AT her...drop the tone, and the 'tude....and life will improve.
I feel so badly for both of you...but it will get better...really.
Mom to a 25 year old...and we both survived her puberty...YIPEE!!
2006-08-02 11:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Ok- I am a mom. An OLD one. But once I was a young teen and I didn't get along with my mom either! THEN, I had two sons and we, also, had our moments when they were teens.
And here is why... the job of every teen is to figure out who they are going to be, what sort of person. AND, their other job is to separate from their parents and become an adult. SO, in my opinion, that is why we don't get along during those times. If you were toooo close to your Mom and Dad, it would be very hard to leave them when you were old enough to be independent.
And here's a little tip for your Mom. No matter how "ugly" they act, we, as the parents must continue to love them and hang on to the relationship because some day they will be grown and we will be SO glad that we are their Mom.
Best wishes!
from a grandma-aged person
2006-08-02 18:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I myself am a mom, and I think she just wants what is right for you. Cussing on a 12 year old just doesn't look right. And for the door thing if you are like me at 12 she don't want you snicking out the window. (Even in the middle of the day) But as you get older you will realize the things you thought were stupid weren't so stupid after all. She does it all because she loves you.
2006-08-02 18:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by mmjuarez4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it works both ways. you need to listen to her and she needs to listen to you. mostly communication needs to be understood. before you were a teen she knew how to hold you close and let you know that no body will hurt you. before you were a teen you only knew that your mom was always there to hold you and let you know no one will hurt you. now your both growing older and its a different meaning and phase something you both need to get to know your new language and understanding it. its just that this time it involves trust, honesty, and loyalty. its what every family needs and it should be studied more before being put to the test. talk to your mom, let her know that you can trust her and that you have so far and that she needs to trust you because its what she has shown you. dont cuss, thats disrespectful to your parents, do it while out with your friends. your mom dont need to hear that.
i am a mother of three girls and a boy, they arent teens yet but i just talk to them alot about life and my experiences hopefully they learn from that. i hope thing work out between you both because when things get really tough no one can help but your mother.
2006-08-02 18:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by ???? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mom and this is how I see it. Simply put, teenagers think they know everything and parents forget what it's like to be a teenager.
2006-08-02 21:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) She did not change, you are going thru puberty - you are changing and will continue to for years.
2) Parents get mad because teenagers think they know everything and usually do not have the respect to just shut their mouths and listen.
2006-08-02 18:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋