I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant. Back when I got pregnant, my husband and I were having problems and ended up seperated. It looked like we were heading for divorce, and we both "dated" a little on the side. Well, I'm pretty sure I ovulated on the weekend, and had relations with the man I was seeing on Wednesday. We didn't have sex, but he came near and on that entrance. But my husband and I started working things out kinda suddenly and decided to get back together. We had sex that weekend. I figured that it was my husband's since tracking my ovulation has always been my only way of predicting my period. Even though it wasn't serious with the other guy, he and I agreed that we would take the consequences of our actions. I've been in contact with the other guy and he just seems to accept that the child isn't his. Again, I'm pretty sure it's my husband's but I keep wondering about the chance that it isn't. Should I just let it go like the guys, or should I test?
2006-08-02 11:17:35 · 11 answers · asked by mayanapocolypse 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh, sorry. I was running out of room. Yes, my husband knows I still have contact with the other guy. He's become a pretty good friend, and since my husband and I started working things out, I've only been interested in him. I think the only reason I started fooling around with the other guy in the first place was because I missed my husband. I know that doesn't make sense, but I guess I kinda lost my mind and was desperate to fill that void.
To the person who mentioned: He didn't come inside, but I know when a guy ejaculates on you, especially at the entry to the vagina, then there's still a chance for sperm to get inside. A little semen may have gotten in too, which would give them more access. It's a slim chance, but I'm worried because there is a chance nonetheless.
2006-08-02 12:13:52 · update #1
Since you and your husband are back together again, except for family history in case it was the other guy, there seems no point in stirring up a hornet's nest.
Good luck!!
2006-08-02 11:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship will NEVER work if it isn't based on trust. If you haven't told your husband what happened with the other man, then you had better soon. What do you mean "you didn't have sex, but he came near and on that entrance?" Either his sperm went it or they didn't. I hope that this baby is your husbands. As far as having contact with the other man, does your husband know? If not, how hard are you really trying to work things out?
2006-08-02 19:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay...here's my suggestion. Given the fact that you and your husband are taking this seriously and working on getting abck together. i say keep your mouth shut. you can get a DNA test without your husband knowing anything. only have your husband tested if the only other possible man was the guy you were dating. If it comes out your husband is the father, you have no need to worry. However, if it come out as your husband is not the father you will know it is the guy you were dating. Then say something to the both of them.
2006-08-02 18:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely it is your husbands. But since their is a slight chance it could be the other man's then I would get a test. I just think if you don't get a DNA test done you will always wonder who the father is. You want to know 100%.
2006-08-02 18:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for medical reasons you should do the test be honest with your husband and the other guy. THings happen if you want it to work with your husband you've got to tell him. You don't want it to bite you in the butt a few years down the road good luck
2006-08-02 18:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk it over with both of them, and then make your decision from there. if the other man is willing to just "step out" of the matter (even with a slight chance of the baby being his) and your husband is willing to step up, then let it go. no matter what the desision is, make the choice that will the best for the baby, you, your whole family. good luck.
2006-08-02 18:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by ravenshadoweyes3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it, the chances of the baby being the other guys are soooo slim its not even worth stressing about, the baby is your husbands.
2006-08-02 20:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't about you, your husband, or the other man. It's about your baby! He/she deserves to know who his/her father is. As soon as that baby is born get a paternity test.
2006-08-02 18:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should discuss the situation with both of the men, and from there decide where you want to go with it
2006-08-02 18:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can still get pregnant that way i would have a DNA test
2006-08-02 18:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋