2006-08-02 11:04:49 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
What are you a doctor of for Gods sake!
Tell them the truth but diplomatically because we are all over protective of our little ones
2006-08-02 11:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
being a mom, the first thing I would say not to do is confront the parent in a "you don't know what your doing" kind of way. Ask if they need help in getting whatever is being done, done. You know, let the parent know you want to help or at least be helpful before you tell said parent that their kid is a brat. I believe all parents know (whether they admit it outloud or not) if they have a bratty child that needs to have their butts smacked or a well behaved child that gets all the praise from other non related adults. I also think that telling a parent that you really don't know well or at all that their kid is out of control will just cause said parent to react in a bad way. I have always tried to play on the mom's "what can you do" side and usually more control is fast in coming.
2006-08-02 11:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Slam64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a really good mate and can talk about most things, then you should be able to bring it up - they will probably be crying out for someone to rant their frustrations too and get some idea on what to do!
If however you dont know a person to that level, parents are very protective over that kind of stuff, and can take it as a personal attack on parenting skills, so you will need to be really careful, to the extent of keeping your gob shut!! lol! I dont mean that in a bad way at all - just telling you how it is!!
You could just try distancing yourself a bit, but then you risk distancing yourself from your friends - mate - you got a hard one here - i wish you lots of luck.
I'm not helping much am I??! :o(
2006-08-02 11:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Moi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's never a good way to give 'news' like this; I don't believe that the parents haven't noticed, so they must be ignoring it. So what you are saying will sound like 'I have a problem with your childs behaviour and therefore your parenting skills'.
I think the best thing to do is be direct and to the point, especially if the parents are wishy washy and try to change the subject. Just say it - then duck. If you have to ban their kid from visiting your home or whatever, just do it, say why. And don't be talked out of it. Its your home after all, not theirs to smash up.
2006-08-02 11:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that their child is a handful. The parent should be parenting, not letting the child control them.
2006-08-02 11:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the King of the Hill episode where the new, out of control kid moved in next to Hank and became his bully. His parents thought that he was just "expressive".
Unless the kid is bothering you or your kid, maybe you don't.
Find out if the parent is having issues that has distracted them to the point where they don't realize their child is a little monster. Most people will react better to concern for them, than criticism of their offspring/charge.
I would correct the kid verbally, in a kind tone of course and then look at the parent. Most won't like this, but it will let them know where your tolerance level lies.
If all else fails, I would have to distance myself from them, of if I really love them or the kid, I'd have to reminisce how that kind of behaviour would have got me a look from my Mother that would have set me straight REAL fast.
2006-08-02 11:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by xamayca.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not a good idea to tell another parent how to bring up their child.
Chances are if their child is out of control, then the parents are likely to be out of control too.
There is nothing you can do about it really.
2006-08-02 11:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by midnightfolkuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tactfully, don't be accusing, casually mention that the child looks like a handful, if they laugh it off use a i know a child who was etc.... Don't dish out advise unless you've got your facts straight.
Be kind parenting is not easy!!!
2006-08-02 11:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not something that you can tell a parent...they will defend their kids. Send an a tape of Nanny 911 in a unmarked envelope. Good luck
2006-08-02 11:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, " Hey your child is out of control"
2006-08-02 11:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they need to reinforce who the boss is, the child shouldnt contro the parent, tell them nicely that their child does not obay orders that they should do something about that before it gets worse
2006-08-02 11:08:21 · answer #11 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋